A.i.b.u to think , fuck it to school work now?

[DollyPartons]

Dd , yr 9 can't be arsed at the best of times , but will just about complete most homework during term time as hates any confrontation from teachers. Started lockdown set homework but as times gone on like pulling teeth to get her to do any. Doesn't take to bribery or jossling. I've tried , a lot. She's just below average, I'm terrified this will plunder more but with no communication from school she's just not bothered . The school have not given guidelines to parents to get them to do the work , no expectations, schools out for summer early?

I’d Grit teeth and do it with her

That’s what I am doing with my reluctant year 7
We share screen and literally study together

It’s a massive PITA but he weirdly likes it and some stuff of getting in

I'm going to email school on Monday. Could anyone advise me if it should be to the head of year/tutor/every subject teacher please.

I think she would prefer to clean a toilet as well

Have you emailed anyone yet? You could email the head of year who will forward the email to her individual teachers. Unless there are specific subjects she is more likely to do then I would just email those teachers instead and ask them for more work on those subjects.

At our school its tutor co-ordinating and then subject teachers as needed. So if you want something like to view the homework as a parent (I got that for SMHW) or anything general it would be tutor, they are also incharge of welfare checks at our school. Subject specific help would be subject teacher though ours aren't always the normal teachers. It should get passed to right person if it's someone different. If you think of what help you would like then maybe ask politely if they are able to help with that. Or explain she's not working and you can't help then that will flag her as needing help.

Does she know what she wants to do in future? You could maybe look up qualifications needed and focus on passing those, 1 English and Maths are required for lots of things. Also I find looking up salaries of jobs can help motivate as they realise the more education you have the more chance you have of earning more.

No! School isn't 'out for Summer'!

I know it's hard but of course she still needs to be doing school work & you need to ensure she is - although by yr9 she should be more or less getting on with it herself. If you're finding things difficult, get in touch with the school, instead of sitting back & giving up.

I say this as a teacher myself - I am working all day every day to support my students AND keeping an eye on my own child's schooling at the same time - he's in yr8 but prioritises the work he's been set & ploughs through by himself most of the time.

If I were you I'd email the head. Our school's headteacher has only had contact from parents saying they've had too much work set, he/she may have no idea that you are having so little contact/feedback.

If she has extra needs at all I think you can send her to school.

rachel, No, that's not strictly true. Vulnerable children, and those with EHCPs can be sent (although many aren't).
A huge percentage of kids have "extra needs" of some sort or another and if they all turned up to school there would have been no benefit to the general public's health in closing in the first place.
Children who "can't be arsed at the best of times" wouldn't qualify, unless there is something the Op hasn't mentioned.

I'm so glad my girls are in their 30s, I was a crap parent and this situation would have shown me at my worst, one would have studied like crazy without any input from me, the other would have spent all day in bed

Honestly had a dc that was more than able but did the least amount of work . I’m not ashamed to say I paid him for every hour of revision he did . Just let to you know he went to uni he got a degree he uses and he is thriving in a job he loves . Got to be worth a go x

If parents are willing and able to pay their DC I don’t see a problem. I always say that school is work for children but it’s also for them to invest in themselves.. They don’t always get delayed gratification so if money works I’d use it. I know many will disagree.

Have you interacted with the school? You have your child/ren to help. The school have hundreds depending on the size. Some are in school with key worker children. Then they are setting work as well as their own families. It's a weird situation but reading your post you seem to pretty much place blame on the school and the ’fuck’ it attitude sucks if you haven't had any kind of contact with the school to ask them for help - and yes it's your job because they are not mind readers. As far as being friends with her - I disagree with it, you can be a friend to her when she's older. She needs a parent, she has friends she can moan about you to, you are there to make her feel safe, love her and teach her how to deal with life.

My son is 7, does he want to do schoolwork? Of course not. Is he? Yes, cause he has to. No ifs, buts or maybes about it.
Your daughter is 14 and, sorry to say it, needs to suck it up and get on with it.
It's a pain her school isn't being forthcoming with coursework for her but tonnes of educational material can be found online and atm most of it is free or very cheap.
If she were my daughter she would do her work or be sat in silence on the sofa with no technology at all. If she did her work she would earn her technology.
There is a high chance our kids aren't going back to school until September so what's your plan? Let her do sod all until she goes back? Potentially have her fail all of her GCSEs? Sorry but that wouldn't wash in my house.
When my son goes back, he will likely be in his first year of junior school. They are set tests in their first week to see what they excel at and what they don't. It's my job to make sure he can pass those tests.