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Neighbours and my WIFI

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Imrubbishatuserables · 19/04/2020 21:15

Hey!
Straight to point I got a new neighbour in my block of flat a few months ago and she asked for my wifi password to connect her console to so they could watch netflix.. i thought why not.. one other thing connected to it wont harm and she has just moved in.. it's her first home she hasn't had chance to set up her own yet. She then gets a new tv in the last few weeks and connects to my wifi but she has also connected her phone and her mates phone to it as well as they are picking up our google speakers on the network her mate joked they should play songs through my sons one in his room from their phones. So I have no idea how to change the password but would I be unreasonable to turn it off every night at 8PM? Considering we are in lockdown and she cant get her own during this time as they will need to come and connect it up. Previous tenant in that flat never had wifi either.

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whatdoyoudonow · 25/04/2020 00:10

She sent a message about the wifi being down!!

Don't reply. If she speaks to you in person just say 'that's weird, it's ok for me!' And leave her to ponder.

PerkyPomPoms · 25/04/2020 00:19

Cheeky!

PleasantVille · 25/04/2020 10:17

OMG - saying “mine's fine” has replaced “change the password”

She can't say that, the CF had a conversation with the OP about it just days ago.

For posters who don't believe this there are regular threads of this type, for some it's quite a normal thing to do it seems.

Do you need it for your work? Saying it's a work rule that you can't have anyone else using it would get you out of it nicely.

purplecorkheart · 25/04/2020 10:43

How old is your son? Make sure that he does not know the password or knows not to give it to her or anyone if he does. There is a chance she could ask him.

Beautiful3 · 25/04/2020 11:01

Just say, " I've stopped paying for the internet. Not something I can afford right now. So you ll have to get your own." Or "my internet's down, having alot of problems with it, may just cancel it."

Hannah021 · 25/04/2020 11:13

Never share ur password, they can see ur traffic and know what ur doing, steal passwords pictures and whatever they want on ur machines, infect machines with viruses, etc.

Reply and say we dont need the internet anymore, so we removed it.

Justus77 · 25/04/2020 11:22

I wouldn’t lie - “sorry but I was kind of freaked out that you could hear my son and have realised that sharing my WiFi password was not one of my cleverer ideas - I know you’ll understand but I can’t share it but happy to pass on the details of my provider that have been reliable”

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Imrubbishatuserables · 25/04/2020 11:54

He is 11. He has no idea that I have changed the internet name or password. He just thinks it was playing up.. he has asd so quite happy not knowing what's going on around him.. have had constant knocks on the door this morning. I have a rule that if I'm not dressed or bra wearing I dont answer it.

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Weregoingonanadventure · 25/04/2020 12:05

You live in the same building. As much as you want to ignore this, it isnt going to go away. Just send her a short message and after that, dont engage on the matter.

Say something like "hi neighbour. It has been quite a few months since you needed wifi access so I assumed you had sorted your own out by now. I didnt realise you were still using mine until you joked about misusing my google speakers. With my son being involved, I just cant have that so I've changed my password and I cant share it with you. My provider is X and I'm sure they will get you connected quickly if you set up an account. I'm glad I've been able to help you with the wifi for these last few months."

Honeyroar · 25/04/2020 12:07

Do you think it was her knocking on the door?

sunflowersandtulips50 · 25/04/2020 12:08

Agree with PP, this isn't going to go away. She clearly feels able to text you and knock on the door so your going to have to deal
With it. She clearly thinks your a push over

baubled · 25/04/2020 12:08

I don't think she's going to let this drop OP, put some clothes on and answer the door, the longer it goes on the worse it's going to get. She is a massive CF but she obviously thought you didn't mind otherwise she wouldn't have mentioned your sons speaker thing.

Put your big girl pants on and either tell her the truth or as the others have said tell her yours is down too. The longer you ignore her messages/knocks the more annoyed she's going to get which will blow the situation up even more.

lynzpynz · 25/04/2020 12:14

Agree with pps - she's going to keep harassing you until you respond. She has zero right to your WiFi, and you need to be blunt with her. Don't wait till she catches you off-guard, prepare what you want to say - someone this brazen is going to walk all over you if you don't. They see politeness as an open invitation.

Hannah021 · 25/04/2020 12:22

@Imrubbishatuserables just reply to the text, u dont need to dress up. "A short text, sorry we removed the internet, we arent using it."
you dont need to explain anything. Put your router in a place she wont seecit if she knocks

Weregoingonanadventure · 25/04/2020 12:30

@Hannah021
That wont work. The network will still show up on her devices; she will know it is still there.

Dont lie. Dont make up a story. Dont ignore it. Just tell the truth.
She is not entitled to use your services. You pay for those. She made jokes about misusing it. You've removed her access. That's it.

PleasantVille · 25/04/2020 12:35

I like @Justus77 's suggestion - try that wording.

Hannah021 · 25/04/2020 12:36

@Weregoingonanadventure she renamed it. And lots of devices from different neighbours appear. She cant prove anything.

blettedmedlar · 25/04/2020 12:39

What a cf! Don't fall for any sob stories - people like her have no shame.

Boxingmama · 25/04/2020 12:40

Just tell her you cancelled the wifi as wasnt using it, you dont owe her an explanation really but that gets her to fuck off for a bit haha, as you have changed the router name and password she wont know the new network name is yours, so if she mentions it say "dunno who's that is"
And move your hub from display so she cant see it.

RaspberryBubblegum · 25/04/2020 12:47

I would also say I cancelled as I wasn't using it. Then she'll never ask again!

TopBitchoftheWitches · 25/04/2020 12:49

Op just tell her, why drag this out like this? Tell her you changed the password and she needs to arrange her own WiFi.

heartsonacake · 25/04/2020 12:55

You just need to grow some balls and tell her the truth. Stop dragging it out and trying to hide from the situation with excuses of not being in/not being dressed/not replying to the text etc. etc.

mummymeister · 25/04/2020 12:57

"Hi Neighbour. I have changed the wifi password this morning. Please arrange for your own wifi in future as I will not be giving the password to you again. I realise this wasnt a particularly safe or tech savvy thing to have done."

I cant understand why nice people dont realise that cheeky fuckers dont care. Skirting around it will make her think she can wear you down and you will give in. if she messages you again after this, block her. dont let her become a menace.

TemoraryUsername · 25/04/2020 13:03

I know I'm very late to the thread but you should have just been honest and upfront at the beginning and dropped her a message - "Hi neighbour I wasn't aware until our conversation last week that you were still using my Internet, and I'm not okay with the potential security issues that brings. I've changed the password so you'll need to get your own now. Thanks, Jenny"

  • that text would do for now too. Just send it, if she whinges or complains say "No sorry I'm not okay with the security issues. Try [provider name] or mobile phone data. Thanks, Jenny" and if she persists broken record on "No, sorry."
mummmy2017 · 25/04/2020 13:07

I still think just says your is fine.

Let her try explaining she has been using your, then say oh well you need to use your phone's then