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Husband Watching porn during day

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Ladybop · 21/04/2020 11:52

OK so I just want to know if I'm over reacting here....
I walked into the loo yesterday whilst my DH was masturbating to porn. Now I don't have an issue with porn, but I have an issue with doing that at 1pm with our kids up and running around. There's a time and a place and feel like he could of refrained from doing that until later...
Am I being an utter dick or am I justified?

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Alsohuman · 21/04/2020 13:41

Because the vast vast majority of videos don’t involve 4 dicks going up a vagina

I understand other orifices are available.

Iamamoleinahole · 21/04/2020 13:42

He is one step away from walking around the house doing it. Run.

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Ladybop · 21/04/2020 13:43

A few choice words from me. He said he was embaressed but states having a wank is normal, which it is but not when the whole family is running about at lunch time. Didn't think about closing door properly 🙄 basically making me feel like I'm over reacting. I'm disgusted and tried to explain its not OK at that time of day with the kids around.

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GoofyLuce · 21/04/2020 13:45

I find this absolutely filthy! I can't ever think of a situation where I'd be horney enough that I'd sneak off to the loo to masturbate during the middle of the day with children around. It actually makes my stomach turn.

Fuckin filthy Angry

soapboxqueen · 21/04/2020 13:46

I'd have an issue with him masturbating during the day when the kids are about.

I'd have an issue with him doing the above without taking even basic precautions such as locking the door.

If have issues with him watching porn due to him having no clue weather the people (mostly thinking about women and girls) are able to give free consent to be in those films. That's before you get to the troubling content in some films.

soapboxqueen · 21/04/2020 13:49

Apologies for the ridiculous number of typos in that postHmm

Bibijayne · 21/04/2020 13:50

Grim. Can't he wait until kids are in bed?

Baconisgoodformeee · 21/04/2020 13:53

He didn’t think about closing the door properly?! What on earth does that mean. Closing the door when you are in the bathroom (or any room, furiously masturbating) seems like pretty basic thinking...

OutlandishBird · 21/04/2020 13:54

The only issue is not locking the door.

Glitteryone · 21/04/2020 14:11

The only issue I have with this is the door not locked.

cushioncovers · 21/04/2020 14:13

Yuck wtf couldn't he wait until the kids were out of the way? And not to even lock the door that's just weird.

FTstepmum · 21/04/2020 14:17

I would have an issue with it. If you're that desperate for a wank, at least close the door so your partner and kids don't see you.

I know it's not cool to say this in these days of sexual equality and openness, but I absolutely have an issue with porn (esp porn where the woman is used as an object). It undermines the partnership between two human beings.

Fantasy nearly always leads to dissatisfaction with what you've already got.

I know a lot of people will disagree.

AnyFucker · 21/04/2020 14:24

Household of kids running around, eh

I wonder what got him in the "mood" for a bit of dangerous dick-tugging

If this is real, of course

Rebootingagain · 21/04/2020 14:26

He should have locked the door. Other than that I am not seeing an issue.

heartsonacake · 21/04/2020 14:43

Porn these days seems to consist of some poor woman getting a maximum number of dicks rammed up her -

livefornaps Clearly you don’t watch porn 😂

WishICouldThinkOfAGoodName · 21/04/2020 15:04

He should have locked the door. Otherwise I wouldn’t be too worried about it.

TwilightPeace · 21/04/2020 15:10

I find it creepy as hell!
Imagine a mother sneaking off to masturbate while the kids are running round, because she just ‘couldn’t wait’ 🙄 wouldn’t happen though would it?

The bar is set so low for men.

Umnoway · 21/04/2020 15:12

So grim picturing one of the children walking in on him, at least lock the bloody door...

BillywilliamV · 21/04/2020 15:12

I 'd have cbucked him out to sleep in his car for a couple of days tbh. Just not on, ugh!

Rebootingagain · 21/04/2020 15:13

magine a mother sneaking off to masturbate while the kids are running round, because she just ‘couldn’t wait’ 🙄 wouldn’t happen though would it?

You don’t think this has ever happened, anywhere, ever?

No woman in the history of the world has gone to the bathroom or bedroom to have a fiddle while dad was watching the kids? Ever? Get real.

No woman has ever gone to another room and videod herself then sent it to her partner while he was watching the kids happily to build a bit of excitement for later that day?

Some of you must lead very sheltered lives.

AnyFucker · 21/04/2020 15:14

And they say romance is dead

lollipop169 · 21/04/2020 15:16

@Rebootingagain thats what someone that's done those things would say 😂

Nice.

HandfulOfDust · 21/04/2020 15:17

Why are so many women conditioned into saying they don't have an issue with porn.

I hate these annoying comments. Some of us genuinely don't have a problem with porn - how patronising of you to think you know better!

That said DH should find a private time and place!

LonelyFromCorona · 21/04/2020 15:20

A word advising to wait until more appropriate time and to lock the door should suffice

MrsSnitchnose · 21/04/2020 15:23

Why are so many women conditioned into saying they don't have an issue with porn

Because some of us use it ourselves 🤷

The only issue for me would be the unlocked door