I have trans friends of both genders. They are great people and I have alot of respect for the way they have navigated their journies to become the well adjusted people they are today. Never having given much thought to my own gender but not having a problem with my sex, I keep out of debate about the issue - I have read alot to keep educated and abreast of the zeitgeist and my concerns about the whole thing come from the fact that while many transexuals are addressing a "being in the wrong body" condition which transitioning will help them address life more healthily, there are also the AGPs whose motives include fetishising the concept of womanhood and have a sexual motivation. That is a big part of the dilemma.
Wholesale acceptance of anyone who says they are a woman regardless of biology allows the second group to make things unsafe for both women and transwomen - women deserve safe spaces for when they are more vulnerable as do transwomen who also don't deserve to be tarred with the same brush as the AGPs.
So much of our lives as women is about always having to be risk aware. Women have to make sure they don't make themselves a target for rape or assault by policing their own behaviour. We have to not go out alone at night. We shouldn't get too drunk. We are still expected to dress "decently". We must be accountable and mindful of everyone else's feelings. We must sacrifice careers and financial stability if we want to be good parents. We must keep our children safe and educate them about risk.
On this one subject, as women well versed in risk assessment, we have voiced concerns backed up by evidence - as provided by PPs - that blanket acceptance of any biological male who says he feels like a woman and therefore should be entitled to previously single sex spaces is likely to open the door to those of a predatory nature who may then be able to call upon laws to validate their behaviour and claim that a victimised woman is actually a criminal bigot - and we are being silenced and told that the risk is minimal.
It is contradictory to ask women to do everything they can to minimise the risk of being harmed and then telling them they must accept a proven and evidenced risk into single sex spaces in order to be nice. It undermines our efforts to protect ourselves.
Whenever there is a serial rapist or murderer at large, women are advised to stay home, stay in groups etc etc. There is never a campaign that says "Men - don't attack women" Or "Men, stay at home and let women live freely".
This for me is the crux of the matter. Even old school transexuals are balking at Self ID which speaks volumes to me.
There are a significant number of people with disordered thinking, overwhelming urges to do things we can't even get our heads round, and this desire to be nice to everyone until they do something really bad is extremely worrying - once again, a number of women will become collateral damage in a war where one small group is determined to trample over the needs of another. It wouldn't be tolerated in any other scenario.
I am not frightened of transwomen - I am concerned that a minority of those using the trans agenda to validate their fetishes will cause harm to both women and transwomen, neither of which is acceptable.