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AIBU to ask my neighbour to remove a song from their playlist?

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Beautyoftheirdreams · 23/04/2020 11:55

About 3 years ago, I had a premature baby. He was very poorly when born and needed resuscitation and was put on a ventilator for a couple of days. He was in and out of hospital during the first 3 years of his life. He's fine now but I've been diagnosed with PTSD and have been having counselling. I'm managing a little better now but still have struggles, particularly at the moment where my anxiety is heightened with what's going on.

My biggest trigger is the song that was playing when he was born. I can't hear it without being back in the moment and it takes time to recover from hearing it.

My neighbour obviously has it on a playlist and plays it a couple of times a day whilst out in the garden. We live in a terrace so can hear music very clearly which I do not have a problem with but am definitely struggling having this song played so often.

WIBU to ask her to take it off? I'm worried it will make me look entitled and precious. I do know that I can't stop the world listening to this song and don't expect them to but I am finding it hard having it played so regularly and frequently.

Please be gentle, I really don't expect everything to revolve around my feelings, I'm just not sure how to manage this

OP posts:
YinMnBlue · 24/04/2020 08:23

“Hi Neighbour,
I hope all is well with you. Could I ask a favour while we’re in lockdown?
I have PTSD from some incidents during XX’s birth. I am having treatment for it but unfortunately Xxx Song triggers panic attacks in me, it’s a song I always loved, so I know why you have it in your playlist, but I wondered if you could rest it from the playlist for a little while as it’s caught me out a couple of times hearing it in the garden. Sorry if this sounds weird, PTSD is a scary thing and I can explain more if that would help. Thanks ever so much, Neighbour.

Mummyoflittledragon · 24/04/2020 08:23

I’d write something really simple and true. “Hi neighbour, I’ve been trying to pluck up the courage to tell you that I find one of the songs you play, Symphony, really difficult to listen to as it brings back terrible memories of when my dc was in nicu and leaves me feeling traumatised. Would you mind if I asked you to please only play out of my earshot? It was lovely to chat to you yesterday. Beauty 😊”

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