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AIBU?

To be fucked off with OH?

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Aibutobefuckedoff · 17/05/2020 22:22

I’m a key worker and OH working from home. We have one DD (2)Our nursery has shut so OH has been managing whilst I’m at work (4 days) but can’t get much work done done chasing after DD. I’ve been trying to accommodate OH’s work- I do dinner and put DD down as soon as I’m home, I do a big shop on the weekend so Oh can work whilst baby naps, you get the idea, but it means I essentially don’t get a break ever.

Today I said I’d go to the shops whilst DD slept so OH could have some time to work as he said he’d been stressed about some important deadlines. As you know there’s no longer such a thing as popping to the shops, it’s a 30 min queue, etc.

I came home and DD was still sleeping. I put everything away and began some cooking. OH brought DD down and she wanted mummy so we had a cuddle and then I went upstairs to tidy up. When I was tidying our bedroom I found one of OH’s hanky’s that he uses for a wank on the ground-he had obsiously had a wank whilst I was out.

So as not to drip feed, we have not been having much sex since DD was born. I just don’t fancy it and it’s been quite painful for me. I’m still BF DD and don’t want touch from anyone right now. And my breasts used to be very sensual and now they are not at all. OH did try it on last night but I was knackered so nothing happened. He has been very patient and Never pressurises me to have sex. And I know he has to do it whilst I’m out and I’m glad he’s not going elsewhere for it. And obviously he was in a completely different space than DD and she was deep asleep so I don’t find it concerning in that way if you see what I mean. But AIBU to be fucked off that I’m standing in the bloody queue at Tesco’s and he having a wank at home? Especially when he is worried about a deadline? Or is it a fair stress releases?

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mrbob · 17/05/2020 23:03

It doesn’t sound like either of you are really getting any down time so I am not sure the division of labour is actually that unfair. If he took TEN minutes off I am not sure that is the worst thing in the world...

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Susanna85 · 17/05/2020 23:05

Well. I don't think you're being U. How gross to find a cum soaked hanky on the floor or wherever. Thank god you found it and not the family pet or even worse toddler. Why couldn't he bin it / wash it!!

Yes I see why you would be annoyed that you find yourself rushing around to accommodate as much as you possibly can and instead of working like he stressed he needed to, he's 'relaxing'.

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HollysBush · 17/05/2020 23:05

Probably wasn’t even ten minutes to be fair! A perk of working from home.

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zscaler · 17/05/2020 23:06

YANBU. Its a disgusting habit and if you read the literature there is literally no actual medical necessity for a man to masturbate

I’m imagining bubbly Barbara furiously reading the Lancet through steamy glasses so she can present her husband with a body of evidence in support of the medical superfluity of his wanking habit Grin

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IHopeYouStepOnALegoPiece · 17/05/2020 23:07

BubblyBarbara for someone with Bubbly in their name, you’re a right fucking fun sucker. Go and have a wank and perk yourself up

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Mishmased · 17/05/2020 23:10

Ihope think bubbly said that in jest Smile

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maras2 · 17/05/2020 23:12

Wanking ..... No problem.
Leaving snotty/crusty jiz rag on the floor ........ disgusting. Envy not envy.
Dirty pig Angry

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Thehogfatherstolemycurry · 17/05/2020 23:13

Why do you have to be out?
How do you train him to wank into a hanky?
Do you ask permission to masterbate?
It generally doesn't take that long, he could have been on a break and still got plenty work done.

I do get that you're moaning more about the division of labour but speak up, hand him the child and go relax in the bath/garden/wherever and tell him you're having a break.

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Glitteryone · 17/05/2020 23:15

The wanky hanky left for you to find is fucking vile.

However, YABU to expect him not to do that if you don’t want sex.

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Glitteryone · 17/05/2020 23:16

Sorry do that = have a wank

NOT leaving the hanky! That makes me feel ill.

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Bridecilla · 17/05/2020 23:17

Yabu. I pretended to still be asleep when ds got up this morning so dp got up with him even though it was my turn. I had a quick walk whilst he was making breakfast.

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Nicknacky · 17/05/2020 23:18

“Quick walk”😂😂

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Andi2020 · 17/05/2020 23:18

I would leave it on his pillow

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Candyfloss99 · 17/05/2020 23:18

Did you want to watch him do it or why are you annoyed he did it when you were at Tesco?

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StopCallingMe · 17/05/2020 23:19

Where did you go @Bridecilla?? 😂

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Bridecilla · 17/05/2020 23:19

@Nickynacky ah man, it was definitely better than a walk. I had one of those this afternoon ;)

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Bridecilla · 17/05/2020 23:20

@StopCallingMe Tesco Blush

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Nicknacky · 17/05/2020 23:20

Bridecilla I love that your husband gets to masterbate but you choose to go for exercise. Good choice! 😂

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Healthyandhappy · 17/05/2020 23:21

You dont wanna have sex why cant u help.him.masturbate or oral sex
Other things than just sex x

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timeisnotaline · 17/05/2020 23:21

It’s not at all clear there is an imbalance of labour problem. If the op thinks she deserves a rest for childcare and housework on her weekend & day off doesn’t he deserve a wank for working while looking after a baby/toddler 4 days a week? I know which one sounds harder to me.

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DamnYankee · 17/05/2020 23:23

I think it's healthy he is taking care of himself.

PS. You're allowed a wank too!!

Did no-one else's mother recommend a vibrator when they were 18? And she was a true Southern Belle. Just didn't want me messing about with casual sex.

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DamnYankee · 17/05/2020 23:24

I know which one sounds harder to me.

Bwahahaha!

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Cambionome · 17/05/2020 23:27

Can we at least spell masturbate right on a thread that is all about masturbation??!

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Pogmella · 17/05/2020 23:27

@timeisnotaline something certainly got harder... Wink

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Nottherealslimshady · 17/05/2020 23:28

Wank hanky?! Does he just throw it in with the washing or does he handwashing them himself?

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