Neighbours trampoline AIBU?

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Our neighbours have put up a trampoline this week, no issue with kids playing in the garden as I think it's nice to hear and my own child and family children are out in our garden most days weather permitting (just mine now!). They are the last house on the row so share a fence with us but the other side of their garden is onto woodland. The trampoline is right up against the shared fence. When it went up I didn't think too much of it to be honest but then on Monday we were sat in the conservatory having breakfast and noticed their older child (early teens maybe?) was stood on the trampoline looking into our house. I felt a bit uncomfortable as we were all in our pjs (not indecent but still I felt a bit 😳). Anyway this has happened a few times since, she can also see into our living room so when I'm sat playing with my baby on the floor/ watching tv etc I've looked up a few times to see her peering in. I know she's not really doing any harm per se but im finding it very intrusive. Dh usually does a workout in the garden every morning in just his shorts, the last two mornings he has come inside as the girl was there at the fence and he didn't feel comfortable.

Because of all this I went round to next door and knocked (then stood at the gate before I get flamed!). I've always got on fine with these neighbours but we haven't really had much interaction. I asked politely if there was any chance they could move the trampoline as their daughter could see into our house/garden and we were finding it a bit intrusive. I think I kept it quite friendly, wasn't rude or anything. Long story short neighbour said she would speak to her daughter but she won't move the trampoline as they like the garden setup as it is now. Their garden is huge, they could easily move it to the other side and it would affect no one. But I thought okay she will speak to her daughter and issue will be over.

Unfortunately either she hasn't spoken to her or the daughter has ignored her completely. It's happened a few times since and I've just been sat expressing and looked up to see a pair of eyes at the fence again. I've had to get up and come upstairs. AIBU ?? I know it's their garden but I just would like to be able to walk round and use my own house without having to watch what I'm doing or feel like I'm being watched.

Bit difficult to award gymnastic-excellence points based on 'ability to stand there dead-eyed and open-mouthed', though

Exactly, the gawping would get a massive, fat zero.

Early teens would suggest the girl is aged 13 to 15? Isn't that a bit old to be spending her days bouncing on a child's trampoline?

Why? My 13 and 15 year olds have been on the trampoline today doing flips and God knows what else. Not much else to do really at the moment is there

Early teens would suggest the girl is aged 13 to 15? Isn't that a bit old to be spending her days bouncing on a child's trampoline?

I don’t see anything odd about a 13-15 year old on a trampoline, I think it’s more odd to think that it’s odd! It’s better than being stuck to a screen all day I actually think it’s a good thing that she’s out on a trampoline, apart from the staring of course! I live near a secondary school and loads of them come to the park after school and play on the swings, is that odd? And a 13 -15 year old is still a child btw.

Dh thinks he saw her talking to our dog when he was out doing his morning business

Surely seeing your DH out doing his business in the garden would be enough to put her off OP?

What's the betting NDN complains about the gazebo???

rig up a sprinkler!

Perhaps a large cardboard sign could provide some privacy.

@happypoobum

If I had a trampoline I would be having a bounce on it right now - and I am much older than 13😂😂.

What’s odd is the staring at neighbours and not being put off or embarrassed at being repeatedly asked to stop.

Our neighbours have a trampoline and it’s close to our bedroom window, so although they don’t deliberately look in, they can easily see in. It can’t be moved anywhere else so we just got a voile curtain for a bit more privacy.

No way would I be doing anything to ameliorate the situation! I would send a letter to the parents asking them to move the trampoline as it is interfering with your privacy and enjoyment of your garden, and also keep remonstrating with daughter every time she stares in at you. I would give them seven days to do this and if not moved in that time, I would raise it with the council. I have had a similar experience though not with a trampoline.

Just RTFT: kid is a cheeky little madam isn’t she!

My cats were sitting on the balcony today staring down into the neighbours' garden. Neighbours were outside doing something or other. I said to the cats, as I often do, "Don't stare at the neighbours. It's rude".
Then I remembered this thread - how ridiculous that the mother does not keep reminding the child not to stare.

If I had a trampoline I would be having a bounce on it right now - and I am much older than 13

We got one recently - I have bounced on it exactly once, as I was immediately reminded of the shit state my pelvic floor is in

I like the idea of the movement activated sprinkler, it's genius, they'll be begging their parents to move the trampoline.

I'm outing myself here but a few years ago I lived next to two boys who stared in at us every chance they got. Talking to the parents was pointless. Anyway I got hold of some Nigel Farage election posters and pegged then to a washing line. Nothing worse than his gurning face looking back at them I thought.

Get a step ladder and stare back.

Would you gave a diagram, op? I'm having trouble with the logistics

YANBU

Selfish twunts

Go back to the neighbour again. Tell her you had to stop expressing because her daughter was standing there looking into the house.

Can you add a tressle fence thingy to the top of your fence?

It's so awful. There should be some sort of right to privacy IMO. In our previous house our neighbour built a really high set of decking and it looked directly into our living room. Every time they were out there, we felt watched. Then they got a set of really bright floodlights out there which illuminated our whole garden and living room also.

People should respect each others space, peace and privacy.

I’d embarrass the girl by asking her not to keep looking into your house and garden as it’s a bit stalkerish. Hopefully she’ll be shamed into not doing it again

We have a trampoline and every time we mow the lawn we move it from one-side of the garden to the other not only to mow the grass but to give the shaded area,grass,some sun otherwise it starts to die eventually if it’s not moved regularly so hopefully they’ll have to move it soon.
Not the answer I know but they’ll have to move it sooner or later 🤞

I don't know if you are allowed to, I'd check first, but what if you recorded her on your phone every time you catch her doing in, and show it to the neighbours.

Tell the girl yourself (sweetie do you mind not looking over into our house as Mummy asked you)