To be sad that nobody has bothered about DD's first birthday

[Roostersmum2]

DD turned 1 today, nobody has bothered to wish her a happy birthday.

I know she's a baby but it's the thought that counts imo. We both could have died at birth and were very poorly. Her reaching her first birthday is something to be celebrated surely.

People are aware. I wrote a post on Facebook incase anybody wanted to send a card. Family know.

The only person who ever consistently bothered with my DC was my dad and he died last year.

My DM told me she would post her a card through the letterbox, leave a teddy in the porch and wish her a happy birthday through the window at 9am but has not turned up and turned her phone off (something she does every time she wants to cancel plans but hasn't got the decency to call and tell me)

My DBro and SIL who I thought would send a message haven't bothered.

Not one family member on DH's side has got in touch.

I don't expect presents at all but a card would have been lovely, or even a little text or Facebook message.

AIBU to be saddened that nobody gives a shit?

Happy birthday to your daughter. It's mine today also

Wow, what a cake! And glad your mum showed up.

Thank again guys, and a big happy birthday to all the other posters DC who share the same birthday

Just to say that my birthday was a couple of weeks ago and because of the way the post is at the moment, I've been receiving a trickle of cards ever since, including one today. So there may well be some on the way.

It sucks about your DM, though.

Oh, should have RTFT. Glad she showed up.

jeanjord you can also buy stamps from newsagents and supermarkets, I get mine from Sainsbury's - I admit that you have to buy a book of 6 though.

Oh. That's really sad

If you want to send me an address. I'll send her a card! And a little something. I'd be really happy too xx

I’m so glad your mom turned up! Happy birthday to your DD

Happy birthday to your daughter. As long as she has you she will need for nothing. X

Op

We're the same. My first was born very early. Weighed a bag of sugar. Had low blood sugar. Spent 48 hrs in the ICU of the neo natal. We had babies hearts stop. Was horrific. I was the. So I'll with a very rare problem with blood clotting. I spent nearly on a year in hospital. My dd spent a long time trying to get well.

It's hard when you and your child nearly die. It brings back memories. I had to have therapy. As I had bad post natal depression with my illness. Which is now life limiting. But nothing could of been done to prevent it.

Hugs.

Happy birthday to your little girl,it's my little girls 4th birthday today too!A day for beautiful girls!
She has you and as long as she does that's all she will ever need!
Lots of love xxx

@Roostersmum2 happy 1st birthday to your DD.
My daughter turned 2 last month and had such a similar start in life to yours then got readmitted a month later with late onset sepsis. When the anniversarries roll around it all gets a bit emotional here too.
Glad your mum surprised you and showed up but even if she hadn't you've made the day special for your daughter (cake and balloons, what 1 year old wouldn't love these!)

I was in your position on Saturday!

My mum sent a card, my grandma managed to get a card delivered, (it came Saturday) apart from my sister who sent me a text no1 did!

I put a post on Facebook, and then obviously some distant members who would not remember wished happy birthday etc but what annoyed me was my in-laws.

Dd turned 2, and on her first birthday last year I ended up having my son who died shortly after birth. So dd 2nd birthday was very bitter sweet because of what happened.. they didn't even send a text (baring in mind we call everyday, speak everyday) and that day Saturday NOTHING. They tried calling me Sunday, but I've ignored them since.

My mil has a habit of forgetting to even wish Dh a happy birthday but they seen the post/whatsapp status

It's just ducking rude.

Honestly I'm livid still. So yanbu

Btw sorry.

Happy birthday to child! And also congrats on surviving the first year!

Happy 1st birthday 🎉🎂 to your little girl. Take photos and make it your own special day for her.
We can't always rely on others to behave as we would like them to. She's got a lovely mum who is there for her. She'll do just fine xx

Happy birthday baby rooster!
Glad your mum turned up.
🎁🎉🎈

YANBU!
How rude
I know you can't have parties or anything, but surely they could've taken two minutes of their time to type out "happy birthday"

Happy birthday to your DD!

Oops, just noticed. I'm glad things were better in the end.

Happy birthday to your daughter! I'm glad things turned out a bit better than expected and hope you have all had a wonderful day 🙂

That’s really pathetic of your Mum. So glad you’ve made it a lovely day for DD.

This is an awful feeling you have to make the best for your family and enjoy their day. I am 20 years in and my family are awful at birthdays and Christmas. Spent far too many days worrying and wondering, now I get on and do my children’s birthday, and enjoy it

@Roostersmum2, so sorry to hear this. My dm did the exact same thing for my youngest dd (almost 3) for her first and second birthdays, the past Christmas for all my kids, my son's 5th birthday that was last week, and I am not waiting with bated breath for a huge show of attention for my eldest daughter's 13th next month either. It's really hurtful, isn't it? Mine has also apparently sent a variety of parcels over the past 2 years that never arrived - forgive me if I don't believe they were ever sent. Do you have any brothers or sisters? My siblings don't appear to have the same issue with their kids, so it is hard not to take it personally.

@SWemily, so sorry to hear that. Even offering the charitable interpretation that they may be afraid of doing the wrong thing, that's still incredibly hurtful for you and your little girl. Happy birthday to her.