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What has lockdown highlighted to you about your life?

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Ilovetea09 · 09/05/2020 09:24

Morning. I'm on day 54 of self isolation now. We are stuck in groundhog day and The kids are finding homeschool difficult and they miss their friends.
But we have been so lucky with the weather and to have a garden and are trying to make the best of it. We camped out there the other night which was great fun. Something we would never normally do. My husband is still working but when he's home I've noticed we've spent a lot more time together as a family which has been nice. Just doing simple things like playing outside, playing with toys.
We have been getting more exercise than we usually would which is a positive. We are eating less and spending less.

It has shown me how much I love travelling and going to the seaside /or on holiday. I really need something to look forward to it seems! And going on days out and the weekend, we really miss that.

But it's also shown me just how introverted I am, and my husband. My husband has always been antisocial, he had a few work friends /aqaintencies, but he's let them slip away and now has none. He says he's perfectly happy with this as hes never enjoyed friends!
Im similar in that I don't have a large group of friends. I have one best friend who I've not seen since February as she's living at a hospital with her sick baby for at least 6 months. My only other friends are school mums who I chat to at the gate. I aren't sad we haven't got friends but it has highlighted it to me when I see on social media people hosting quiz nights with friends and having group video chats etc.
Lockdown has also shown me how we aren't close to other family members and I don't know if that's a good or bad thing. We all live locally to each other and we saw my parents and in laws every weekend before lockdown . But it was tedious and I don't have a good relationship with my narcissist father so the meetups were never fun anyway. I feel terrible saying this but to not see them has been quite freeing for me. My anxiety around my father has gone and I feel relaxed for the first time in years.
I don't know what our new normal will be going forward after lockdown but I do know that I want to change some things to live a happier and more fulfilling life than we were.
What has lockdown highlighted to you about your life?

OP posts:
Apocalypsebrow · 12/05/2020 22:59

Op,
I have not read the thread but look forward to doing so tomorrow. I'm posting because I'm taken aback by your original post. You have described exactly how im feeling . I assumed I was weird and depressive and alone in feeling the way I do. I'm not ! I'm also an introvert but my adult children and their partners have helped me and my husband through this . A few friends too. My God this time has shown what's real and what isn't. Most of my brothers and sisters have not been in touch . I haven't missed them. So much pressure from society about 'family'. Fuck that. You make family

Apocalypsebrow · 12/05/2020 23:08

Also, I only go once every couple of years but I really miss Italy!
Sorry for swearing above.
I've been swearing like a trooper for weeks

Lynda07 · 12/05/2020 23:32

madcatladyforever Tue 12-May-20 22:48:34
That I'm actually ok alone, all I need is a cat to be happy. I love the empty roads (I've been out everyday as I'm district NHS), the way nature is healing itself so quickly.
The pace of life has slowed right down to how it was back in the 50's when I was a child.
There are too many of us and our priorities are all wrong.
......
Lovely post.

I haven't been out. My cat was knocked over by car and killed a few weeks ago, bless, but I now have a mouse. I don't know what to call him/her - Boris maybe?

Your post has made me want to go out for a brief walk and experience what you have, sounds lovely.

Mummyshark2019 · 13/05/2020 00:26

That I need a garden and hate my busy body neighbours.

Changeofname79 · 13/05/2020 07:51

That we need to slow down once we are at of all this. We have literally no spare time normally and we are all so much happier now, we are still working and kids doing full school days plus music practice still but evenings are mainly free. Not sure how we will achieve this but we need to change things for sure.

There are lots of things we wasted money on before esp big holidays and convenience food/drinks. Now I feel we'd all be happy with UK trips and just visiting people and being more organised with home cooked food (I guess this bit goes hand in hand with being less busy though)

Also that we are really happy all being home together, less arguments with the kids than normal etc. Only thing is that I have become lazy exercise wise which I need to sort out sooner rather than later.

Itsallpointless · 13/05/2020 08:35

@madcatladyforever I second a PP, a lovely post, and one to aspire toSmile

Itsallpointless · 13/05/2020 08:36

@Ilovetea09 thank you for this thread, I love reading itSmile

spikyplants · 13/05/2020 10:08

@Itsallpointless - thank you :) I struggle a bit with the isolation sometimes but at least I have my fiance to provide hugs and comfort when I need them. That's more than what some people have and I do count my blessings here.

On another more mundane note - like other posters I realised just how much money I was wasting buying bits and pieces here and there just because I'd had a bad day - always some excuse. Aiming to save more but I shouldn't be looking at leisurewear and WFH wardrobes Grin

treehugger1 · 13/05/2020 19:00

Despite feeling overwhelmed with anxiety about the future of the world and the powerlessness I have to affect it, I have realised how much money I have wasted on shit.
How relaxing a much simpler life is.
How nice it is to get up at 8.30-9 rather than 6.30-7
How good exercise is for me - an hour every day (and I was the laziest person in the world before.
How great my 20s kids are. Even DS's cancelled wedding has been met with fortitude and pragmatism
How great my husband is
What a wonderful tonic my crazy dog is
How much I love the birdsong, even though the lack of airplanes in the sky causes my anxiety
How much I love cooking
How dirty my house gets - realised my cleaners were amazing
How I can't wait to retire
To be really really really thankful for my good fortune and to never to take my good luck for granted.

Gohackyourself · 25/05/2020 19:02

To realise I definitely need to plan some hobbies for retirement Grin

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