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Neighbours and my WIFI

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Imrubbishatuserables · 19/04/2020 21:15

Hey!
Straight to point I got a new neighbour in my block of flat a few months ago and she asked for my wifi password to connect her console to so they could watch netflix.. i thought why not.. one other thing connected to it wont harm and she has just moved in.. it's her first home she hasn't had chance to set up her own yet. She then gets a new tv in the last few weeks and connects to my wifi but she has also connected her phone and her mates phone to it as well as they are picking up our google speakers on the network her mate joked they should play songs through my sons one in his room from their phones. So I have no idea how to change the password but would I be unreasonable to turn it off every night at 8PM? Considering we are in lockdown and she cant get her own during this time as they will need to come and connect it up. Previous tenant in that flat never had wifi either.

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Weregoingonanadventure · 25/04/2020 16:45

@mummmy2017

Everyone else who told OP to say "mine is fine" didnt realise she had recently had a conversation with the neighbour about the wifi so knows the neighbour is still using it. It has been pointed out repeatedly that saying "mine is fine" will not work because the neighbour knows that OP knows fine well she uses her wifi. Playing dumb when everyone knows the situation will just make her look stupid.

What you sre suggesting doest make sense. It jsnt a non-confrontational way to get the point across. It just makes it seem like the OP has forgotten she gave permission and forgotten all the conversations about it. She will just look dumb, the woman will continue asking and the OP will have to desk with it.

Several people have now told you that it just doesnt make sense so give up.

mummmy2017 · 25/04/2020 16:48

You have proved yourself to be very confrontational Weregoingonanadventure.
Which is exactly why your way will produce an atmosphere.

Weregoingonanadventure · 25/04/2020 16:48

@mummmy2017
But they both use the same internet!!! So if she says "mine is fine" then the neighbour will be like "so why cant I get on? Where is it?" Etc.
It will just cause more confrontation.

The neighbour hasn't done anything wrong. There is no need for her to save face. There is nothing for her to admit. She asked for the wifi, and she was given permission to use it. There is nothing embarrassing about her using it and nothing to save face over.
The OP has removed permission but instead if just telling the woman, she is hiding. The woman will keep asking.
You seem to really not understand the situation though if you think she needs to admit something, or try to save face over something so there is no point engaging with you anymore.

Weregoingonanadventure · 25/04/2020 16:51

@mummmy2017
No. My solution was a couple of sentences which were clear and to the point without being rude and without leaving unanswered questions or confusion.

What you're suggesting just doesnt make any sense given the circumstances, which you have been told by more than one poster. The other people who suggested it were also told by other posters that it will not make sense and wont help sort the situation out.

It isnt "non confrontational". It just makes her look passive aggressive or stupid.

mummmy2017 · 25/04/2020 16:54

Nextdoor asked for password to use Netflix, as she had just moved in and had not had time to get her own provider .
OP owes her nothing.
Nextdoor knows what she has done.
Knows the internet no longer works.
OP does not need to grovel and explain to a choosing beggar.

Purpleartichoke · 25/04/2020 16:57

Don’t answer the door. I don’t even answer the door for grocery delivery anymore. They leave the delivery on the steps, snap a photo, and walk away. Then I retrieve.

If she texts again, I’m not sure what I would say. Definitely not, I cancelled my internet access because that is simply unbelievable. You may just have to be honest . You realized that sharing the password is a massive security problem and you won’t be doing it again.

We don’t even let family and friends on our main WiFi when they visit. We have a secure guest network partitioned for them.

Weregoingonanadventure · 25/04/2020 16:58

@mummmy2017
This isnt about netflix.

No one is saying the OP owes her anything, but the woman will keep asking. She has been given permission to use something and then it has disappeared so she is going to ask. And she's clearly the type to keep asking.

The OP can choose to ignore her but most of us are saying that instead of being worried about bumping into her or opening the door at the wrong time, she should just tell her. Then it isnt hanging over her head.

What you suggested still doesnt make sense, whether or not the OP owes her anything.

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 25/04/2020 16:59

I would just lie for now and say it’s gone down and you have no idea why and that no one can come out, so sorry🤷‍♀️
If she asks again then just say you decided to do without...

Weregoingonanadventure · 25/04/2020 16:59

@mummmy2017
And please show me which part of my suggested reply could be described as "grovelling".
I haven't suggested any sort of even pretend apology.

mummmy2017 · 25/04/2020 17:11

See you are confrontational.
And Netflix's is the only reason the OP have permission.
The OP owes nextdoor no explanation, no lies about changing providers .
A simple mine is fine, really does let nextdoor know her mooching days are over.
I am sure OP wishes to avoid the sort of argument that is happening between us.
Grovelling, your implying she owes nextdoor something for stopping access to a service they never paid for.

RealLifeHotWaterBottle · 25/04/2020 17:16

That really isn't an example of grovelling.

Lets just hope the OP responds with something clear and concise so the whole thing can be put to bed. If the neighbour doesn't like it, she can always get her own. Possibly she's already realised what's happened.

sonjadog · 25/04/2020 17:24

You can't keep avoiding someone who lives in the same building as you. Just send her a message saying you changed the password for security reasons and you won't be giving it to anyone outside your family, and be done with it. She is knocking because she thinks you haven't got her message for some reason. By dragging this on, you are just playing with her head.

Weregoingonanadventure · 25/04/2020 17:25

@mummmy2017
No I'm not. I'm saying that she has 2 choices; ignore the neighbour until they bump into each other which will be uncomfortable, or tell her simply and clearly that she is ending their agreement.

Saying mine is fine just prompts more questions, will continue to escalate the texting and wont help the OP. It doesnt bloody make sense, as you have been told.

She owes the neighbour nothing, but it sounds like she will find it uncomfortable if she is confronted at a random time when they meet in the hallway. I wouldn't because I'm fine with just being direct and to the point. But the OP wont enjoy that meeting so she should, for her own peace of mind, inform her neighbour that the agreement is over.

Your suggestion does not do that because it makes no sense whatsoever in relation to the facts. But I doubt you understand that

RogueRebel · 25/04/2020 17:48

I would just say I've missed the Direct debt and I've been cut off. I was embarrassed at the situation so I didn't answer. This would give the OP a good excuse to ignore her neighbour and stop any hostility.

TopBitchoftheWitches · 25/04/2020 17:58

Op has not replied yet again, non story.

Anydreamwilldo12 · 25/04/2020 17:59

Just reply saying

Hi, I've downgraded my package as I realised I am paying for more than I actually need. Saving the pennies at this crucial time

Mammatino · 25/04/2020 18:05

The neighbour hasn’t done anything wrong.

I didn’t think the op had an agreement with the CF neighbour to use the internet for several months free of charge, it sounded like the CF neighbour was only supposed to use it for a short interim period whilst hers was connected. Hence the neighbour being a cheeky piss taking fucker so saying she has nothing to be sorry for and hasn’t done anything wrong is, well a bit wrong. Tell her to get her own connected as you aren’t a bloody charity and she’s tearing through your data and slowing your system down.

Raindancer411 · 25/04/2020 18:13

I would reply that I didn't realise she was still using it as thought it was only temporary until she got hers sorted. That due to lockdown you have had to cancel it as you cannot afford luxuries.

TwinklyTwinkle · 25/04/2020 18:40

I can't believe this is still going on 😂
Just send her a message saying you've changed the password as there were too many devices connected. Sorry for the inconvenience but you can share your provider with her if shes still looking for a company to connect with, done. Straight to the point but still helpful, doesn't need to be a big deal at all

Hirsutefirs · 25/04/2020 19:19

Tell her the 5G in the router is an unacceptable Coronavirus risk.

GoatyGoatyMingeMinge · 25/04/2020 19:24

You can change both the router name and the password

TheStuffWasBad · 25/04/2020 19:34

You can change both the router name and the password

Great advice. Really surprising that nobody else came up with it in the six days since the op posted.

Wankerchief · 25/04/2020 19:36

Love this is still rolling on with advice

peanutbutterandbanana · 25/04/2020 19:36

Well done OP - when you do speak to her tell her that you had a hack into your bank account and bank asked you if anyone shared your wifi and they advised you to change your password and not share. No-one can argue with that. In fact you could text her that story and then not bother answering any more texts or door-knocks.

My son set us up with a 'guest' password for our main wifi so if anyone wants to borrow our wifi we give them the guest password (eg next door neighbour is elderly and has no wifi and her daughter then wants to borrow our wifi when she is over visiting) and then we change guest password after a few days - saves having to change the password for the whole system.

I know you won't ever share your wifi again, but it really is a security risk. Brazen it out - you can do this!

NewPapaGuinea · 25/04/2020 19:39

What’s with all the pussyfooting about? Just say I booted all devices and if you want to continue getting the internet I suggest you get and pay for your own like you said all those months/years ago. Ciao.