Some people enjoy patronising and depressing others

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Clearly everyone is having a different experience of the current situation. It seems to me from the posts here and elsewhere that MN is full of people searching for threads from people either asking genuinely when others think the restrictions may be reduced, or people expressing mental or emotional.distress due to being locked away, sometimes alone. The pattern is the OP posts, there are a couple of sympathetic/in the case of lockdown speculation dovish opinions then the Depressor swoops, usually with a formulation along the lines of:
If you think these restrictions will be lifted anytime soon you are a naïve fool. Christmas will be cancelled and things will never fully return to normal

In the threads expressing mental distress their standard formulation is a variety of:
FFS pull yourselves together. It's been (insert number) weeks, how the F do you think people coped in the war the. All you are being asked to do is stay in and watch Netflix

There seems to be a remarkably large number of people among this cohort who claim grandparental involvement in WW1/2 and have a partner/sibling serving as a front line NHS worker. These depressors seem to scour MN looking to pounce on people expressing povs like the above.

I agree about the golf courses. My next door neighbour is a keen golfer. He has made a little golf course in his garden out of the dog's agility jumps and tunnel. I can't face watching him putt a ball sadly around it all summer.

BirdieFriendReturns, I think you're well out of order talking about hearhooves and discussing on another forum.

I like this thread, it's random support and venting, it doesn't need spite.

MorrisZapp, I'm no golfer, never played, but I loved that description and yes, "Let Mr Zapp OUT!!"

Willitneverend

sorry for your loss. As somebody who has very recently had to arrange a funeral via SM it's awful. I had somebody post about me going to my dad's (3 days before mum's funeral). They actually said and I quote "if you continue to go to your parents house you will likely kill them. STAY HOME PROTECT YOUR PARENTS!!!" complete with shouty capitals. They have since apologised but I will not forgive.

It’s like the threads on schools that proclaim “I’m not sending my children back to school until 2121 because I want my children to LIVE”

As if the rest of us don’t care about our kids surviving! It’s so offensive and nasty to imply that others don’t care about their kids.

And the shitness of the economy will be looped back to the fact that the furloughed were too selfish, lazy and fat to go and pick fruit for free.

And absolutely no connection will be made with the fact that a few short weeks ago those same people were calling anyone who dared utter the word 'economy' in any context a murderer, or with the economic devastation that would have followed the 18 month lockdown they're all hoping for...

Yeah let's not discuss individual posters, it'll get the entire thread deleted and I neeeeeeed this thread

Nooo, don’t open the golf courses! You’ll literally be killing millions if that happens! It mustn’t be allowed!

(Or maybe I don’t want them open because my local one has become my main dog walking spot recently and if the golfers come back I’ll have to use the boring little local park again)

It’s beyond me why golf courses were ever closed in the first place. I imagine that was a dementor’s bright idea.

@alsohuman I think that one of covid-19’s main transmission routes is people enjoying themselves via activities not in the ‘spirit’ of the lockdown.

There was a poster on a thread last week who had publicly ‘called out’ a neighbour for not clapping on a Thursday night.

This is one of the things that I dislike the most about lockdown.

Let's not get into naming and shaming. This thread has been quite nice so far - and although it's lampooning some of the worst excesses of dementorship, it's not being made personal. I think that's quite important. If we start naming people then it means we are no better than the people we are satirising...

Completely agree, naming other posters isn’t on. Tempting though it is at times.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe - okay, I’ll stick to the other forum then. Sadly, you cannot stop that.

In RL most of my friends are neurodiverse in some way. Some "just" dyslexia and dyspraxia, one has diagnosed autism. Quite a few are prone to anxiety and depression, but none are dementors. Sometimes they retreat into themselves when they need to, but they are all witty, creative, lovely friends. (DS has autism too, so I'm tiptoeing around that aplenty at the moment too, such fun for home schooling with his other SENs... )

I've got patience where people have some self awareness that there might be a condition like anxiety or OCD obscuring their sense of perspective, and they really don't need the dementors swooping in to feast on and justify irrational, overzealous fears.

On the subject of Curly Wurlys, I highly recommend the Zombies Run app. Don't worry, you don't have to run, just listen to the episodes as a podcast. It's set in the early days of the zombie apocalypse (with lots of British style wit) and radio controller Sam Yao is a big fan of the humble Curly Wurly who gets very exicted at discoveries of new stashes

There was a poster on a thread last week who had publicly ‘called out’ a neighbour for not clapping on a Thursday night.

Probably one of my neighbours. I haven't clapped yet and don't intend to. Anyway, I live in a maisonette with a shared path. If my neighbour is clapping at the gate then there's no room for me. Well that's my excuse should I ever need one!

I got told in detail on the picnic post about the various golf bodies who had closed the courses

It's not just on here, is it... my neighbour who is elderly can be a bit like it too. I have been getting some bits for her so need to keep in touch, anyway she has just been almost gleefully telling me how 'people all think it's going to go back to normal but it's not for ever and ever'
finding it quite hard to listen to, it is all about the virus but I'm struggling with home schooling and its all a bit overwhelming at times. Also going on about how there "can't be a plan, people can't expect one' when we are waiting for details to see how DH can go back to work...it's really frustrating. I need to cut down these chats I think

Reported the 'naming' post,

Yes Orangeblossom78, my auntie (who is the most miserable and negative person I have ever met) is 75 and never leaves the house anyway. She is having great delight in telling people that they won’t be able to do ANYTHING they enjoy ALL YEAR and they’ll be lucky if they get to do anything they enjoy next year either and they should just shut up moaning because we’re SAVING LIVES.

'people all think it's going to go back to normal but it's not for ever and ever'

Argh yes. Things went pretty much back to normal after previous flu pandemics, waves of polio, measles, diphtheria, cholera, smallpox, all the other infectious diseases we've dealt with for centuries... but this one will be different and It Will Never Be The Same Again Wave Goodbye To Your Old Lives Forever!, doom doom doom.

Also these people also seem to have no money worries- on pensions etc or own property and seem a bit out of touch with the real world at times...all very well if you are in that position I guess. But to delight in it is a bit odd.

It's about hope isn't it. We all need hope.

What is a bit weird is that whenever there’s a discussion about people really struggling and being unhappy, the same dementors pile in to tell them off for being so self-indulgent when people are dying. I mean first you’re demanding everyone be miserable, then you’re telling people off for saying they’re miserable, WTAF do you actually want? (Apart from ‘to tell people off’ that is.)

Yeah i know, MN had to intervene in a post like that where the OP was a single mum in a flat and really at the end of her tether.