To find DH's lockdown beard repulsive?

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I can't get past the fact that to me it looks like black and grey wirey pubes. He knows I don't like it, I've told him it looks all spikey and pubey. I've not gone near him in weeks and find the beard so unpleasant to look at I don't look at DH much at all now. I can't imagine kissing him it makes my stomach turn.

I'm surprise tbh how strong a reaction I've had to it- repulsion really - but in the 25 years we've been together he's never had any facial hair so I've never had to see it before.

I like a good beard. Sometimes makes a man more attractive lol.

His body his choice. He's not doing it for you

Is he going to shave it at some point or is it here for good?

Imagine if a man had posted this about his wife not shaving...

You can tell him that you find it unattractive but its cruel to say repulsive, even if you feel that. Its part of him!!

Well, it's his face so 🤷

Fucking hell. Shallow much.

I've shaved off 28" of hair and my DH would never have such a strong negative reaction to anything I choose to do to MY body.

Well, now you know not to grow a beard yourself, OP.

YABU, it's totally his choice.

My DH knows I prefer him without one but at the moment he has a full beard, I help to to trim it and keep it tidy.

Of course you can let him know you're not a fan, other than that you're reaction is uncalled for.

I love a beard

YANBU my DH grew one a few months ago and I hated it, I actually thought it smelt a bit when I kissed him he eventually got the hint and shaved it off

The bloke over the road has grown a lockdown beard and it's awful - it makes him look like Mr Twit

He's perfectly entitled to grow a beard. You're perfectly entitled not to go near him whilst he has it.

I feel the same way as you OP. He's never had a beard in 25 years of being together but he's decided now is the time. He knows I hate beards and just can't see past them but it's here to stay for the duration of lockdown apparently.

Yes, it's his body and he can do what he likes with it but he has to accept that I find him less than attractive with it. It's scruffy, I catch him sucking or licking at it and he doesn't notice when he gets food in it. To me it's repulsive and if it stays after lock down then there's a strong possibility that I won't.

I am aware that mine is an extreme reaction!

Can't stand beards. I've told my DP several times he needs a shave, we're fairly open about these things, he's not offended...he still hasn't done it though. It's ok to not like it, but if you are struggling to look at him it's probably more your problem than his.

Well I’m not sure what you want people to say on here OP. Personal views on beards?

I don’t like bushy beards, but I much prefer men with a stubble one and DH has that all the time as many ME / Asian men do. I think, on dark haired men, it gives a more defined, masculine look. That’s me. But I’ve no idea whether this beard suits your DH or not.

I think the answer, if you don't like beards, is not to grow one.

And my 17 and 15 year olds have stubble by about mid-afternoon every day too. Are they supposed to run off and shave in the school?

Haha luckily my dp shaves regularly because I can’t stand beards. I can’t care if that sounds shallow.

My son is growing one. It’s very ginger and just at the curling stage. As it’s a different colour to the hair on his head I think he’s enjoying the curiosity factor. Dh made a brief foray and it was very grey (previously ginger too lol). It’s fortunately never got past the stabby stage as I make such a song and dance about how much it hurts. I loathe them. Beards are more ‘tramp’ than ‘hipster’ in my head.

YABU - I bloody loves beards. So manly

I like beards really, but they actually are facial pubes.

Imagine if a man had posted this about his wife not shaving...

My answer would be the same 😂

Yes it's his / her choice but don't expect the other parter to be attracted to it.

I couldn't go out with someone with a beard. I really do find it repulsive.

If I always shaved my fanny and then suddenly stopped I wouldn't blame DP for not fancying sex if he didn't like it. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I find any beard that's past the "stubble" stage utterly disgusting, so I understand where you're coming from. Having said that, I suppose it's his body and therefore his choice to grow one. Absolutely your choice not to anywhere near it though. I had exactly that standoff with DP once during "Movember". He cracked before I did.

I guess I'm upset because I've told him that i find it yuck and he doesn't care.