To find DH's lockdown beard repulsive?

[Blueblackrose]

I can't get past the fact that to me it looks like black and grey wirey pubes. He knows I don't like it, I've told him it looks all spikey and pubey. I've not gone near him in weeks and find the beard so unpleasant to look at I don't look at DH much at all now. I can't imagine kissing him it makes my stomach turn.

I'm surprise tbh how strong a reaction I've had to it- repulsion really - but in the 25 years we've been together he's never had any facial hair so I've never had to see it before.

People’s relationships are different though. My husband and I were always horrid to each other, in an affectionate way, whereas my friend and her husband are always sickly sweet to each other. I’d my husband grew facial hair I’d have no problem telling him to his face how much I hated it and that he wasn’t getting any till it’s gone. And he would in no way have taken offence to it.

You can't help how you feel about it, so no judgement from me there. However, I think the fact that you can't see past it is a very large problem.

Yabu.
My dh looks so hot woth a beard , if he shaves it off I may leave him ..

Dh has also grown a lockdown beard - he’s always had stubble, which I like, but the longer beard I don’t. His face, his choice, but he knows I’m not really loving the face fur.

• It'’s never ok to shame someone into having sex with you It has the consistency of an old school doormat and emanates despair. brilliant! Not Hypocritical at all

Well I wasn’t planning on having sex with PippaPeg’s husband anyway so not really hypocritical is it?

I’m struggling to think of the female equivalent of scratchy hair ripping your face to pieces. If you can think of one, please let us know what it is.

Why does it have to be scratchy hair ripping your face off? Ops objection is that she thinks he looks unattractive, nothing to do with how it feels, so the equivalent would be any change to your appearance. Ok if any man tells his wife that X is repulsive and he won't have sex until she changes it?

I'm not a fan of beards either op, to the point I wouldn't start seeing a bloke with a beard (if I were single). For me it's not about looks so much as I physically can't stand the way it feels on my skin.

Dh soesnt shave every day so usually has stubble, which I'm fine with, but once it goes past that stage and starts to become a beard I can't go near him. I find the feeling on my skin physically repulsive and can't kiss him (I don't tell him I find it repulsive but I tell him that I really don't like the feeling). It's nothing to do with how groomed/neat/soft the beard is I just can't stand the feeling of it on my skin, he knows it so rarely let's it get to that point because he likes kissing me.

Fwiw if a bloke came here saying his oh usually had a Brazilian but had stopped and gone full 70s Bush and he now found it repulsive to go down on her I say he was well within his rights to refuse to go there.

agentdaisy
Of course he'd be well within his rights to be not find something attractive. He'd not be within his rights to use sex as a form of manipulation to get his partner to groom her bikini line to his tastes, which is what some on here are saying is acceptable.

I love them but only if they are well kept. I could quite easily grow my own but am trying not too. My dh was clean shaven when we met but has a small, well kept beard. It makes him look even sexier in my opinion.

I do think you should be able to voice your opinions in a committed relationship and he should consider them but ultimately it is up to him. How would you feel if he said he doesn't fancy you with armpit hair or hairy legs? Would that bother you?