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Neighbours and my WIFI

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Imrubbishatuserables · 19/04/2020 21:15

Hey!
Straight to point I got a new neighbour in my block of flat a few months ago and she asked for my wifi password to connect her console to so they could watch netflix.. i thought why not.. one other thing connected to it wont harm and she has just moved in.. it's her first home she hasn't had chance to set up her own yet. She then gets a new tv in the last few weeks and connects to my wifi but she has also connected her phone and her mates phone to it as well as they are picking up our google speakers on the network her mate joked they should play songs through my sons one in his room from their phones. So I have no idea how to change the password but would I be unreasonable to turn it off every night at 8PM? Considering we are in lockdown and she cant get her own during this time as they will need to come and connect it up. Previous tenant in that flat never had wifi either.

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Justus77 · 25/04/2020 13:17

I still think she needs to know that she’s a prat for taking the piss out of the overheard conversation. Maybe she will think about her own actions. I despise liars and lying. Tell it like it is and then you do to need to follow up with any needless crap.

Justus77 · 25/04/2020 13:17

Oh and so with you re the rules of door answering!!! SmileGrin

AintNobodyHereButUsChickens · 25/04/2020 13:30

Have you responded to her yet OP?

Weregoingonanadventure · 25/04/2020 13:45

@mummmy2017
The neighbour talked to her about wifi a few days ago. They both know full well that the neighbour is using hers. Saying "mine is fine" will just cause a response of "well where is it? Why cant I get on?". And OP will be in the same position.

Look at it from the other side. She asked if she could use the wifi. OP told her yes and gave her the password. She has been using it and talking to the OP about using it and now, suddenly, it's gone. With no warning or even a simple "you cant use it anymore". She might be cheeky, but she doesn't know the OP is annoyed, she doesnt know the OP doesnt want her using it. As far as she knows, the arrangement still stands. Pretending her wifi is fine isnt going to end the conversation.

billy1966 · 25/04/2020 13:54

OP, she's a CF, she will keep knocking.

Dont let her in.
Keep her at the door.

If you don't wish to get into it with her.
Play stupid and act totally shocked that she has continued to use it.
Tell her she should have sorted her own out.
Don't entertain her.
End the conversation.

mummmy2017 · 25/04/2020 14:02

By saying MINE is fine.
OP is telling the neighbour she knows the wifi was being used and has locked neighbour out of it.
This then means neighbour has to admit it.

Weregoingonanadventure · 25/04/2020 14:08

@mummmy2017
What is it you dont understand here?
The neighbour doesnt need to admit anything. She asked the OP if she could use it, the OP said yes and gave her the password. They talked about it again recently. There is nothing to admit. They both knew the situation; that the neighbour was using the wifi with OP's permission. That's all that was happening. There is nothing to admit.

Saying "mine is fine" will result with "then why cant I get on it". Not an admission; just a question about why she cant get on, which is the same question she is currently asking.

Playing dumb in a situation you were complicit in, agreed too and still know all about doesnt make the other person look like an idiot, it will make the OP look like an idiot. She cant play dumb about giving permission to someone and force an admission from the other person when there is absolutely nothing to "admit".

The OP has removed permission but hasn't actually communicated that. She needs to.

Thirtyysomething · 25/04/2020 14:19

Regarding the illegal downloading. Virgin threatened to cut my internet off if anything else was downloaded/shared. I let my neighbour share my password (I know, same situation when someone was only going to use it until theirs was connected) and they downloaded and shared something. So while I’m sure you wouldn’t get in trouble, as you could prove the IP doing it wasn’t yours, it would be a pain getting disconnected, if like you say there is only provider in your area. Definitely good idea to change the password.

Hannah021 · 25/04/2020 14:30

@Thirtyysomething im afraid the local ip changes for many reasons, if ur phone leaves the house, and u return, a new IP will be negotiated, u turn ur laptop off or on, anytime the router restarts (whether manually or due to internal recovery procedure)...
It is hard to prove, forensics will need to be involved to collect enough logs to prove the case...

Usually only advanced ppl would setup static ups on their router, majority of ppl use the default.

smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 25/04/2020 14:46

Just say "ive changed the password on it after finding out you had given it to your friend. I was happy to be neighbourly and help you out but i wasnt happy to find out i was also supplying your friends with free wifi too, youll have to sort your own out from now"

Blackbirdblue30 · 25/04/2020 15:02

As a pp suggested say you were alarmed that people could access your 11 year old child and you’re safeguarding from now on. Any protests that it’s ‘just’ them you’ll have to be firm and say no, it’s a security issue. Repeat.

mummmy2017 · 25/04/2020 15:11

I'm pretty sure the OP does not want to come out and say " I changed the password." Otherwise she would have opened the door.
By saying "mine is fine" in a text reply, she is not being nasty.
Ok so neighbour days but I was using it.
All OP needs to say is that she changed the password and can't share anymore due to security issues.
Very low key arguement.
We are both advising her to do the same thing.
Or would you rather she knocks next door and says... Ha ha your banned.

Weregoingonanadventure · 25/04/2020 15:17

@mummmy2017
What you're saying just isnt logical; it doesnt help the OP and doesnt solve the issue. And as you have just said yourself, she will still have to come out and say "ive changed the password and you csnt have it". So the stupid little "oh, mine is fine" is pointless.

She gave permissions. She has now withdrawn that permission... but without actually telling the woman. So playing dumb and saying "mine is fine" does nothing to help. The girl will keep asking, since the wifi is "fine".

The OP will need to tell her. Pussyfooting and playing dumb just makes her look like an idiot.

Weregoingonanadventure · 25/04/2020 15:20

@mummmy2017
And I haven't told her to speak to her face to face. I actually laid out a very simple text reply explaining the change. A reply which actually makes sense.

Saying "mine is fine" makes no sense whatsoever given the circumstances, it wont end the conversation or get the neighbour to stop asking.

She doesnt want to tell her but shes going to have too.

MorganKitten · 25/04/2020 15:58

She’ll keep on just message back you weren’t comfortable with the idea of her friend using it and playing music over to your son. It’s been however long so time to get her own.

Want2beme · 25/04/2020 16:05

Tell her yours is fine. If she replies that it won't work for her, say, "Wow, are you still using mine?". "Sorry, but I can't share it anymore.", and don't get into a discussion about it.

Lsquiggles · 25/04/2020 16:15

Please just say you changed your password for increased security and you're no longer sharing it! Can't believe how cheeky she is, I could never Blush

mummmy2017 · 25/04/2020 16:19

Many of us have said just say " mine is fine." As a first text as is not confrontational.
In then hope next door backs off, with you needing to say more.

mummmy2017 · 25/04/2020 16:20

Without sorry, not with.

RealLifeHotWaterBottle · 25/04/2020 16:25

But "mine is fine" really doesn't make sense, they recently acknowledged that she's using the OPs wifi.

Given that, mine is fine as a reply either comes across as incredibly passive aggressive and sarky OR makes the OP just look stupid and as though she's forgotten giving the password and multiple conversations they've had relating to it.

mummmy2017 · 25/04/2020 16:32

OP has not opened the door to next door
I don't think I would want to either.
Next door knows she can't connect.
Mine is fine... Is far less confrontational than saying she changed the password.
Nextdoor would have to be beyond stupid to not understand she is being told locked out.
It may be a passive answer, but it is not agressive.

Honeyroar · 25/04/2020 16:33

If you do speak to her just say you weren’t happy that your internet was still being used or that she could influence speakers etc in your house, so you decided she’d had plenty of time borrowing your password a and it was time to get her own supply.

Hannah021 · 25/04/2020 16:36

@mummmy2017 i agree with u that the op doesnt feel comfortable with a confrontational text. But saying "mine is fine" doesnt work for two reasons

  1. the op changed the name of the wifi, so clearly something had happened which would trigger "i cant see it anymore, can i see what u r connected to on ur phone"... And that would be awkward.
  2. even if the op reverts the name back, the cf could tell her "my friend is a techie, can u give us ur admin password to see why we cant connect"... Which just opens up the door for back and forth, which the op doesnt need.

A simple msg that avoids confrontation and back and forth is "we've terminated our contract, we dont need it", short simple, gets the job done.

mummmy2017 · 25/04/2020 16:42

All nextdoor texted was that the internet was playing up.
There is no need for an essay .
Mine is fine. Is a simple answer.
It allows nextdoor to save face
Saying I changed the password in any form is like saying your calling her out on using your internet , which means you have to comment on her using your internet for so long .
I am sure OP wants to avoid agro .

Hannah021 · 25/04/2020 16:44

@Imrubbishatuserables have you changed ur admin password too? Using the default means any one can change ur password, and since it is the same provider, all ur neighbours would know the password!

Again, the admin password to the router, not the one u use to connect devices