My husband calls work colleagues “mate” and referred to me as “the Mrs”

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I cannot take this working from home any more.

Anyone else the same?

@ItsJustTheOneSwanActually
I used to work with a man who referred to his wife as The War Office.

I LOVE this.

I thought it was great.

Coming for a drink Andrew?

Oh let me just check with the War Office.

I roared

Neighbour calls his wife " SHE" to his pals and builders.
SHE wants a hot tub there.
SHE wants a pergola here.
SHE wants fence panels there. SHE wants European style panels.
SHE says I can have my outdoor bar there.

Never uses her name. ( He also has a very loud voice, but, mate, SHE is louder.).

Is he from Manchester?

Mine refers to me by my name as thankfully his work mates know who the hell I am!

Have you seen the twitter thread where people were saying that they’d seen a whole other side to their other half during WFH. Like “oh my god, I’ve just overheard him on a phone call and I’m married to “blue sky thinking” guy!” And someone else says their OH is “let’s put a pin in that” guy. It was v funny. If I could be bothered to search for a link I’d put it ...here

Mine calls me tinsel tits

Either the Boss, the Commander in Chief, or the Queen if he's in a joking mood. Occasionally 'Spousal Unit' (Coneheads reference).

If he's in a serious conversation it's either my name or 'my/the wife'.

I don't have a problem with what he calls me as long as it's not said in a nasty or demeaning way. There are too many other things to get shook up over in a marriage besides a nickname (unless it's part of a pattern of abuse).

What's wrong with him calling people 'mate'?
Sometimes it's just about fitting in, which is important in the workplace. I used to call my team of 40-60 year olds 'the girls' even though it's not a term I'd use outside of work. But they initiated it and liked it. So why wouldn't I?

And 🤷🏻‍♀️

I'm the Rottweiler or the fire breathing dragon. They are definitely said in an affectionate way so I'm not in the least bit offended.

My dad calls mum my social secretary. My dm is like damn right because if he organises anything it will be on the one date we can't make.

You've just described me!

Mine used to cal me GCHQ

My husband calls me his ex-girlfriend

Wiff made me proper lol though!

My OH has got me saved as 'wife' on his phone and in emails, never addresses an envelope to me so that he can use them for something else, wears his pyjamas and pulls up his socks (!) to work from home. I've given up.

Cringe at people who refer to work colleagues as mate😬. My work is very formal, one guy tried ‘listen, mate’ in a meeting. He was reminded he wasn’t in an episode of eastEnders.

I doubt anyone in the room had ever watched eastenders😂😂😂

Cringe at people who refer to work colleagues as mate😬

Why? Do you realise that not everyone works in the same environment as you? You sound incredibly snobby.

I’m referred to as the “Director of Domestic Affairs” when he’s talking to friends and colleagues, shortened to DDA in emails.

It’s quite a nice job title, although rather different to my actual job.
His annoying working from home habit is mumbling during zoom meetings. So difficult not to tell him off, tell him to speak up and jolly well speak clearly.

My OH has got me saved as 'wife' on his phone
That's actually pretty sensible. In an emergency, people would be able to find your number and contact you!

I have a giant desk at home. When I'm working behind it he calls me Madam President.

And lol @ tinsel tits.

Does piss me off being addressed as Mrs Hisname, though. I expect the school to do it, or people who don't really know me. When his relatives do it to put me back in my box it does get irksome, though. Luckily they stopped sending me cards the other year

I have no idea what dh calls me when he's at work and I really don't care

I love some of these names! All preferable to “the Mrs”!

The ‘mate’ thing is just jarring I think. I’m not sure DH has ever said it out of work - definitely not in my earshot.

OP, have you got the “ick” after working from home with your DH?

I worked with a man called Pete who always referred to his wife as "Elliott". I was clueless until somebody told me about the film.

To refer to your wife as "The Mrs" to other people is derogatory. Call him on it.