Double-barrelled surname. To correct people?

[Daybydaybyday87]

Hello,
I know this is very insignificant in light of what's happening in the world at present but it has been an irritation of mine since my son was born. He has a double-barrelled surname (let's say Peter Smith-Jones, for example. Not his real name!) and some people consistently omit the Smith and write Peter Jones on envelopes of cards etc. It always irks me as it isn't his proper name!! When we sent birth announcement cards out we put his full name on there yet many relatives will still get it wrong. I'm always conscious of not hurting feelings and not causing offence but when it happens time and time again by the same individuals it gets a bit wearing. For cards and presents he receives he always writes a thank you note and puts from Peter Smith-Jones but yet again they just assume he's Peter Jones. If I'm not sure of someone's surname before writing a card, I'll always check in advance rather than write it incorrectly. A friend of mine has a daughter with a double-barrelled surname but I couldn't remember in which order the names were so I asked. Simple! Everyone deserves to be addressed by their proper name so why can't they make an effort to get his name right? I'm grateful for any cards and gifts he receives and don't want to appear ungrateful by correcting them on his surname but can't see any other way? We've tried telling them in a roundabout way! I have Aspergers myself so would worry about trying to correct someone politely and getting it wrong (as I often do) and coming across as rude. Anyone else have a similar issue with double-barrelled names?

Hear, hear, @Brefugee. Well said.

Keep correcting!

Some people are lazy but in family it tends to be sexism.

My ex in laws who are deadbeat grandparents refused to recognise that I kept my own name on marriage and we double barrelled the kids. Hell they even lengthened a first name as they didnt approve of it

Its hilarious now the kids are old enough for social media and have dropped their fathers name entirely.

Dont let them get away with it.

On a tangent, there’s a child at my youngest’s school with a hyphenated first name (similar to Mollie-Mae) and a triple barrelled surname, with all constituent parts of the surname ending in -son.

OP, the relatives of yours are making a dig about you and your ‘husband’ (I’m using ‘ ‘ not in a judgemental way, just to reflect the terminology you use in the context of you not being married and your relatives knowing so) not actually being married; I suspect they think that you should be and are using this as a not-so-subtle way of passing comment.