AIBU to end new relationship over name error?

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I was seeing someone a couple of months before lockdown started. We’ve continued things as best we can during lockdown but obviously it’s hard not being able to see each other.
On two occasions now he’s called me the name of the last woman he seriously dated, supposedly 2 years ago.
Both times have been after he’s finished a night shift at work so has been pretty tired. The first I laughed off as a slip up but now he’s done it again.
AIBU to end things over this, would you? I don’t know if I’m being overly dramatic.

I’ve called my husband my ex boyfriends name a couple of times - genuine mistake and I’ve been with my husband longer than I was ever with the ex. And I can tell you, I am most definitely over my ex!
I also do the thing of “oh DH remember when we went to the cinema to see ‘random film’” and it wasn’t with him but with an ex or sometimes even a friend!
I just get mixed up easily and it’s probably the case with your bloke too :)

I've accidentally called my DH by my brother's name more times than I'd like to remember! I think it's genuinely a brain fart - unless he's shown through other behaviour that he's still in love with his ex and wants to be with her.

Only you can decide whether it's a deal-breaker, but for me it wouldn't be.

That said, if DH called me by her name now - 17 years down the line I'd be more than a little pissed off

I was stymied a couple of years ago when DP called me the wrong name, it took a couple of seconds to realise he called me his ex wife's name. They divorced in 2004. I laughed it off and he hasn't done it again.
Back in the dim and distant past, long before current DP I vividly remember shouting goodbye Andy as I left for work. Only it was Michael. Names changed although I doubt either man reads this forum and it was eons ago.

A bit drastic OP . I sometimes call my sisters by each other's names but they not ended the relationship

One of my bfs called her DH her ex’s name for a couple of years when they were first together. Their names were very similar with the same first 3 letters.

She didn’t like her ex and she loves her DH so it was of no significance.

A relative of mine lived with her son and his wife and their children. She had all the children well trained to do her bidding and it was very common to hear a shout of 'MichaelAnthonyStephanie, put the kettle on, please!' coming from her room. The children used to joke about only having one name between them.

No, I don't think it's significant or Freudian. I've never actually called my current partner by my ex's name because I tend to call him "love" or something similar (convenient though not actually strategic!) but I have referred to "[Ex's] mum" instead of "[Current Partner's] mum" while talking to someone else in front of him, which I don't think he much liked. It really didn't mean anything!

At one time both my daughters had boyfriends with the same name - one is still with the original BF, the other with someone else, and I'm constantly afraid I'll accidentally call the newer BF by the other chap's name and he'll think I'm referring to her ex! If it ever happens, I'll just say truthfully that it's the other daughter's BF I'm thinking of. It's just like that name became a sort of generic name for daughters' boyfriends (strangely, even my current partner's daughter also has a boyfriend with the same name)!

It happens, I sometimes call my boyfriend my sons name, usually when he’s being stupid or a bit annoying

A bit drastic OP . I sometimes call my sisters by each other's names but they not ended the relationship grin

Ok, AIBU to wind him up mercilessly when he wakes up this afternoon?

Oh god. I dated two guys one after the other, both had had their dads die (boyfriends were late 20s/early 30s so quite unusual). The second guy, I'd been dating for about four months and we were talking about binge drinking and i blurted out "well your dad died of alcoholism so I can see why you feel that way".

He hadn't. That was the other guy. I was horrified and apologised, but obviously it's not something you want to talk about in detail in the early days so I just got mixed up. Must have stung him hard though

Dear MIL sometimes calls DH by his nephew's name. I think she still loves him.

It's a common cognitive error. I would let it go, really, if you like him otherwise.

My granny, even while still completely compos mentis, used to go through my grandad's and both my parents' names and even, once, the name of the elderly toothless (and male) caretaker of her flats before she got to mine!

My dh called me his ex name on 2 occasions when we first got together. He had been with her for 8 plus years and had broken up about 6 months before. I called him my ex nick name once. Anyway we've been together for 11 years, married for 9 years so it worked out in the end. Sometimes it is just a slip of the tounge or a phrase you were use to saying a lot (as in my exs nickname).

Oh Sparklfairy, ouch! Foot in mouth. I do feel for you over that one!

Once I called DH another man’s name. Can’t recall what it was now, but let’s say it was Trevor. I had never dated anyone called Trevor. Didn’t have a friend called Trevor. Didn’t know anyone at work called Trevor. Didn’t know of anyone anywhere who was Trevor. Couldn’t even think of any tv/movies with a Trevor. My DH said ‘who the hell is Trevor’. I said ‘fucked if I know’ and it was the truth. So, no, I would not leave him.

I used to call an old boyfriend a previous ex's name sometimes, or nearly do it (but he sometimes realised), but he thought it was funny as it only happened when he was annoying me!! Think that reassured him how I felt about ex! He also almost did it to me sometimes, I think it's just because these people are in the same brain category

My mil, 6 years later still calls her brother new partner by his first wifes name at times.

When I had been seeing my (now) DH for a few months I accidentally called him my ex DH's name, which was a very awkward moment. I tried to make a excuse which made it worse but I was very shaken by it. He was irritated but as it didn't happen again I just about got away with it. The thing is, it was just a slip, a misfire of my language and it absolutely did not mean a thing, I can assure you. I'm terrible with people's names generally and often call the dog my ds's name or vice versa. Forget about it if everything else is going okay!

As long as he doesn’t do it when you’re in bed together I wouldn’t worry too much. I certainly wouldn’t end it over it.

Working nights sucks, and brain farts are common. I used to get home and stand in front of the kettle trying to work out how to turn it on.

I called my second DH by my exH when we'd only been seeing each other a couple of weeks! I nearly died! He was fine with it. Still together nearly 10 years on.

My ex has the exact same name as DH - I find it enormously useful as it solves all of these sorts of issues...

My mum called my husband my ex-husbands names loads of times and never even noticed that she'd done it. We just ignored it in the end because the only time we mentioned it she was so mortified, we felt bad.

My bf of about 6 months called me his ex’s name in bed immediately after sex once. He was utterly utterly mortified. Never happened again. That was 8 years ago and we’re now married with a baby on the way so I’m glad I didn’t dump him over it

He half referenced it a while ago and I pretended I couldn’t remember as he was so, so upset about it at the time and he looked so relived and said ‘oh don’t worry, wasn’t important’. Oh but DH I do remember

Ltb my dad calls me my mums name and vice versa winds me up. I have also dumped for similar misdemeanours

My mum called me the dog’s name and called the dog my name.

I wouldn’t end it over this.