AIBU we have always drank alcohol DH is now “giving it up”

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I’m on so many meds for anxiety and depression, I know alcohol doesn’t help, but right now for me it does for me In my mind.
We have been in lockdown for so long, he can wfh, I can’t. Today it was announced no more alcohol, I’ve had a drink tonight but it’s not the same alone.

I haven’t left the house for weeks on end, I’m an introvert, I’m worried about the next 3 weeks.... Aibu to think now is n0t the time to change long standing routines?

Yep, it’s a new day 1 tomorrow, no Adele on though, I’m sitting in silence hoping I can creep to bed without disturbing DH...

Thank you for being so understanding

I didn’t fall asleep till gone 2am last night, tried a sleep app but woke DH keep changing the sounds via ipods he needs to get up and WFH in the morning so I feel guilty when I get to sleep in...

Morning op, hope you are OK today.

Today is a new day. Rebook yourself a meeting, reach out for real life support and don't buy any alcohol today. You can do this.

Please try the quit lit. Alcohol lied to me on audible got into the deepest recesses of my brain and worked its magic. It narrated by the author and as he is a former radio presenter its a really nice listen. He doesn't expect you to give it up at the drop of a hat either but from the off (I listened to a good chunk of it in one go) I realised that I didn't actually want to drink.
I was drinking a bottle of wine plus chasers most nights so it was an incredibly ingrained habit. I think you can get a free book with audible if you sign up.

There's a thread called Brave babes or something like that, that is support for people trying to quit or cut down - you might find it helpful?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3623809-Brave-babes-are-still-here-sping-summer-autumn-winter-There-is-always-someone-around?pg=31

You're going to have setbacks, that's part of the journey. Keep trying with the online AA meetings - your desire to quit is strong, at some point you will step over that threshold and get that support. Don't beat yourself up if you can't do it, just keep having a go at it. Don't get alcohol in, and I'm seconding the quit lit. There's some good stuff there that will speak to you.

And keep posting here, we have your back.

Sounds like you are not ready to quit. I say this as a recovering alcoholic so no judgement from me. I also suffer from severe anxiety and depression. Meds are helping but heavy duty so I just want to sleep all the time. There is lots of good advice here. Alcohol is a powerful enemy. I wish you well on your journey xx

I am so ready, we have both drank tonight as it’s a weekend.

I tried 3 diff zoom AA meetings tonight, couldn’t get with none of them, all reading from the book that i don’t have... I will keep going and start again on Sunday

I hope again I haven’t let anyone down

I can honestly say logging in to a zoom AA didn’t work for me and I tried twice

AA wasn't my thing either but many of my friends have achieved long term sobriety with it. You tried and it wasn't for you.
Definitely keep going with the quit lit.

You haven't let anyone down! You're doing this for you, we're just the support crew.

It may be that AA isn't for you - although not all AA groups are as rigidly wedded to the book. You might want to try these guys www.wearewithyou.org.uk/

It says they also do online support.

YABU.have you got an alcohol problem?

@GingerbreadBiscuits00 read the full thread before posting unhelpful shite.

Thank you pointy especially for having my back. I’ll have a look at your link tomorrow.

DH is going into work tomorrow so that will be weird

Hey, you've not let anyone down! It's totally normal to have lapses - that's pretty much the standard pathway out of addiction. The key thing is to move on from each one and keep on towards your goal, which it sounds like you're already doing, so congrats!