To think that 10 easter eggs per child from MIL is atrocious

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MIL has just dropped off 10 easter eggs each to my 3 DCs (we maintained social distancing, she left them at the end of the path).

Now dont get me wrong, I am greatful, but 10 each? Really? I think this is not only overzealous, it also undermines me. I have told her in previous years that one egg each is more than enough, and maybe a small gift, however she continues to undermine me in front of my DCs.

I have allowed my DCs to choose one egg each from the pile to go with the eggs they have already received, and the rest will be dropped off at the local food bank next week. DH thinks I am being unreasonable, and has gone upstairs in a huff Happy Easter hey?

AIBU?

What, as in big eggs? Or like the creme eggs, or equivalent?

Big eggs, that’s bloody bonkers and yanbu. Little ones, eh I couldn’t get myself worked up, yabu.

You're doing the right thing by dropping it off to the food bank. You can tell your dh that some people me couldn't get hold of any chocolate eggs because they'd all sold out. Now that your mil bought 30 eggs, she has contributed to the unfair distribution of chocolate eggs by STOCKPILING.

That is way too many.
We don’t do 🐣 Easter here, it is not a tradition like this where I am from and DH is too busy (lazy) to organise anything. MIL is sending lots of chocolate every year even though my little ones don’t have chocolate yet.
We eat it. But it is all cheap chocolate full of tin foil that we have asked her not to send.
She also insists on delivering that traditional cake even though she knows I don’t eat fruit cake, the children can’t have it and DH is allergic to almonds.
I give up.

That's a crazy amount of chocolate. Next year I would stop her before she gets to the house. She is trying to undermine you on purpose.

I don't like it, but it's the most important celebration for MIL so I don't say anything. She listened to me about birthdays and Christmas and is being a bit more thoughtful rather than going overboard with the number of toys so I can't bring myself to say something about Easter. I'm always the bad guy though as I have to tell them to stop eating it. Long term, it's saving me money. I won't have to buy any desserts until Halloween!

Has she stockpiled though? My mam buys loads of eggs (ten grandchildren plus various nieces and nephews) but she buys them a couple at a time, one or two each time she goes food shopping.

With everything going on I personally couldn't get worked up about it. Its excitement for the DC, they're not going to be getting many sweets or treats for the foreseeable future, they can be snapped up and used in baking, etc. But that's me, this is about your DC and what you want. If you don't want them to have that many then donate them but you need to speak to your DH about MIL undermining you.

What size? Let them keep a few fgs, they are kids. You sound like a bit of a kill joy.

My boys have 6 each but thats from all different family members and I think that is even too much lol. We do a easter hunt ourselves and put a few small eggs in each plastic egg

YANBU. That would piss me right off.

10 is crazy but I’d let them keep more than one.

ughmaybenot, they are not small eggs she has brought huge grotesque eggs some including mugs i am not best pleased.

You are doing the right thing. Donate the rest, either to food bank or on an App such as next door.

Good point about her stockpiling meaning others haven't been able to buy.

I would also let her know what you have done. A cheery 'Thanks so much mil for the eggs, DC chose 1 each and the rest have gone to good causes.'

Meh it's excessive. But they've got 12 months til next Easter and they have a reasonable shelf life.

We tend to eat the bars/extras and the use the eggs to melt down for crispy cakes etc.

I dont buy my grandchildren easter eggs, I value their teeth

I think YAB a bit U, she didn’t gift them to you, and she’s not your mum, why not let your DH decide? Also 1 each out of 10 sounds a little harsh on the kids when they’ve seen them delivered, but that depends on the age of your kids and if they are ok with it. They could always have done some baking with spares (not like we don’t have enough time at the min) or been talked to so they came to the decision about donating some themselves then it could have been a positive experience for them, rather than what sounds like a stroppy one from you and your DH. I say that because the tone of your OP implys your clearly annoyed and have fallen out and refused to let the kids have the eggs (apart from 1 each) which just isn’t in the spirit of Easter, of course we don’t no how the conversation actually went so it’s hard to judge how unreasonable it is.

Ten each from one person? That’s insane. Why? What’s the logic? I’ve never heard of any child ever getting more than one from one person.

Thats shocking and just so excessive. 10 eggs each is far too much sugar for a child even if spread out over a long period of time. I would definitely use the opportunity to teach the children about giving. The food bank is a lovely idea although maybe set some aside and pop them on the door step of some elderly neighbours.

That's ridiculous, is she wanting to encourage them to binge or be sick?!

That's seriously abnormal behaviour, and it's sending harmful messages to your children about food stockpiling, normal levels of eating "treats" and parental Vs grandparents boundaries.

I mean, there is no "right" number because it depends how big they are, how good your children are at pacing Vs binging on sweets etc... But I'd be surprised if 10 is a good idea for anyone!

I'd say you made an error in how you handled it though tbh.

Now you've taught your MIL two things:

1. you and DH aren't on the same page (I assume she'll find out your DH wanted to give them 30 eggs!)
2. she can frame herself as good gran and you as bad party pooper mum like this in future

Much better to not give the kids the choice tbh, don't put them in that position. I'd suggest choosing the biggest for each child and giving them that one from gran.

And tell your DH to get a grip with his parental messaging here.

Is he or mil disordered eaters btw? (Nosy but this is the type of socially acceptable binging I am familiar with)

Yes it’s crazy but I don’t think you should give them away. Put them away and let them (and you and dh!) eat them over the next few months or use for baking. She bought them for the kids, bit crap to take them away from them immediately if they have seen them already.

Obscene, what was she thinking. What is she like at xmas/birthdays?

I have told her in previous years that one egg each is more than enough, and maybe a small gift, however she continues to undermine me in front of my DCs.

Did you tell her in front of your DC's that one egg is enough? Because I think that is quite rude. If you didn't tell her in front of your DC, then she's not undermining you because the DC's don't know about the conversation.
You really are overthinking it. Just take them, say thank you. Get the DC to write a letter (thanking her for each individual egg. Maybe then they'll ask her to not give them so many ) and tell the kids they can open one each Sunday until they're gone.

I think you have done exactly (eggs-actly) what i would do - let the kids choose a couple each, and donate the rest. MIL gets the joy of giving, the kids get chocolate, and the foodbank gets donations. Everyones a winner. Your DH just needs to pull his head out of his bum and get with the programme.

Your H has gone off in a huff about easter eggs - is he 5 years old?

He should be supporting you. How the hell does your MIL think they are going to get through 30 easter egg, where does she get the money, so much wrong with this.

I think your MIL can do what she wants with her money and you can do what you like with the eggs. Problems arise when kids are old enough to want what MIL has given them.

I dont buy my grandchildren easter eggs, I value their teeth

Do they not own a toothbrush?