Would you be offended by this?

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A man I know said I was big built and have broad shoulders. No one had ever said this to me before and tbh it's made me feel quite unfeminine and bad about myself.

I am not a skinny woman by any means - size 10, around 5'3. But saying a woman is broad makes me think maybe I must look masculine and unattractive.

"@Gwenhwyfar if a woman's shoulders were broad enough for this to be a noticeable feature she wouldn't fit into size 10 jackets."

I have broad shoulders and fit into size 10 jackets. Sharon Davies could be a size 8, but still has noticeable broad shoulders.

@StatementKnickers - even if what dickhead was saying we’re true, he was still being rude

I'd be flattered, it sounds like you look strong and not like a weedy, wimp of a woman. Come on, this really isn’t ok. It’s not helpful to try and make one woman feel good about herself by making another woman feel shit. Fat shaming, thin shaming, height shaming, hair colour shaming, complexion shaming, etc, none of it is acceptable.

OP, you sound beautiful. Your body type is not a problem. The only problem here is that this poor excuse for a human being thinks that his opinion on your body shape is either relevant or welcome. Your worth is not defined by the opinion of some arrogant dickhead who doesn’t fancy you. The only way to deal with these people is to give them your hardest stare and, in your firmest voice, ask them why they think it’s acceptable to describe an aspect of someone’s body as a problem. Ask them how they would feel if someone described their hairline, or their height, or anything else as a problem. ‘It’s rude. It’s not acceptable. Don’t do it again.’

I would not be offended, as it's true about me.

But why do you consider it a problem? (Because that's what he said, if you read the update.)

@Aridanedid you mix me up with someone else? I said the guy was negging her. No question that he is a rude arsehole.

Models have 'broad' shoulders. It's not the word I'd use about a woman, though.

Tell him he has delicate arms, especially at the top.

I was once called 'chunky' to my face...it's true, I am a bit on the 'chunky' side, but still, it was a bit harsh 😂

@StatementKnickers - yes, I did - sorry.

(it was directed to the poster x2 below you - I blame the lack of glasses in lockdown at Boots the Optocians)

I wouldn't take it to heart if it was true or not.
Some men are great at being honest towards others and can't take the tiniest bit of honesty back.
Plus there's a good chance he was negging you too. It's definitely a thing.

A size 10 is NOT big. Its actually considered small. Typical MN mentality where a healthy size is considered obese.