AIBU to end new relationship over name error?

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I was seeing someone a couple of months before lockdown started. We’ve continued things as best we can during lockdown but obviously it’s hard not being able to see each other.
On two occasions now he’s called me the name of the last woman he seriously dated, supposedly 2 years ago.
Both times have been after he’s finished a night shift at work so has been pretty tired. The first I laughed off as a slip up but now he’s done it again.
AIBU to end things over this, would you? I don’t know if I’m being overly dramatic.

I’ve been with my current partner for almost 10 years, and still I accidentally call him by my ex-husbands name! 😳

Slip of the tongue , it depends how insecure you are. But I would think it would be pretty silly to dump him over that

I am always calling my kids by the wrong name. I remember my Mum doing the same when I was a kid. She was once telling me off and shouted my sisters name, followed by the cats, followed by ‘oh whatever your name is’. She only had 2 kids you wouldn’t have thought it would be that. She now often gets DH and DBil names mixed up (they are nothing alike in personality or the way they look). I can’t say much though I once called my DH by my DSis name 🤦🏻‍♀️.

In summary it’s a simple mistake to make. Really not a dumpable mistake.

My mum calls me by her boyfriends name all the time. You said the guy had just finished a night shift. Cut him some slack!

I have three sons. They all answer to each other’s names because they’re so used to me getting them wrong or even stringing all three names together! 😂😂

I've been called the wrong name and called someone by the wrong name more than once.

I think it's force of habit after using a particular name for years.

I once called a colleague the name of another colleague I hadn't worked with for YEARS (in a totally different job).

@lockeddownandcrazy nearly every other reply suggests that's not the case lol.

I called my children the cats name at times and vice versa, it didnt mean i loved the cat more.

YABU, cut him some slack if he is tired. If he calls you that while you are having sex that’s a problem but after 2 months dating online... it doesn’t matter that much, just mention to him so he has oportunity to correct his ways.

If it helps, I have been divorced for almost 15 years, have not seen the guy since then, I don’t give a hoot about him, I don’t care if he is alive or dead but if you make me angry enough... I will call you by his name

... and I wouldn’t even notice.

That’s how my son is called by the name of the dog from time to time

I’ve let him off, albeit with a fair amount of teasing. Thanks for all the comments

I used to live next door to a lovely old couple...they'd been married for over 40 years. When I first moved in, the chap was in his drive and he introduced himself to me as Pete...and said his wife was Jenny. I called her Jenny for 4 years! One day, their grown up son was visiting and I was chatting to him outside the house...he mentioned 'Alma' a few times and I obviously looked blank...he said again...'my step-mum, Alma' nodding towards the house. I then realised that 'Jenny' was called Alma and she was his step mum, not mum as I'd thought!

I told him that Pete had told me her name was Jenny! Turns out that Jenny was Pete's first wife and he still called Alma 'Jenny'...she had given up correcting him!!!

I found that odd 🤷‍♀️

YABU My ex called me by his ex wife's name on a few occasions, we are talking years after he last saw her.
It's just an accident

My DH has called me by his ex’s name once, and he was very drunk. It was in the early days and he hasn’t done it since.

Is he being secretive? Is he busy on nights/times he said he'd be free? Is he hiding his mobile? Does he have 2 mobiles? Does he move to answer a text (IE get up and move away from you)?

No to all that, then you ain't got to worry. As those are all "signs" of someone up to no good.

I've called my fiancee the wrong name, and her mum mum.for months kept calling me by the name of my OHs first husband (they'd divorced thirty plus years ago). Names are so easy to get wrong.

Is you name similar in any way to the ex?

This is why most men (and yes I'm being generic) call their OHs babe, darling, dear, sexy, etc etc, it's because we're rubbish with names.

Especially as he's doing this after a hard night's work, and none of the above, then I'd leave it at pure tiredness.

Try making a joke of it.... Oi, I don't burn your dinner! Or whatever he said the ex did badly.

I think it’s odd if he’s been split up with her for 2 years. Sometimes I call dh one of the kids names, etc but we’re all together everyday. I can’t imagine calling him a name of someone id been with 2 year’s prior, but that’s just me

My (now) husband called me by his ex's name the first time he introduced me to his mum. I didn't take it personally. When you have been in a relationship for a long time with someone you get into an automatic habit and say things without thinking. Especially when you are tired.

I used to call DH by my XH’s name when I was cross!

It happens. Have you never called someone by the wrong name?
I constantly address my dog with my DDs name and vice versa..

1. Everyone is on tender hooks.
2. Things are far from the normality we're used to.
3. Everyone has a past..with other people.

If you're ready to drop someone because they called you by a different name..he can probably do without the hassle just now.

I think at the beginning of a relationship calling your new bf/gf by your exes name is completely understandable, he was with her for years so imagine how many times he has called that name, thousands, so it's simply habit.
My Gran used to cycle through every female name in the family before she got to mine, including my mum, sister, 2 cousins, 2 aunties, and my dog!!! Honestly, I was always last, and the family ones were understandable as she saw them more than me but my dog was mine and went everywhere with me so she'd seen my dog as little as she'd seen me?? Who knows how the brain works.
I'd never finish with someone over this, that's crazy, he could be the best thing to ever happen to you, give him a chance.

My boyfriend introduced me to his parents using his ex’s name, and then same mistake 10min later this was 15y ago and we are still together, married, with DC and still in love, so YABU!

I have called my second husband my first husband’s name. I’m not the sort of person who mixes names up generally. I do not like my first husband. But there is still a neural pathway in my brain that has husband = John in it. Second husband could not give less of a fuck.

I'm going against the grain here... maybe I'm a little bit dramatic but I would happily end a relationship if my boyfriend called me his ex's name. Once can be forgiven. Twice? Nah.