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Female 'friend' sent this to DH - can anyone translate from Polish?

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tippingpoint14 · 13/04/2020 05:54

So, my husband has a female friend. Big deal, he has many. I've never had a problem with his female friends. Ever. In fact, I've become friends with all the others. Love them to bits.

Until this one. She's also married and something about her jars with me. Then this popped up on his phone yesterday. He had sent her a picture of our son excited about Easter eggs. She replied with this meme, followed by the word for "sweetie" in Polish with hug emoji.

If someone out there speaks fluent Polish, please translate and let me know AIBU to feel uncomfortable with this woman sending this sort of thing to my husband. Much appreciated.

Female 'friend' sent this to DH - can anyone translate from Polish?
OP posts:
ponchek · 13/04/2020 08:18

Słodziak 🤗

?

AllTheseThingsThatIHaveNotDone · 13/04/2020 08:21

Isn't that sweetie as in cutie? as in shit, afterthought, meme not appropriate, cutie and hug will fix it....

AllTheseThingsThatIHaveNotDone · 13/04/2020 08:22

Either way, he's told you there's nothing in it, you either trust your partner or you don't.

AgentJohnson · 13/04/2020 08:22

Like I said, of all the memes she could send, why one about trying to get away from family?

People have tried to tell you it’s not specifically about your H leaving his family. You do understand the concept of lost in translation?

In itself it looks innocuous, what other ‘red flags’ are there?

YippeeKayakOtherBuckets · 13/04/2020 08:23

She’s predatory. No woman with good intentions would send that to a married man.

But I don’t know whether that means you have anything to worry about. Did your DH agree with you that it’s close to the bone? Or doesn’t he know you’ve seen it.

AngusThermopyle · 13/04/2020 08:23

Op, are you the poster who has asked about your husbands messages to his friend before? If not, I apologise, but if it is you, seriously he is a prick and he has consistently shown he values the relationship with her rather than considering your feelings. Take the advise on your other thread and LTB.

ponchek · 13/04/2020 08:24

Ok I think I might have got it:

She might have meant it in relation to your son being a little cutie!

Pic of sweet son with Easter egg

Response:

Oh the little darling 🤗

Maybe?

ponchek · 13/04/2020 08:28

As in

Aw, cute 🤗

(ok, I'll stop now! But it would make sense. And whereas 'Kotku' is vocative so addressed directly to the person, 'słodziak' isn't - it's an observation as in 'he's a cutie')

LuluBellaBlue · 13/04/2020 08:29

Just wanted to say @ponchek you’re absolutely fabulous at translating / explaining! Really good - thank you :)

NoMoreDickheads · 13/04/2020 08:30

Ok. From what PP's have said, this is a joke meme people are sharing on FB.

I don''t speak Polish but I imagine it goes something like this:-

'- I can't do it anymore.

  • Hold on kitty. When it ends, we'll leave the whole family for a long vacation. In separate directions.'

So, what it's saying is that everyone who's living with anyone will want space by the end.

I wouldn't be too concerned about them sharing a meme or him calling her an affectionate name. But you could do with seeing more of the convo maybe, or keeping an eye on it.

the way I read it using Google Translate and my own mediocre Polish was that as soon as it was over they would escape their family/s together.

No, the couple are leaving in separate directions, because the partners have had enough of each other too. It's about a couple that are currently living together under lockdown- like her and her husband, or you and yours.

And it's not personal, it's a joke. I would only be offended if he'd sent her a long list of things you were doing that were annoying him.

catinb0oots · 13/04/2020 08:31

Yes @poncheck you are fab

YouAreTheEggManIAmTheWalrus · 13/04/2020 08:31

I get the impression you want this to be a case of him messing around so you have an excuse to LTB? And want some confirmation here before confronting him?

I’m basing that on the fact multiple posters have said it’s not about leaving family yet you still say you’re upset about dh friend sending a meme about leaving family behind. The other point I’m basing this on is how you defensively leapt down pp throat when they suggested being careful how you act if this is in fact innocent.

NoMoreDickheads · 13/04/2020 08:31

*her calling him

ponchek · 13/04/2020 08:32

Omg I can't stop but - it does change the whole thing again!

It could be she's sent a generally-shared meme about it being stressful being locked up with the family but then she's said what a cutie your son is.

So kind of playfully suggesting maybe it's a pain being cooped up with kids, but that his son is adorable anyhow.

It's still kind of flirty and a bit subversive, but nothing like as strong as it might have seemed.

She's talking to him in Polish though. Does he speak Polish?

YippeeKayakOtherBuckets · 13/04/2020 08:32

It’s a joke that skates very close to the wind and not something I would send to another woman’s husband. She knows what she’s doing.

It’s your DH response that would interest me.

Yester · 13/04/2020 08:37

@ponchek great translating. My Dad's Polish but I only speak a tiny bit. We called DS1 Ponchek (donut) until he is about 3. He was a little donut now he is a skinny 6 foot teenager it sounds ironic!

crispysausagerolls · 13/04/2020 08:37

Is this the woman who made disgusting comments about your pregnancy which your husband laughed at??

Libera88 · 13/04/2020 08:46

Please don't read into it. It's a joke about married couple saying that when the lockdown is over they will go on family holiday - in a different direction (implying they had enough of each other lol). "SÅ‚odziak" is usually used to describes cute children. I am Polish and if you need a further clarification PM me. Stop obsessing over it and Google translator translates it incorrectly.

fluffiphlox · 13/04/2020 08:47

That’s not Casablanca.

Darbs76 · 13/04/2020 08:52

It’s clearly a meme and is around the fact that people are being driven up the wall with their families right now. I don’t think this message is anything to do suspicious of. Clearly you have suspicions about this lady but if I received a meme from a male friend about family driving me mad during lockdown I wouldn’t think the person wanted to run off with me. I think you’re reading what you want into this. You seem to want it to suggest that.

Libera88 · 13/04/2020 08:52

and the lady in the picture calls the man "Kotku". Which means "kitty" and is used in Poland a lot.

Aneley · 13/04/2020 08:52

Or she just sent that meme to describe how she feels with her family after your DH shared a cute photo of your son. Sweetie/cutie would have been a response to that photo... if it came a bit later it could be the case of her realizing she never properly acknowledged the cute photo of your son. I honestly wouldn't be concerned in the least... unless there is more of a backstory to this.

Glogirl1 · 13/04/2020 08:54

If there is nothing going on, and your husband is a decent guy, he will be open to having this conversation with you and keen to prove to you that nothing romantic is happening. That might mean sharing this woman's texts with you. If there's nothing to hide, that wouldn't worry him. The clue will be in the conversation he has with you about this. In a solid relationship, difficult things can be spoken about and mutual respect for each other's feelings is key. You are unhappy about this and he needs to show you that your feelings are important to him. Just as it would be the other way around and you were reassuring him about a friendship with another man.

Mummyoflittledragon · 13/04/2020 08:55

Sounds like a joke from what others are saying.

Libera88 · 13/04/2020 08:56

Darbs75 and Aneley I agree with you, that's exactly what it looks like when you translated it - innocent.