To be annoyed about my neighbours complaining

[BuzzingtheBee]

About my children playing in the garden? And us playing music over the bank holiday weekend (not loud)? The children only play out when its nice weather so not that much, I’m happy they are outside and not stucknto ipads etc!

Well done on your patronising non response because you know I’m right. I’m not responding to you any further because you’re being condescending and aren’t actually interested in an actual discussion or debate.

Says the person who responded to my post pointing out this was a public forum with............... shut up! Genius @Summersun77

@summersun nothing worse - my ex husband used to wear headphones when we sat outside so we either sat in silence or if have to irritate him by asking him to take them out every time I wanted to say something. Mind you, he didn't do it out of consideration for neighbours he just didn't want to talk to me haha

@hannah021 that makes me sad. If we have a bbq (rarely) I pop round and let the close by neighbours know in case they're planning on putting washing out something like that.

Again, I don't see why your enjoyment in normal activities should be totally taken away from you because you have neighbours. Fair enough if it was bbqs every night but really....? Never?

Playing music that your neighbours can hear is selfish, twattish behaviour

There’s no need for loud music now with wireless headphones widely available.

Are you playing the music inside or in the garden? If the former, YANBU unless it's loud or at a time when they are trying to sleep. If the latter, YABU.

YANBU about the children playing in the garden, unless they are being particularly noisy.

But, whether you're reasonable or not, if the neighbours are repeatedly complaining about your music, I'd suggest investing in some headphones for the sake of peace on both sides.

I think a bbq is fine, as long as it isn't all the time. Lots of people like the smell anyway. You could always check with your neighbours first in case they hand washing out. Music should be almost never because it's unnecessary listen indoors or go outside and enjoy the natural sounds!

Music no, kids not an issue if playing happily and not constantly screaming or kicking a ball against a wall, again and again, and again and again and again. Remember, some people are still working
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God, this makes me so grateful that, tho I live on an estate, it's pretty 'MC' so I'd say 99.9% of the inhabitants have been brought up to respect others' rights to quiet enjoyment of their gardens; aurally unmolested by some of the cretinous behaviour I've encountered on this thread!

Yes, sometimes some of the DC can be a bit screamy; yes; once a year school-leavers congregate for an hour or so out on the road, being noisy; but you just don't hear music or loud TVs when you're out in your garden, as everyone is grown up enough to know that that's fucking low-rent and bloody annoying.

Tho it seems like it, I completely sympathise with anyone with consideration and an understanding of the basic manners needed to coexist in close proximity to others, but who can't afford to move away from the congenitally ignorant. Tho I loathed Thatcher, she did have a point about the plight of the Working Classes having to live among the moronic underclass.

Kids playing = totally reasonable at any time and completely necessary right now. The physical and mental health of this cohort of children is vital, they have no school no parks no playgrounds no swimming no friends. They need their gardens and if they're a bit noisy so be it. They are our future.
Music = unreasonable, as someone else said, you are taking your neighbours' choice of music away from them and dictating that they should listen to yours.

@miljea naice middle class children screaming in the garden is always okay.

@carriebreadshaw 🤣🤣

The point is, one if the 'markers' of being 'MC' is knowing how to behave appropriately.

As I have already stated, my sympathies lie with people who understand the rules of social interaction, recognise that what they want isn't necessarily what their neighbours want- thus don't do it- but who have to live cheek by jowl with ignorant fekkers who little know, and less care about their neighbours' enjoyment of their gardens.

It's not hard to grasp.

It isn’t a class issue.

@Miljea the same also applies to working, upper middle and the aristocracy. It has fuck all to do with which you belong to. But you're probably right that only some of the middle class consider it a unique marker of their status.

What if the music was Mozart or Chopin. Would that be middle class?

@Miljea hahaha you sound like someone i'll get on with really well... You spoke my heart word for word haha

People with true class do not feel the need to belittle others to feel superior.

ODFOD Hyacinth, little Tarquin needs some bitty.

No problem with children playing out but I don't like to hear other people's music it's intrusive and annoying.

No decent considerate neighbour would play music in theIf garden loud enough that other neighbours hear it in their gardens.

Get wireless headphones and wear them - you get to listen to your music and neighbours get some peace.

Don't inflict your noise on others.

Haha, the flouncing going on in here is brilliant

To sum up: annoying your neighbours with loud music in your garden = you’re an idiot.

To base your impassioned argument and stroppy namecalling in a defence of “low volume background music that you could easily chat over at e.g a bbq” = you can’t read. No one was talking about unobtrusive music. Nul points, re-read the thread.

Please don’t stop though - flounce away, it’s great

Still laughing about the bitty comment above. Such venom to release

it was humour

Bitty is funny... or is it real?