To think that 10 easter eggs per child from MIL is atrocious

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MIL has just dropped off 10 easter eggs each to my 3 DCs (we maintained social distancing, she left them at the end of the path).

Now dont get me wrong, I am greatful, but 10 each? Really? I think this is not only overzealous, it also undermines me. I have told her in previous years that one egg each is more than enough, and maybe a small gift, however she continues to undermine me in front of my DCs.

I have allowed my DCs to choose one egg each from the pile to go with the eggs they have already received, and the rest will be dropped off at the local food bank next week. DH thinks I am being unreasonable, and has gone upstairs in a huff Happy Easter hey?

AIBU?

I dont buy my grandchildren easter eggs, I value their teeth

Typical Mumsnet comment. 🤣🤣🤣 As pp said do they not own a toothbrush?

OP, I’d just let them have the eggs. They don’t have to eat all of them today. 🤷🏻‍♀️ They’re a gift. I’d be pissed off with you too if I was your husband. You’re causing an issue where there isn’t one. Pointless.

I can top that - when DD was 3 MIL got her 23. 16 Kinder-sized M&S hollow ones, 6 large ones. Fucking madness.

It’s definitely excessive and think giving some away is a nice idea and teaches your children generosity, but I also think it’s a bit dramatic to be so outraged at this. I’m sure MIL will be finding it really difficult not to see her grandchildren and just wants to find a way to spoil them. Just laugh it off, it isn’t really a big deal.

Okay. I agree 10 eggs each is a lot. But these are unprecedented times and she can't see your children or spend time with you all this Easter as she might normally expect to do, so I can kind of understand why she went over the top.

Your children are also missing out on the family occasion this year so I think only letting them have one each is being a bit spiteful on your part really. You and your husband need to BOTH act like adults and make a joint decision this time.

For future reference maybe think of a game or something that MIL could buy the children if she wants to make a big gesture.

Your MIL is DH's mum. Sorry but I think you are wrong to do something that your DH is unhappy with. It would have been easy to ration them out.

It's ridiculous but judging by my fb news feed it's the norm these days. YABU to describe a chocolate egg as 'grotesque' though. That makes me wonder if you're exaggerating a little on the sizes of the eggs (for instance the ones with mugs are small eggs with only a handful of sweets)

That's ridiculous tbf. And she dropped them but you know you can still catch stuff off boxes bags etc which is exactly why no one will be dropping the usual eggs here.

Maybe your MIL feels like the shit loads of eggs are replacements for all the cuddles/kisses she can’t give them at the minute?

I agree with this. It's too many but it's probably a loving gesture and you should accept them in a kind way. I do think it's nice to donate some of them though and spread the love.

Also YABU to give what's to the food bank a free Easter. What use do you think they'll have for a load of unwanted eggs next week. Keep them and use for krispie cakes etc.

YANBU

Why would a child need 10 large Easter eggs? That’s ridiculously excessive!

Where are you meant to keep all of them?

Meant to say after Easter. Don't know what happened there

melt them down and make cornflake cakes and other things with the kids, they'll enjoy doing that on lockdown

You are such a miserable cow, Op! I’m not surprised your dh has gone upstairs irritated with you. Your mil went overboard but she wanted to do something nice for your dc and you unilaterally decided that they can have one and the rest are to be donated. It’s chocolate ffs! Your poor kids having to be raised by someone who sucks the fun out of everything!

It’s a bit insane. What about suggesting next year she buys them all one big decent/posh egg each, the ones that are £8-10 if she insists on spending that much anyway on smaller ones, personally my dc would much prefer one big Ferroro Roche egg for example to ten creme egg ones.

I’d keep but save back for making/baking, they could melt them down and make Easter nests for example.

@AlwaysCheddar She has brought the bloody massive ones, some of them with cups . I am not a kill joy thank you very much, we have had a lovely egg hunt this morning and we will be having a special family meal later this evening. (Just us - thank goodness! No MIL )

You are being slightly ridiculous, and I say that having a MIL that constantly goes against my wishes. Its chocolate eggs, they don't need to be eaten all at once and as PP said can be used to make crispy cakes . She may have went overboard given the unusual circumstances 🤷‍♀️, but I couldn't get myself so worked up about this.

YANBU to think that is too many eggs
YABU to confiscate them and unilaterally decide to donate them

As lots of other posters have said why not bake with the chocolate? My kids don't like to eat a lot of chocolate (unlike myself ) so I've asked family members to consider getting them new colouring pencils or books instead which they do get excited for. This year I did a little Easter basket with cheap bits and bobs including new toothbrushes and they were really pleased with it.

10 eggs per child from 1 person is excessive and over the top. I think 1 egg is more normal! It's tricky becuase she means to be generous but that's more eggs than I'd want my child to have. I think giving away the extras is a nice idea, but better if you can get the family on board!

Good call to give them to a food bank. How and why would anybody want to store 27 eggs (taking out the 3 permitted)? Bonkers! It's an open invitation to mice and rats.

You and your husband though need to tell MIL straight that it's one egg per child. It's Easter, not an excuse for Christmas Mark II.

I hate this stock-piling and over-buying, it's so ridiculous and greedy - and it causes real life issues for people who can't even buy singles of the item in question.

10 each is ridiculous. I assume they had something from you and DH too? And maybe from other family members too?

How many does DH think they should have kept?

Whilst I think that's completely OTT from your MIL I think that you are very wrong to unilaterally make the decision on behalf of your children that you are going to give away their presents, particularly as your husband isn't happy with this, it's his mother after all.

I would ask your DC to choose their favourite to eat over the next few days . The others will keep, and whilst donation of some of them to a food bank is a nice idea, just check that under the current circumstances as there may be less volunteers, struggling for essentials, is sorting through Easter eggs another task for them - i know we tend to think that treats are a nice idea but they are not always welcomed (by the Foodbank administrators not so much the beneficiaries)

ughmaybenot, they are not small eggs she has brought huge grotesque eggs some including mugs  i am not best pleased

Yes it's far too many but try to see it from her perspective, she's probably lonely, bored and missing her grandchildren. Buying them stuff is the only thing she can do just now. Have a bit of sympathy! Giving some to the food bank is an excellent idea though

YABVU and I can see why your DH is cross. They can be eaten over the next 12 months and made into crispy cakes etc. They are not yours to give away, I’d be furious if DH gave away gifts belonging to others.

Break up the eggs in to a freezer back and freeze it to use in baking. Parents relying on food banks want their dc to wake up to eggs on Easter Sunday like everyone else. They don't want people's cast offs a week or 2 later!

Dont be so grumpy!
10 smallish eggs for easter egg hunt absolutely fine, 10 very large eggs OTT, but they dont have to eat them at once.