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AIBU to ask what you do with your hair in the shower?!

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Callaird · 19/04/2020 08:48

I sent a photo to a friend saying that you know that you’ve been in lockdown too long when you had pulled out more grey hairs than dark this morning.

My hair was stuck to the shower wall. She was appalled, said it is totally gross.

I do this all the time, wipe it off with a tissue and put it in the bin. I hate hair, makes me cringe, even my own but I hate cleaning out the shower trap even more, slimey hair is worse. (Obviously some get through so I clean it out daily!)

She said that it was disgusting to stick it to the wall and that she just left it to her cleaner to clean it out each week. I think that is gross, poor cleaner and like us, hasn’t had a cleaner for 4 weeks, she hasn’t cleaned out the trap.

What do you do with your hair in the shower?

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CaptSkippy · 19/04/2020 10:42

Never thought of combing my hair before washing it. Shock But I am going try it next time. I also try to catch the hairs before they go to the drain and throw them away after my shower. Why would that be gross? As long as you clean up after yourself.

A few times a year I poor some draino down the shower drain. It also breaks down any dust that was left to gather.

ArgumentativeAardvaark · 19/04/2020 10:43

Am going to speak to DH now - has he spent years cleaning my hair out of the plug and not telling me?

Quite possibly; I have spent years cleaning my husband’s skid marks off the toilet - I swear he thinks they magically disappear by themselves. I realised a while ago that it was too late to mention it as he’d be mortified. Before this becomes a tangent discussion, I am at peace with it for all sorts of reasons, there is a quid pro quo and I am not a domestic doormat.

I also stick my hair on the wall of the shower, the main reason being that you can’t really get it off your hands/body by rinsing alone so you have to use the wall/screen to “catch” it. The tiles are dark and it’s hard to see, so sometimes I forget and leave it there, I suspect my husband does rinse it off now and again (see above). I don’t shed a lot though.

I also LOVE cleaning out the shower trap, and the bigger the clump of hair I find the better (it’s a bit like sporning I reckon).

OP, I hope your hair is just coming out and you are not actually pulling out the hairs in the shower- how could you get a grip or see which ones you were pulling?

Sandinyourshoes · 19/04/2020 10:45

I have shoulder length hair, never use conditioner. Most of my loose hair comes out after leaving the shower when I comb it out over the handbasin and it then goes straight in the bin.
Every month I dismantle the shower drain thingy, which is always slimy by then, remove as much hair as possible with kitchen roll and tweezers, clean the cup part and soak the top bit that fits into the cup in hot water with detergent and bleach for an hour or so. Its a job I hate. I put bleach down the drain and have drain unblocker ready for if the shower starts draining slowly.
Its so much easier if the shower is over the bath, you can just have a hair catcher and pour down drain unblocker if needed!
Have seriously considered getting my hair cut short again to minimise shower drain cleaning but from past experience with short hair I just know I’ll have to start using mousse everyday and getting it cut every few weeks.

koshkatt · 19/04/2020 10:52

I have spent years cleaning my husband’s skid marks off the toilet - I swear he thinks they magically disappear by themselves

I know that you didn't want any comment on this but why on earth would anyone DO this?

CrunchyCarrot · 19/04/2020 10:52

I don't have a shower but this still applies for washing one's hair in the bath. I put any hair that falls out on the rim of the bath (it's an old enamel one so has about 6 cm width), then once I've finished my bath I wipe it up with a kitchen towel and discard. This prevents more than a small amount getting in the plug hole. I also clean that out every so often.

So I think sticking it to your shower wall makes a lot of sense and saves you some work later!

Needtobepositive · 19/04/2020 10:59

What? I just wash my hair. Doesn’t block the drain or fall out. Not heard of this.

cyffredinol · 19/04/2020 10:59

I also stick mind to the wall. I do brush my hair before I wash it but that doesn't remove it all. I find that this is the easiest way of doing it, as during and after conditioning it I find a lot of hair comes out in my hand. Putting it to one side makes perfect sense to me than clogging up the drain. I remove with tissue later. Obviously some hair goes down the drain - I remove that with tissue too.

Cosmos45 · 19/04/2020 10:59

I do exactly the same as you OP. I have really thick curly hair and when I wash it and particularly when I condition it i have loads of hair in my hands, loads of it. There is no way I want that going down to the drain catcher thingy.. I would be blocked within minutes and need constant cleaning out so I gather it all up from my hands and stick it to the side of the shower until I get out and wipe it up with tissue and throw it in the bin or flush it down the loo.

randomchap · 19/04/2020 11:02

I mourn it's loss.

Don't need to buy shampoo though

Lockheart · 19/04/2020 11:02

I have very short hair so this isn't a problem.

But I don't understand what's gross about sticking it to a tile to clean up when you're finished? It's your hair. It was on your head 2 seconds before you stuck it to the tile. What is it about the tile that suddenly makes it disgusting? Is it only disgusting when it's wet? Do you all live with constant horror of what's growing out of your head? If so, surely shaving it all off presents a much easier way to live.

ArgumentativeAardvaark · 19/04/2020 11:11

@koshkatt because if he has left the house and I want to use the loo it’s just quicker to give the toilet a quick scrub with the brush. He’s my husband, I am not that fussed about quickly scrubbing a little bit of his poo off a toilet- having a child has made me fairly blasé about poo in general.

JustTurtlesAllTheWayDown · 19/04/2020 11:12

I also lose a lot when I shower. It comes out when I comb through with my fingers to rinse off the shampoo and conditioner, so most doesn't make it to the drain.
I roll it into balls and pop them into the soap dish. When I get out, I take it with me and put in the bin.
Leaving for the cleaner is grim as is leaving it on the wall until the next person gets in.

callmeadoctor · 19/04/2020 11:19

Who are you all that are pulling your hair out in shower? I just wash my hair and get out!!!!!!!! What a strange thread..

JRUIN · 19/04/2020 11:21

I put mine on the rim of the bath, then just pick up the clump and bin it when I'm done. I would never post a pic of it to anyone though. That IS gross.

Tunnocks34 · 19/04/2020 11:22

On the wall. Even if I brush my hair I can guarantee more will come out in the wash.

Candyfloss99 · 19/04/2020 11:25

Your own wet hair that's come out of your head disgusts people that much? Confused

Zombiemum1946 · 19/04/2020 11:27

Wash my hair before having a shower. Ours is over the bath so I just put the plug in, clear the hair out then have my shower.

Grinchbinch · 19/04/2020 11:30

Wall. Also reminds me to spray down the shower. Can't think of anything worse than picking hairs out of the drain.

packetandtripe · 19/04/2020 11:31

I would try to stick any stray hairs back on my head. Being a logical person I am so sad that I can't even contribute normally to this thread - feel lucky OP that you excess hair to discuss (going looking now for the correct topic to post under - photos will be included)

bluebeck · 19/04/2020 11:32

This is probably the most mystifying thing I have ever read on Mumsnet Grin

I have long very thick curly hair. I have never noticed it coming out when in the shower - this is actually a thing? I am in my fifties and every day is still a school day on Mumsnet!!

beargrass · 19/04/2020 11:34

I have a drainer thing to catch it all. But when I'm in the shower, I stick it on the side of the bath as otherwise I just have to pick it out of the drainer! It astounds me that no one has yet invented some kind of solution like with regular sinks. Drains blocked by hair must be avoidable in some clever way?!

anothernotherone · 19/04/2020 11:43

I've had long hair for decades and shared accommodation and shower facilities with various long haired women in my student and early 20s house share days (in the years before students had ensuites) and I've never encountered sticking your hair to the door! That is the most bizzare revelation of this morning so far (the only other revelation was at work this morning when a resident insisted he needed to heat up a fork in boiling water to draw out poison because he had a wasp sting and other residents backed him up, then a colleague arrived and said that was a perfectly normal thing...)

ASandwichNamedKevin · 19/04/2020 11:46

Yes I put the hair on the wall (it comes out in my hands as I apply shampoo or conditioner) then at the end of the shower put it in the bin.

I can't see how that is more gross than letting it clog up the plughole.

I don't leave the hair for anyone else to find or clean.

@sufferingsandra could you not just put the hair in the bin instead of flushing down the toilet.
We had a guest to stay who put hair (and dental floss, boke) down the toilet. Unpleasant and a waste of water. Might not be great for fatbergs either.

anothernotherone · 19/04/2020 11:52

The only time my hair has ever come out in my hands was when I moulted after pregnancy and breastfeeding.

Weirdly my hair comes off on my jumpers / tops if I'm wearing certain fabrics, or on my husband's jumpers, but never in my hands...

The drain cover thing does catch hair but I've never had hair in my hands in the shower...

Is this a difference in shampoo, or hair types, or washing techniques...

My job involves washing other people's hair sometimes and I've never had hair come out in my hands then either...Confused

percentageshelp · 19/04/2020 11:59

I just give mine a really good brush before I wash it then hardly any comes out in the shower.