Do you wake sleeping teens or leave them be?

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Should they be up because it’s day time and everyone else is up or should they be left to suit themselves as there is literally nothing for them to do, nowhere for them to go and no-one to see?

YANBU= wake them
YABU= leave them be

To answer person above, I am naturally a night owl, always have been. I now work an evening job, however previously I could get up for my morning job. Naturally at weekends I revert to up all night and sleeping all day. My husband is the same.

@ColourMyDreams, different days... Not plenty to be getting on with now...

My own 15 ds has to get up at 8 latest even during the hols

Why though?
If there is no reason to be up at 8, it seems controlling to force them to.

Wake them up for what, exactly? There's not exactly anything for them to be getting on with!

Let them sleep.

I find the ‘plenty to be getting on with’ thing baffling.

Yes of course there are always! (Even now!) jobs we can get on with and be doing. But does it actually matter if the teen does these things at 9am or 5pm? Baffling.

Mine were woken and hoofed out of bed at no later than nine in the morning.

Christ. I'm glad you're not my mother!

Would you force your husband up and out of bed because you don't think he should be "idling"?

1pm is the wake up point here but their hunger usually wakens them before that!
I do make sure they’ve at least changed their pjs every day

There's always plenty to be getting on with rather than idling in bed.

Theres really not though. Not at the minute. All the housework, laundry and gardening is up to date. I’ve been spending my time, reading, knitting, MNing, walking the dog, chatting with younger DS. When he is up in the day he has been playing guitar, reading, watching some tv and chatting to friends. All stuff that he can delay to later in the day anyway.

Mine are 14 and 16. I tend to (gently) wake them by 10am as I think it’s important for their mental health to keep them in a regular cycle of eating three meals a day and getting daylight etc. The weather has been so beautiful I’ve been encouraging them to get outside as much as possible too.

Probably makes me a strict parent but 🤷🏻‍♀️

My two (18 & 21) wake up around 2pm go to bed around 3/4am. I just leave them to it.

@MamaGee09 DD 16 was staying in bed until 2pm and then not even showering, she was becoming quieter and withdrawn and, to be fair, a but lazy. She’s better now she is downstairs, washed, dressed and fed by noon.

My nearly 9yo is in training to be a teen.

She’s been waking up between 10am and 12:30.

This works for us as I can get my work out of the way mostly before she’s up. So she’s not ‘by herself’ for hours on end.

At the moment the online socialising they do late at night is the only socialising they are doing.

It's important they have that outlet imo so I'm leaving the teens to it much more than normal.

I wake mine up at 11am no later. They are 15/16 year old boys and would be up all night raiding the kitchen and disturbing the rest of the family like DD 19 who has a temp job in Tescos and needs to be up at 6am. They then have to have a bath or shower and get dressed and get some fresh air during the day. I think some sort of routine is good for them along with a bit of exercise for wellbeing but apart from that they are left to vegetate.

Oops I voted the wrong one. I leave my teens be. They’re not always asleep late, sometimes they just can’t be bothered to get up.

i wish mine would lay in ! up far too early, moody and miserable all day long !

Demented
He had to feed his ponies.

20yo has to wake up early-ish for his online University lectures .
I make sure he gets up, washed and dressed so he's in the right mindset to work these days , otherwise we let him sleep late/stay up late .

DD wakes up when she needs coffee

DH is WFH so gets up 6.30 to start his day at 8.00
I have t leave about 7.15 , I'm the only one who has to go out .

I leave mine, but if I still haven't heard any movement from them come around 2pm I start shouting "Are you alive up there?" If no reply, I'll go up and check on them........just incase.

@Vanillaandhoney I don't need to, he's always been an early riser himself.
Plenty to be getting on with in the house and garden.

Mine are 15 &18 mon-fri one has to get up at 9am to look after the 2 little ones while I go work. Their dad comes round at 11:30 to take over until I get back from work. The teens rotate this so that one gets a lay in.

Forgot to say that I've had 4 days and they both slept in until 2pm. I just leave them be.

4 days off

Who are you talking to Nicky?