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AIBU?

To be fucked off with OH?

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Aibutobefuckedoff · 17/05/2020 22:22

I’m a key worker and OH working from home. We have one DD (2)Our nursery has shut so OH has been managing whilst I’m at work (4 days) but can’t get much work done done chasing after DD. I’ve been trying to accommodate OH’s work- I do dinner and put DD down as soon as I’m home, I do a big shop on the weekend so Oh can work whilst baby naps, you get the idea, but it means I essentially don’t get a break ever.

Today I said I’d go to the shops whilst DD slept so OH could have some time to work as he said he’d been stressed about some important deadlines. As you know there’s no longer such a thing as popping to the shops, it’s a 30 min queue, etc.

I came home and DD was still sleeping. I put everything away and began some cooking. OH brought DD down and she wanted mummy so we had a cuddle and then I went upstairs to tidy up. When I was tidying our bedroom I found one of OH’s hanky’s that he uses for a wank on the ground-he had obsiously had a wank whilst I was out.

So as not to drip feed, we have not been having much sex since DD was born. I just don’t fancy it and it’s been quite painful for me. I’m still BF DD and don’t want touch from anyone right now. And my breasts used to be very sensual and now they are not at all. OH did try it on last night but I was knackered so nothing happened. He has been very patient and Never pressurises me to have sex. And I know he has to do it whilst I’m out and I’m glad he’s not going elsewhere for it. And obviously he was in a completely different space than DD and she was deep asleep so I don’t find it concerning in that way if you see what I mean. But AIBU to be fucked off that I’m standing in the bloody queue at Tesco’s and he having a wank at home? Especially when he is worried about a deadline? Or is it a fair stress releases?

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saleorbouy · 18/05/2020 00:17

Oh @BubblyBarbara, he's wanking on his own Free Willy, does he need to go to both the Dr. and his wife for a masturbation pass? Poor fella he just gagging for sex, I bet he won't be that keen on procreating now.

Nicknacky · 18/05/2020 00:18

Bubblebu Ah you your point is the spouse with more free time is likely to gave an affair. My H had better give me odd jobs to do then!

theneighbourswindchime · 18/05/2020 00:18

..... who the fuck has Hankies these days???

What's wrong with a tissue??

Are you telling me, he has a wank into a handkerchief and then leaves it in the laundry for you to wash.....???

JasonPollack · 18/05/2020 00:20

Excellent @Aibutobefuckedoff I do love a happy ending

saleorbouy · 18/05/2020 00:20

That's good you can both go to bed smiling, oxytocin everywhere. Bet he loves MN now!

Bubblebu · 18/05/2020 00:22

Nick - again no.

Of course I was not saying that having free time means you will automatically have an affair - of course not how absurd.
I was saying having lots of free time where your OH does not is one factor which makes going off and "doing your own thing" sexually (whatever that may be) much more possible than if you are morning to night busy with domestic obligations.

TehBewilderness · 18/05/2020 00:23

Send him to the shops and you have a nice nap with baby.

Heathcliff27 · 18/05/2020 00:24

Anyone else hearing the tune to Wonkey Donkey

"Wanky Hankey"

Bubblebu · 18/05/2020 00:24

And Nick - if your OH has to "give you chores" to do I would be a bit worried about that - don't you both just take the initiative to muck in together without being "given chores" to do??

Nicknacky · 18/05/2020 00:24

Bubblebu You are talking nonsense. You going to Sunday school is not why your husband had an affair. And none of your posts are in the slightest relevance to the op. He had a wank. He’s allowed to.

Nicknacky · 18/05/2020 00:25

Bubblebu Well, by your theory idle hands lead to affairs so I should be kept busy or I will have an affair!

Giganticshark · 18/05/2020 00:25

Was it a reusable hanky or a tissue? 3ply?toilet roll? Christmas wrap?

Heathcliff27 · 18/05/2020 00:26

Initials embroidered in the corner!

Bubblebu · 18/05/2020 00:30

"I should be kept busy".....

I give up Nick - sorry. It is not a difficult concept to understand that having the opportunity to do something makes doing it much easier. It does not mean you will do it - of course not. But it makes it possible to do it where if you are busy all the time it is much more difficult for this scenario to take place.

And your sarcastic comments that your OH better give you odd jobs are also not relevant to the original post.

Bubblebu · 18/05/2020 00:34

"You going to Sunday school is not why your husband had an affair"

at no point did i ever say that was why he had an affair - there were many many reasons why he did which are not in any way relevant to this thread.
But like the original post he had the opportunity to have an affair where i did not at the time. (the sunday school teacher was female for a starter)

Nicknacky · 18/05/2020 00:44

Bubblebu Of course having the time spare will make it easier to have an affair. If you are actually having one.

But the post is about a husband having a wank. You brought up affairs and Sunday school which have zero relevance and have used it as a cautionary tale. So what is your actual pount in this thread?

Bubblebu · 18/05/2020 00:58

Nope. The original post is as much about an in balance in domestic obligations enabling the posters OH to have a wank, as it is about the actual wank itself.
And my post was also about an in balance in domestic obligations.

And I do not understand your word "pount".

Nicknacky · 18/05/2020 01:00

It was fairly obviously a typo for “point”. And I think that was fairly obvious.

I take my youngest to gymnastics on a Saturday morning (usually). I will send H now so he can balance his domestic obligations and not have a wank or affair.

BrutusMcDogface · 18/05/2020 01:03

Solemnly wanking alone

This has really tickled me grin

Me too!!

Bubblebu · 18/05/2020 01:04

Genuis! then you can spend Saturday mornings having a wank whilst your OH chats up the gymnastics teacher.

BrutusMcDogface · 18/05/2020 01:16

all I could smell from the kitchen bin was wanky hankies

My dp flushes his wankies. Though it’s more environmentally friendly to use a reusable handkerchief....as I do the washing, though, I will NOT be suggesting that to him.

GlummyMcGlummerson · 18/05/2020 01:21

Yabu. Come on

He already did. On the wanky remember

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Bubblebu · 18/05/2020 01:23

Brutus.
I did used to wonder whether there was an element of the deliberate that he chose to put them in the kitchen bin and not flush them - as if he wanted me to know somehow that that is what he had been doing. I could be wrong but i wondered that about the original poster's OH too as he just left it for her to find.

and heh to the idea of an environmentally friendly wank!! adds to the feel good factor!

Namechangerextraordinaire1 · 18/05/2020 01:26

@Heathcliff27 yes I was also mentally singijg "wanky hanky"

OP, I do sort of see what you mean in that you were doing something tediously boring while he got to have a bit of "alone time", but equally I don't really think it's a problem aside from leaving the wanky hanky on the floor, which is gross.

YourWinter · 18/05/2020 02:00

Not reasonable to leave the hanky on the floor, any more so than blowing his nose into one and dumping that on the floor.

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