Female 'friend' sent this to DH - can anyone translate from Polish?

[tippingpoint14]

So, my husband has a female friend. Big deal, he has many. I've never had a problem with his female friends. Ever. In fact, I've become friends with all the others. Love them to bits.

Until this one. She's also married and something about her jars with me. Then this popped up on his phone yesterday. He had sent her a picture of our son excited about Easter eggs. She replied with this meme, followed by the word for "sweetie" in Polish with hug emoji.

If someone out there speaks fluent Polish, please translate and let me know AIBU to feel uncomfortable with this woman sending this sort of thing to my husband. Much appreciated.

*translate it. It seems innocent.

I wouldnt like a message like that. Go with your gut

Glogirl1 said it. It's about how he reacted. And how he reacts to you.

It's a bouncy, slightly subversive joke and could be an invitation to anything or nothing. The key point is that słodziak referend to sweter child photo and not DH. Which is a crucial point!

Sweet child photo
(still had Polish keyboard on!)

On its own I wouldn't say suspiscious, but how else does she get your spidey senses going OP? It might make more sense.

Yester yes ponczek is a good word!! 😀 my first husband called me it (as a joke! I hope!!!!)

I work with a number of polish/romanian/slavic people. They use sweetie/dear/my love like we use people’s names

@ponchek So at the end of the meme message, she wrote: Slodziak 🤗 ?

Correct

Ponchek how funny lol it's "pączek" means doughnut but we use it in a cute way

'Slodziak' would've been her reply to the picture of your son - no Polish person would call anyone they're romantically interested in 'Slodziak', it just wouldn't happen. the word is reserved for children.

@AngusThermopyle He does message her but I don’t think I’ve posted about that particular thing before. Must be another mumsnetter.

@ponchek No, you’re being really helpful! So the slodziak and hug sent after the meme is a delayed reaction to the picture of my son, you think?

What else does she do that makes you suspicious of her? What has she done with other men?

@tippingpoint14 correct. The meme is a joke. She's saying that she's sick of being cooped up with her family (no 'subliminal messages to your DH' there like some hysterical posters would have you think), and 'slodziak' is reserved for 'cute' things, like animals and little children, but definitely not adults.

(I am 1/2 Polish and fluent in the language.)

@YouAreTheEggManIAmTheWalrus Why on earth would I want to be cheated on? I hardly leapt down anyone’s throat. I was questioned about my behaviour and merely asked what was wrong with my behaviour. I haven’t even indicated any behaviour on my part. Strange conclusions to draw about someone who is simply asking for a native speaker to help me understand why this married woman I don’t trust (the first in 10 years of my being with DH I might add) might be sending these sorts of messages.

The pic is from an Ingrid Bergman/Gregory Peck/Hitchcock thriller called Spellbound.

I’ve sent a male friend memes of people pouring vodka on their cornflakes while their children pester them with questions.....doesn’t mean I’m suggesting I’m an alcoholic, or that my family drive me mad, and both he and DH would take it as a lockdown joke. BUT it sounds to me like there’s more to this for you to express concern in this way. Is he secretive with his phone? Does he mention her a lot?

They are both Polish and speak Polish.

@YippeeKayakOtherBuckets He didn’t reply. I am almost certain she is flirting with him, given what I know of and have observed of her. I can’t work out if he is aware of this and enjoying it/flirts back or is totally oblivious. I’ve witnessed women flirting outrageously with him before and he’s been totally unaware.

@Yester We had a car we called bułka once!

@crispysausagerolls No! Another case of mistaken identity. What were the disgusting comments?

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'Slodziak' would've been her reply to the picture of your son - no Polish person would call anyone they're romantically interested in 'Slodziak', it just wouldn't happen. grin the word is reserved for children.

Thank you. I get it. It’s a complex language so I can see how things get misunderstood.

Most posters who are actually fluent in polish rather than using Google translate, have told you this is not flirting, the meme is a joke about lockdown and slodziack would never be used to refer to an intimate partner or even an adult, it's used to refer to cute animals/little children etc. Despite this you still go back to blaming her for flirting with your poor unaware man. Three things, firstly this is clearly not flirting you're looking for something where there is nothing, secondly why are you going through his phone it's not ok, thirdly if he cheats he cheats and it won't be the fault of a 'flirty' woman it will be a choice he made for himself.

It’s impossible to know from this small amount of information whether OP’s husband is cheating or not, or even if there is a slightly flirty, risqué frisson between them. There is a whole other context beyond this one text. Actually whether this is or isn’t appropriate, is irrelevant. OP’s feelings are relevant and valid, no matter what. If she is feeling insecure, this is information about the relationship. The thing that counts is how this is spoken about between the couple and if it can’t be spoken about, that is dangerous for the relationship.

@ChocolateDove She ignores me most of the time if I happen to be with my DH when they catch up and talks only in Polish, even though they both speak fluent English. So I’m effectively left out of conversations. She fusses about my husband being “hospitable” when we’ve been to her place. Yet seems to “forget” me giggle giggle. Once she asked me if I wanted a coffee she had made for someone else because they didn’t want it. Sweet.

She always asks about DH mum (never me) who she met once and lavished with hugs and expensive gifts for some unknown reason. But hey, I did have my cold, second-hand coffee...

She loves to make herself out to be cool and rebellious, so if her (seemingly nice) husband asks if she needs a hat/jacket/coat because of the weather she shrugs him off and does her cutesy giggle about how “My husband can’t tell me what to do. I do what I want.” She doesn’t speak very nicely about him so complaining about being stuck with him at this time is not really a joke.

She giggles and flirts with other men (not just mine). A group of male friends (and her) went out for the night recently. She’s draped all over each one of them with her boobs in their faces in the photos.

They have a group chat and if one of the guys says he has to ask his GF/wife before they agree to a catch up she replies with 😱😱😱, as if we’re all ball breakers. Including me.

My husband visited her with my son when I was working once. Apparently her husband was there. When I finished work my son said he had been to “Mama OW’s” house. That one really ground my gears. I mean WTF did that come from.