To be annoyed about my neighbours complaining

[BuzzingtheBee]

About my children playing in the garden? And us playing music over the bank holiday weekend (not loud)? The children only play out when its nice weather so not that much, I’m happy they are outside and not stucknto ipads etc!

I always use Bluetooth headphones if I want to listen to my music in the garden.

If the music was loud enough for them to hear then it was too loud.
Doesn’t really matter what it is but music with a constant beat (like my neighbour was blasting at the weekend) is more annoying in my opinion.

We’re you playing music in your garden? Just imagine if everyone did that...

YABVU and selfish re the music.

As for kids playing, you have to expect some noise, but it's impossible to say whether YABU on that front without knowing the level of noise and whether it was constant etc.

I think in your case, if you've misjudged how annoying your music is to others then you've probably also misjudged the level of the kids noise.

the three witches next to me always screech at my kids on the trampoline. They are quite shy so they didn't go out the garden much last year.

When they do shout at them now, I put up a screen and play music loudly on the solar WiFi speaker.

When they are really rude I pump out thrash metal for a little while. Then the kids seem not so bad.

It isn't just my kids they shout at, my lovely neighbours kids get it too.

All children being under 10.

You will get these people. The seem to think that they are better than other people, more important. They aren't.

The kids use the garden a few times a day, they have silence the rest of the time.

I like hearing children playing in gardens, it's (usually) such a happy sound.

I detest hearing other people's music when I'm outside in my garden, it's anti-social and unnecessary. That applies even if I don't mind the type of music, I don't want to hear it!

Oh dear I was singing in my garden today probably badly but then my neighbours dog barks all day

chickenyhead

you say your neighbours are horrible, but you sound just as vile

Children playing - fine. Music - not fine.

Playing music is the garden for all your neighbours to endure is not ok. Also not fine is barking dogs but thankfully you haven’t mentioned one of those.

Music YABU

Children? We don't know, but if they were screaming, shouting, kicking a ball in a fence or just bouncing it repeatedly, it would drive anyone nuts. Laughing and "indoor voice" is fine.

If you thought your music was fine, not sure you are the best judge of what is acceptable noise level.

Love to hear children having fun in the garden. I would not like to hear music though. Everyones taste is different.

Meet them half way and lose the music.

chickenyhead
I sincerely hope your neighbours will report your anti-social behaviour and you will end up being fine accordingly. On what planet do you think it's ok to make such a nuisance of yourself? Move to a deserted area if you want to play your music.

@steppemum

Why thank you!

Years of my kids being too scared to play has forced me to find solutions. I also put up CCTV.

My kids should feel safe in their garden.

Playing music in a garden is just like playing music on a bus or in a train. Nobody else gets a choice and can't escape. It's very selfish.

Let the children play. Turn the music off.

Children fine, they have just as much right as anybody else to use their garden in these days when, apart from a short exercise period, there is no more outdoor space for them

Music ...No way. For the same reason as above. The problem is op that your choice of music may not be theirs and even in normal circumstances you should not be imposing your choice of music into your neighbour's garden. This is even more important in these lock down days as, like your children, they have no other options for outdoor space once they've had their short allowed exercise time.

@BuzzingtheBee
Yes mum, thank you.

I play the music WHEN they bully my children.

Think pavlov

I think it's totally unacceptable to play music in your garden or music which can be heard outside. Especially in the current situation.
The children need to play in the garden and the weather is lovely, however, they need to be taught to respect their neighbours and not scream!
I also think that loud noise between 11am and 7pm is excessive.

If they can hear your music when they are inside their property,it is too loud. It's selfish and anti-social.The children playing in the garden is fine.

Depends on the music.
If you were playing some of the shit doing the rounds these days I would be pissed off.
If its loud enough for the neighbours to be complaining then its too loud and disturbing everyone. Not everyone wants to listen to your taste in music its not hard to understand, it blocks out everything else. If I want to listen to music I will chose what I want you dont get to chose for me.

Urgh, no one wants to listen to your music, that’s so antisocial. Kids will be kids although screaming and shouting should still be tempered

Children playing is fine, as long as they are not being ridiculous (screaming contests...). It can be irritating but that's just what children do.

Music is unreasonable, it's so continuous, and unnecessary, since you could just play it through headphones. It travels, particularly anything with bass. And often goes on for hours, in a way that no conversation or kids' game does.

It's as if the music players have selfishly appointed themselves dj for the whole street.

Another vote for kids noise and against music. I like hearing kids playing, it's not particularly intrusive. Music? It's made my garden miserable over the last week or so. About 3 of our neighbours have decided they'll play music in their gardens. It's awful. I can't even keep the windows open let alone enjoy my own garden. Please either keep it really low or use headphones.

You wouldn’t expect me to come into your house and change the TV channel to what I wanted to watch, so why is it ok to foist your choice of music on your neighbours?

Why on earth is music in the garden unacceptable? It's a nice day, it's played at a reasonable level, put on the music and have a dance with the kids outside. We play a variety of music from blippy, wiggles, to classic rock, to recent pop songs to Eurovision. We have a laugh and a giggle.