I'm so glad others agree, I come on here and read threads like this and think I really must be a lightening bitch....I would never allow myself to be used similarly.
Its actually reminded me of a girl I worked with and was friendly with in work 30 years ago.
She was a lovely, very gentle person, a couple of years older than me, and had been going out with a fellow that had a little boy, he was co-parenting.
He sounded like a very nice guy and they were happy, she liked the little boy, but didn't mention him much.
She comes into work one monday morning and tells me she had finished with him.
Turns out she had gone to his place for the weekend and the little boy happens to be there too, unexpectedly.
Comes the Saturday evening and he tells her that he is nipping out for a couple pints with a fellow he knows is back for the night, and is leaving her to babysit his son....
Is he fxxk😂 is her reaction...she tells him in no uncertain terms that she is not his last minute babysitter, without so much as a bye or leave, the courtesy of running it by her🤨
She was so quiet and sweet.
Boy, was I seriously impressed with her boundaries.
She left his house that night and despite his appeals and apologies, she wouldn't go out with him again.
She said she wasn't prepared to be involved any longer with someone who obviously had so little respect for her.
Remembering her now, I'm again impressed with her boundaries, this was 30 years ago.
To her mind, rightly, he was a CF to think he could assume she would just babysit without specifically asking her.
I have two daughter's.....I would be so thrilled to have helped instilled such a sense of self worth and boundaries in them.
Apologies for the ramble🙏