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To start webcam modelling even though I have radical feminist views?

206 replies

h3av3n · 18/05/2020 18:23

So in the past when I needed money I would do webcam modelling/camshows/whatever you want to call it. I could make decent money from it and also get items bought for me from my Amazon wishlist. During the time I would become really uncomfortable with it, disturbed and disgusted by the men etc, I would feel so sick and empty after a while.

I'm a radical feminist and don't believe things should be like this whatsoever but my hours were recently cut at work and I simply need the money, the times in the past were due to being desperate for money for rent, food, bills and necessities. It makes more money than any job I can do, at my job I get £8.71 per hour but an hour of cam modelling can make hundreds on a good day plus collecting fans which gives the opportunity of additional money and gifts.

It's going to make me feel like shit, also I feel like I'm letting women down by choosing to be part of this and to serve men who are disgusting people. But at the same time I need money for me and my kid. I just wonder if it's unethical from a feminist point of view to do this.

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RuffleCrow · 18/05/2020 18:56

This is silly. Either you'll do it or you won't. Why would you need to canvass opinions when you've already made up your mind to do something you hate?

emz771 · 18/05/2020 18:57

They probably aren’t evil. Sad and lonely possibly - evil unlikely.

I still fail to see how the woman open her legs is any better though?

It’s like a drug dealer - criticising drug users.

SoupDragon · 18/05/2020 18:57

But "you" are the one willingly performing for them. Why aren't "you" disgusting?

WhoCaresAnyway95 · 18/05/2020 18:57

Where do i sign up?? 😁

WorraLiberty · 18/05/2020 18:57

I think a 'proper' (hell yes, I'm deciding) feminist wouldn't criticize you, they'd criticize the economic/structural reasons that make you feel you have little choices

The OP wants to earn hundreds of pounds per hour and get gifts bought for her from her Amazon list.

I'm not sure economic/structural reasons etc comes into that.

Atalune · 18/05/2020 18:57

they are evil

I think you’re way emotionally invested in this. Don’t do it.

h3av3n · 18/05/2020 18:57

Because I am very uncomfortable with this and don't want to do it but feel like I need to

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Nikhedonia · 18/05/2020 18:57

If you did a camshow you would know exactly what I mean by the men are disgusting. They just are. They are evil.

And yet you are willing to satisfy their sexual urges in exchange for money...?

There has to be other ways to make money.

h3av3n · 18/05/2020 18:58

Worraliberty did you even read my post? I am struggling severely with money due to my job not giving me enough hours suddenly

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P1nkHeartLovesCake · 18/05/2020 18:58

Well they are your tits if you want to get them out, it’s not really up to anyone else.

People judge you in this life no matter what you do so 🤷🏻‍♀️

I don’t think doing it make you a bad woman, or a bad person. Your selling something someone wants to pay for....

SunflowerSeedsForever · 18/05/2020 18:59

So what do you want?
Someone to send you cash to save you from yourself?

WorraLiberty · 18/05/2020 18:59

If you did a camshow you would know exactly what I mean by the men are disgusting. They just are. They are evil.

So let's take that literally. These people are actually evil but you're happy to encourage them for a fat wage per hour and gifts from Amazon?

Crack on love. You'll all be grand.

Atalune · 18/05/2020 19:01

Don’t titillate! What’s in a can show??

WorraLiberty · 18/05/2020 19:01

Worraliberty did you even read my post? I am struggling severely with money due to my job not giving me enough hours suddenly

Yes of course I read your post.

You want to earn hundreds of pounds on a good day and get Amazon gifts for performing sex acts for people who you perceive as disgusting and evil.

bibliomania · 18/05/2020 19:01

Worra, she also says she's struggling to cover living costs given cuts to her hours. Yes, that counts as economic/structural reasons in my book.

Lifeisabeach09 · 18/05/2020 19:02

The men that watch the shows are disgusting - but the trollops who open their legs for the camera aren’t?

Why are they trollops?

h3av3n · 18/05/2020 19:03

'So what do you want' peoples input on this. I am in a very desperate and confusing situation, I decided in the past I would never do camshows again, it's not that I will enjoy it, I feel like I'm really in a dilemma and am seeking different opinions

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emz771 · 18/05/2020 19:04

Let me ask a question to those supporting it.

If your daughter was struggling would you encourage her to finger herself on cam for random men? I’m sorry to be crass - but let’s call a spade a spade.

emz771 · 18/05/2020 19:04

How are they not Trollops?

Rightbutno · 18/05/2020 19:05

In terms of the videos / images staying online and being discovered. You've already done it so that risk has kinda already happened. So remove that concern and how do you feel?

Summerof699 · 18/05/2020 19:05

If you're a radical feminist cant you earn money doing a job that requires intelligence? Do a college course to get a profession and respectable career?

I have no issue with women making money from sex, but you are clearly very uncomfortable with it and I don't think it's a sensible move unless you want to be haunted by the risk a future parent friend/colleague/neighbour has seen you grinding for cash online.

h3av3n · 18/05/2020 19:05

'Trollop' surely that's very misogynistic?

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Lifeisabeach09 · 18/05/2020 19:06

OP, feminism is subjective and means different things to different people.
You need to do what's best for you and your family, taking into account the risks (if any) to you now and in the future, be it mental health, esteem issues, being found out by family and friends, etc.

PolloDePrimavera · 18/05/2020 19:06

I don't think you're emotionally in the right place for it; you sound like you couldn't switch off, which I imagine you'd need to.
How about asking work to be furloughed?

Lifeisabeach09 · 18/05/2020 19:07

How are they not Trollops?

You used the term specifically. Care to elaborate on what you mean?

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