AIBU we have always drank alcohol DH is now “giving it up”

[LennyPugGoat]

I’m on so many meds for anxiety and depression, I know alcohol doesn’t help, but right now for me it does for me In my mind.
We have been in lockdown for so long, he can wfh, I can’t. Today it was announced no more alcohol, I’ve had a drink tonight but it’s not the same alone.

I haven’t left the house for weeks on end, I’m an introvert, I’m worried about the next 3 weeks.... Aibu to think now is n0t the time to change long standing routines?

Aw @LennyPugGoati hope you are ok love, I know it’s hard xx

We can hear it's tough for you. Do you have someone there that you can chat to now. These lock down days can seem neverending and make already dificult situations even more dificult. Is husband there to talk to?

So you've got something to live for, something to keep going for. That's great news. This means that things won't fall apart, even though it feels like they will. Although you probably can't see it right now through the fog of depression.

I have another nosy question - do you feel, yourself, that you drink too much? Do you feel able to say how much you actually drink per night?

chain thank you, I’m so scared, such an introvert , can’t imagine returning to work.
I drink to make things better , I can’t explain it further than that
It’s not poverty or lack of funded....,
I also smoke, it’s helping my anxiety, it’s too much
No one takes me seriously, I tried to take my own life and and failed no one believes me, I’m very clear but can’t manage it

As @changeagainandagain said. I am up because my arm is throbbing like a water pump and it's not going to go away anytime soon

I am still up, will be for a while yet. Largely due to alcohol affecting my sleep patterns.
I agree with PP who have said you have to want to stop drinking - you have to be mentally ready to stop.
It IS a good idea for your health, and deep down you know it is, but it's also your escape mechanism right now.
Keep talking OP, you've got lots of support here x

I don’t-want to stop, everything is so unknown
I’m useless
Such a burden

You would feel better if you got more exercise. You have the perfect excuse not to socialise with anyone when you are out of doors.

I’m sure you’re not a burden, and your family love you.

I’d love to stop, no idea how?

I stopped eating chocolate during lockdown by not buying any, so it isn't in the house for me to eat it. I stopped smoking the same way many years ago, although that came with withdrawal symptoms.

Alcohol is a depressive drug and will make your depression worse. You need to leave the house, even if just into the garden for ten minutes every day.

change I could easily end it all tonight I won’t . It’s such a mad feeling
I’m so exhausted I won’t

Please don’t view my post as attention seeking

I’m watching the news, I never whatch during the day,,, I want to end it all but I really can’t because I have my girls and DH to be here for... not that they need me

You do you but your dp is entitled to decide what he puts or doesn't put in his own body

I don't entirely agree with this.

My DP drinks more than the recommended amount (though has alcohol free days and doesnt get grumpy or stay in bed at weekends recuperating etc...). So whilst it doesn't appear to affect his daily functioning to any extent, he had a crashing depression a few years ago, following major heart problems. Alcohol definitely made the situation worse and this had a major financial fallout affecting me and the DC's because he was self employed at the time. I can definitely see a link between drinking and his mental health.

So, if I see any drifting in his wine intake, I raise it with him as it's a decision which doesn't impact solely on him.

Lenny, they absolutely need you.

I know,thank you,

It’s in the front of mind , I don’t need that elsewhere...

You know that you can always phone the Samaritans, they will listen and not judge.

I used to get drunk with my dh every night. I stopped 3 years ago, he still drinks but doesn't get drunk. It's ok, we adjusted. You can do this but you have to want to.

Alcohol and medication will make thing worse for you, will make you more depressed, and be more morose in the way you think about things.

You should try and not have any alcohol in your home, easy to say I know, but can be achieved. If you have a more serious alcohol problem, instead of couple of drinks a night, then this is a more serious issue to tackle.

How do your meds work with alcohol consumption, have you asked your Doctor? the combination of the two might be the very reason why you are feeling so low..

How much are you drinking OP? No judgement here. I finally gave up drinking 3rd January this year.

Try to get some sleep. Everything feels worse late at night.

@Redandblue123 Your judgement is not helpful.

Hey hey, LPG.

1. They need you and you are enough as you are, right now. You don't need to be better, you need to be here.

2. It's OK to be anxious, scared, terrified. You are human. We all are. Sometimes humans are terrified. This is a scary time.

3. He can stop and you can drink. Both states can exist at once.

You may need to stop drinking at some point. You know that. But you need to keep reaching out and connecting with people first and foremost.

Sorry you are going though this my dh is the same but drinking on your meds actually make your symptoms worse you get into a hole and it's hard to get out