Am I a terrible mother for hoping nurseries go back soon?!

[MrsMuffins]

Is anyone else reaching the end of their tether with lockdown childcare and hoping childcare settings reopen soon?! DS is at nursery, and even though I’m nervous about the virus, I feel that the overall risk is small and he is missing out on so much - socially especially. He is bored of me, I’m doing my best but he is so hard to keep amused, I feel like I’m just biding time between meltdowns.

I would find it hard having him at home full-time anyway, even if everything was normal, let alone coping in lockdown!

Don't feel bad, it's so difficult right now. I feel like my 3yo daughter is missing out on so much, stuck at home with us all the time. There are whole days where we spend most of our time getting on each other's nerves. It's not natural to spend so much time together cooped up indoors. Even the garden and going on walks is losing its appeal now.

Also anyone who spend their time “cursing out” their kids needs to take a long hard look on the mirror before they have the nerve to criticise others parenting skills. Wow.

I'm not miserable @Russellbrandshair, I think people like you are miserable.

Love that my posts are 'vile' but clearly not giving a toss about your DC isn't.

And what are you, 10? Harry Potter 😂

Oh dear I touched a nerve didn’t I?

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Parents who don't seem to give a toss about their DC because they're finding it tough.

Wow!

I'm trying to work, homeschool a 7 yr old & entertain a 3.5 yr old. DH is trying to work & grieve for a family member who recently died & organise things for a vulnerable relative.

And I said I cuse my DC in the bathroom. I'm quite able to be there without my DC.

@DroppedBoxxedRuth I suggest Vagisil. Apparently it works wonders for irritating cunts.

Ooh, name change fail there eh Ruthie!

Even the garden and going on walks is losing its appeal now.

Ain't that just the truth. The 4 year old has realised walking is boring without the reward of the playground at the end. We've read all the street signs, we've counted all the door numbers, we've found out the names of all the flowers, we've counted all the blades of grass. The rain was welcome this week because he could jump in puddles.

Poor sod just looks at me like this

Also anyone who spend their time “cursing out” their kids needs to take a long hard look on the mirror before they have the nerve to criticise others parenting skills. Wow.

This.

@viciousjackdaw 🤣🤣

Call me a shite parent if you want but I question those who think depriving young dc of social interaction with family & their peers, exposing them to different environments & experiences is a good thing. I know whose kids I feel sorry for...

Have double checked name!

Nothing like a good MN roasting, which in the end, I did deserve!

The best thing about this site is I can take my roasting, NC and come back.a better person

I have a 4 year old (who was in FT nursery till this) PLUS a 3 month old (we went into lockdown shortly after my 6 week check) at home.

It is indescribable - the mental pressures of being postnatal in a pandemic and having the relentlessness of pre schooler and baby ALL the time.

If childcare opened tomorrow I’d send in.

I can see both sides of this, Im a nursery nurse with 20 years experience, I love my job and have been checking in remotely with families to offer support if needed, I will facetime and read bedtime stories to keep up contact.
I am also a severe asthmatic, just missed the shielding list by one course of steroids so I'm really high risk if I do get it. My company has said that I'll be one of the last to return from furlough, but the more people who put their children in 'for a break' the more at risk my life is. I havent left my house since lockdown, not once.
There is no right or wrong answer.
Im hoping that at the same time as we are allowed to go back a few restrictions will lift and there will be ways for children to socialise.
I miss my kids but I'm terrified.

@dietcoker
It’s in Derbyshire. It has stayed open as normal not just for the children of key workers.

@DamnShesaSexyChick no way?! I didn't realise that any could?!

No

It’s not just about the parents having childcare back or the low risk to children, it’s the staff that will be more at risk and their families. So many don’t seem to worry about that whatsoever.

icecreamandcandyfloss

I do worry about that but it’s true of shit loads of jobs. Most key workers are in roles where they are exposed.

Unless the nurseries stay shut till a vaccine, in which case the staff will be out of a job, whenever they go back there will be a risk.

but the evidence isn’t just being drawn from UK studies - we have other countries who are ahead of us by several weeks to look at.

OP, just to clarify, the study I referenced on page 1 was from Chinese children and adults with the months and months of data they have, since you say we shouldn’t just draw from U.K. data and instead look at countries weeks ahead of us...

Me neither @DamnShesaSexyChick has everyone just gone as normal?

I’d imagine though as a nursery or school worker you don’t sign up for these health risks unlike medical workers who know there is a possibility.

Wanting a break from children is fine, putting others at risk to do so not fine.

Dd this morning : "Can we go see Grandad?" No. "Can we go to the beach?" No. "Can we go to soft play ? Ahm, still no. Sorry. It's just shit.

I'm with you, Op.

I wanna say something...but there is no point !!!
Secluding with 3 kids...1 asd and another severely disabled...its a challenge..but my kids are safe here, school and respite staff are safe while my kids are here....hospice staff are safe while my kids are here!
Yes it's a massive challenge....I'm not only a mum, but also a full time carer, nurse , physiotherapist, Occupational therapist, Sensory play specialist....I could go on....but while we are all at home ...everyone is safe!!
Nurseries and Schools already are breeding grounds ...add Covid risk...makes me very nervous! .....but my DS and my DH would not survive Covid ...so I guess I feel different to others !