To ask my husband to take annual leave

[MindBoggles]

I'm furloughed - I have two school age kids.

It's been 6 weeks now. If me doing all the cooking cleaning etc and home schooling DH has an office job so is wfh. He's gone down to 80% of salary but still working 5 days cos he's busy.

I've told him I can't cope anymore. My anxiety is through the roof. I'm obese and BAME. I'm not sleeping. I literally wake 3-4 times a night.

I'm doing all the food planning etc I don't know if I'll have a job at the end of all this. I worry about DH job too.

I think he should either actually work 4 days or take time off to just give me a day off.

I feel ridiculous and sure if I could just sleep I would be fine. We have a gorgeous garden and kids never want to go out they want to play indoors (not on screens just dolls etc).

Home schooling is tough. I'm so fed up. I'm so so fed up and everyone is a priority over me - I feel I'm at the beck and call of everyone

Cut down on the food planning. None of you are doing 12 hours hard labour a day. It's perfectly ok to have beans on toast with a piece of fruit for an evening meal one day, pasta the next, omelette another day. Don't spend time making cooked meals every night.

I agree he should be doing more. Cooking some of the evening meals and breakfasts. Alternating the weekly shop on a morning before work starts. Aldi opens up at 8 and can get in and out and home well before 9.

Do you get to go out for your daily exercise?

Yes I go out for daily exercise and I squeeze in some online exercise too.

He's doing Sunday lunch tomorrow and he woke up with kids today

We also let them just play/have screens today. Went out for a walk together - I've also not cleaned so much or put pressure on myself to do loads of cleaning or tidying.

Sounds like you're getting a bit more balance. How are you feeling?

You aren’t coping and need help. He needs to step up- he’s at home so he can help.
He can help get kids up or make breakfast, he can take his turn making lunch and dinner. And I think yes he should take some leave to give you a break.
My DW is working and doing all of that and has been taking a day or half day a week off. At weekends we all help tidy/cook/clean.
You sound as if you’re practically a single mum and that’s not fair in you.

haven't read the whole thread but I think yabu. Most of use do homeschooling and work. So havening one parent who doesn't work makes it a doddle...

and what is the food planning? we eat healthy meals cooked from scratch but I just get some stuff out if the fridge and cook. I don't spend time on food planning as such at all.

Agree, your DH could help a bit more but asking him to take AL when you aren't working is bonkers.

Thanks everyone yes deffo getting more balance - he's been walking around tidying little bits and putting the washing on - think this bank holiday was needed!