Husband Watching porn during day

[Ladybop]

OK so I just want to know if I'm over reacting here....
I walked into the loo yesterday whilst my DH was masturbating to porn. Now I don't have an issue with porn, but I have an issue with doing that at 1pm with our kids up and running around. There's a time and a place and feel like he could of refrained from doing that until later...
Am I being an utter dick or am I justified?

Why didn’t he lock or close the door?! I wouldn’t like that if someone was defacating let alone masturbating!!

I think men are visual creatures and it's something that helps them along. I do think it can give a warped view on realistic sex and that often the women that star in them are troubled. That being said, they consent to what they are doing and it is legal.
It can be healthy in a relationship, but that wasn't the issue here. He couldn't keep it in his pants until an appropriate time.

Dad of the year, eh?
You should have an issue with him using porn, especially during the day in an unlocked room while his children were close by. Was he getting an extra thrill from the fact one of them might have barged in? Gross and unacceptable.

Whether the OP is ok with porn or not is her business, not anyone elses, and not the point of her question.

Yuk that's not on at all ! As others say time and a place ,so grim and inappropriate too when he is doing it in an unlocked room where children can open the door at any time. Surely a grown man with a normal sexual appetite can control himself and wait till a more appropriate time?

Damn. Not the right time or place - with the door open.

I've walked into my ex having a wank a few times and my son even did when he was a toddler. I was furious.
Wanking is great fun sure, but it's PRIVATE!

OP please spare us the old, tired trope about men being visual creatures. We ALL have eyes, women are excited by sexual imagery too

I choose not to get my jollies by looking at the filth masquerading as pornography these days. (Teen is the most searched term on pornhub.) He has no justification for looking at it while you and his children are close by and presumably you are doing all the childcare

I’d be cross with him for not locking the door. The rest wouldn’t bother me.

Leaving other things aside, would you say he's doing a fair share of the childcare during lockdown? I bet not.

Err he should lock the door even if he wasn't trying to wack off the smell off toilet waste should be enough for him to lock it. Eww.

Of course you're justified, is that really in any doubt?
I dont think there's any situation in which wanking over porn with the door open and your kids around is ok.
Putting aside the porn issue, I'd be massively fucking pissed off.

The real question is - did he flush after...

I really wouldn't want him spunking everywhere with kids roaming round

It sounds like he was waiting for someone to find him. You or the kids. You don't absent mindely leave the door open when you are having a wank. Sounds a like a pervert.

Time and place! Not keen on porn but it's definitely for behind a locked door if kids are running about

they consent to what they are doing

Not always they don't.

Porn these days seems to consist of some poor woman getting a maximum number of dicks rammed up her - i would be repulsed at the idea that the father of my kids wanted to jack off to that kind of filth in spunking distance of the kids. Just plain disgusting.

it isn't a big deal, just close the door though so the kids don't walk in.

You sound like a bot

Whether the OP is ok with porn or not is her business, not anyone elses, and not the point of her question
Absolutely! Threads about porn on MN always turn into the old ‘wow what a cool wife you think you are’.

In answer to your question OP, yes he should’ve done it in private. Have you told him to do it behind a locked door next time?

You are not being unreasonable at all. Did he WANT to be caught, not even shutting the door? What's been the exchange between you after walking in on that?!

On a different note, he must be really bored.

You should have an issue with him using porn, especially during the day in an unlocked room

Yes the door should have been locked. But why should OP have a problem with her DH using porn?

Porn these days seems to consist of some poor woman getting a maximum number of dicks rammed up her
Do you actually go on pornhub and the like? Because the vast vast majority of videos don’t involve 4 dicks going up a vagina 😂

Why are so many women conditioned into saying they don't have an issue with porn.

Because some women watch porn too, not just men. Women aren't all asexual planks, many enjoy watching it. Nothing wrong either way.

Why are so many women conditioned into saying they don't have an issue with porn
Oh ffs we have our own minds just as men do. We can enjoy porn too without having been conditioned 🙄 we aren’t brain dead robots. Are you against women being sexually liberated?