Husband Watching porn during day

[Ladybop]

OK so I just want to know if I'm over reacting here....
I walked into the loo yesterday whilst my DH was masturbating to porn. Now I don't have an issue with porn, but I have an issue with doing that at 1pm with our kids up and running around. There's a time and a place and feel like he could of refrained from doing that until later...
Am I being an utter dick or am I justified?

@Rebootingagain women don't like or enjoy sex! Didn't you know that? Well that's what a lot of on the women on mumsnet would have you believe!

I have an issue with porn, and would hate this.
YANBU.

Why does liking porn = liking sex, and vice versa. I hate porn, but I love sex! Just because I don't like porn doesn't make me some uptight, sex hating woman. It is possible to have a very fulfilling sex life without porn!

Was this one time he had forgotten to lock the door? When you asked in did he realize the door was open?

Yes, he should defo do it behind locked door if kids are around but if it's one timw thing and he will remember to lock next time..

He didn't shut the door fully even WTF

That's just out and out weird

Imagine a mother sneaking off to masturbate while the kids are running round, because she just ‘couldn’t wait’ 🙄 wouldn’t happen though would it?
I'm pretty sure quite a few mums have had a bit of fun with the shower head while dad looks after the kids.

You should have an issue with the porn, not the masturbation!

Was he watching safe porn produced with consent by women? Or free content uploaded by women under oppression or coercion as part of illegal trafficking?

I’m no prude, but oh my god! I would go mental! What the fuck is the matter with him?

I would have a go at him regards not closing or locking the door, other than that and as long as he wasn’t meant to be minding the kids I wouldn’t have an issue.

I work In a Male dominated sector, there’s banter and jokes to suggest that we are all having a fiddle during the day.

Seems hard to believe tbh but I agree with a comment above

*I find it creepy as hell!
*Imagine a mother sneaking off to masturbate while the kids are running round, because she just ‘couldn’t wait’ 🙄 wouldn’t happen though would it?

The bar is set so low for men.

^ This.

At home, during the day responsibilities include shared looking after children op?

Would all the male wanking/porn sympathisers on here be okay with a nursery letting staff pop off to an open area to watch porn and knock one out?

No, I didn't think so.

It's completely inappropriate and very strange how he even was able to get in that mind zone with his kids about and an open door...

Imagine a mother sneaking off to masturbate while the kids are running round, because she just ‘couldn’t wait’ 🙄 wouldn’t happen though would it?
Why wouldn’t it happen? I’m sure that’s happened to plenty of women- they just know better than to post about it on MN where they’ll get ripped to pieces for admitting they watch porn

Would all the male wanking/porn sympathisers on here be okay with a nursery letting staff pop off to an open area to watch porn and knock one out?

Hardly the same thing really is it - get real.

Would all the male wanking/porn sympathisers on here be okay with a nursery letting staff pop off to an open area to watch porn and knock one out?
Masturbating at work is never ok. In my opinion if he was in charge of the kids at that time it would not be ok. If it took a long time then it is not ok. Spending 10 to masturbate at own home is fine, not optimal when kids are awake but if done subtly I don't see a massive problem.
Same rules apply to mum in this case. Not locking the door is a massive problem and therefore dad was in the wrong in this case. But this is my personal opinion.

It was a rhetorical question but I can see it's touched a nerve. I cba derailing the thread with the porn question as a lot of your answers demonstrate my point.

Watching porn or being in favour of its use does not equate to not wanting to have or not enjoying sex, probably another thing we've been subtly conditioned into.

Would all the male wanking/porn sympathisers on here be okay with a nursery letting staff pop off to an open area to watch porn and knock one out?
No because they’re not in the privacy of their own home: they’re at work. Yes the OP’s husband should’ve ensured the door was shut for more privacy with kids being in the house but it’s really not comparable.

I have sex with my husband in the day while my kids are in their rooms occupied by other things. Shock horror! Would I be ok with nursery workers having a shag at a nursery? Of course not!

male wanking sympathiser
Oh my god you sound like a feminazi 😂 masturbation is normal and healthy. You just don’t seem to like men that much!

Watching porn or being in favour of its use does not equate to not wanting to have or not enjoying sex, probably another thing we've been subtly conditioned into
No it doesn’t but women who are ok with porn are allowed to enjoy it and that doesn’t mean we can’t think for ourselves.

What a dirty pig!!

Would all the male wanking/porn sympathisers on here be okay with a nursery letting staff pop off to an open area to watch porn and knock one out?

Was he

1 at work
2 in sole charge of the children
3 in an open area (he most definitely should've locked the door)

Do you know what your nursery staff do in their lunch hours?

What's wrong with that? He should have locked the door, I agree. But masturbating in his own home during daylight hours is off limits? That's mad. I fail to see how this has any effect on the kids, having a quick wank in his - locked! - bathroom.

I really really really do have an issue with porn. No ifs or buts. I never feel I have to justify it but could on so many levels

This thread has predictably gone a bit batshit.

The arguing over porn is totally pointless, as the OP doesn't have a problem with it and that's not what she asked about.

The insinuations by some that he was trying to somehow involve his children in it are totally uncalled for and breathtakingly nasty.

He should have locked the door, and he should have been mindful of not spending ages in the bathroom to avoid family duties, but beyond that whatever anyone does in a locked bathroom at any time of day is their own business!

No ifs or BUTTS, @PlywoodPlank amirite amirite

Dirty git. How would he like it if you popped into the loo for a wank after lunch and left him looking after the kids.

He should have locked the door

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