To think that 10 easter eggs per child from MIL is atrocious

[garlicbread82]

MIL has just dropped off 10 easter eggs each to my 3 DCs (we maintained social distancing, she left them at the end of the path).

Now dont get me wrong, I am greatful, but 10 each? Really? I think this is not only overzealous, it also undermines me. I have told her in previous years that one egg each is more than enough, and maybe a small gift, however she continues to undermine me in front of my DCs.

I have allowed my DCs to choose one egg each from the pile to go with the eggs they have already received, and the rest will be dropped off at the local food bank next week. DH thinks I am being unreasonable, and has gone upstairs in a huff Happy Easter hey?

AIBU?

It's daft but hey, udeniably well meant. Our DC had a year when they seemed to get an egg from everyone and a godmother who looked after the Cadbury Account as a PR Consultant.
Their eyes lit up and they had tremendous fun opening the boxes to check out their spoils. There was probably one egg eaten on Easter morning and then they had to write thank you notes.
They thought the shiny, glittery eggs looked ever so pretty piled up in and around the fruit bowl. Their friends' eyes popped out when they came for tea over the next few weeks and they broke into an egg when friends came and largely left it.
The eggs got put in a cupboard, occasionally used for cooking and over 3 months or so were snaffled by DH after supper.
The DC still talk about those eggs, we still guffaw at the chocolate mountain. They would have much preferred a tin of Haribos.
He is risen OP. Go well and gracefully and hold in your heart happiness that your dc are loved and missed and this is demonstrated as their grannie knows how. So much nicer than meanness.

I bought the DC a Lindt Bunny each, big ones, because of lockdown. They were thrilled. They've both had the ears and have gone back to bed leaving a mess behind. They are 25 and 21 .

Donate or chuck em.

@TexanBlueNeck

Is he or mil disordered eaters btw?

My husband frequently binge eats, and thinks it is acceptable to have two Big Macs rather than one in front of the DCs (when they are allowed a McDonalds treat), although I have told him it sends an unhealthy message about binge eating to the DCs. Wonder where he gets it from

I think yabu. With everything going on in the world i cant believe your getting this worked up over easter eggs

YANBU. We used to get 3 Cadbury sized ones each from the grandparents. 10 is insanity

Omg So bloody what she probably wanted to spoil them during a time when she can't even give them a cuddle just put them away and have one a week. They aren't yours anyway! I think your being mean because your children have obviously seen them now agree to keep hold of them and bring one out a week. Atleast you won't have to buy chocolate for a while

It's not being nice to overrule a parent. It sounds like the MiL is the controlling one, not OP.

But the rules are just petty in the first place. I bet all her rules just happen to go against things she knows her MIL gets pleasure from.

Wow she is so overbearing face timing them every day! Imagine wanting to see your GC so much. What a fucking bitch.

On a lighter note my big handsome GS has been round with an Easter egg for granny. Years since anyone bought me an Easter egg, maybe this is the return on the eggs I've bought him all these years. He knows I'm not going out shopping so brought me a treat, don't panic he didn't come in the house.

I'm looking at it now and feeling happy.

@EveryLifeHasASoundtrack I don't see your problem with my pre-approved gift of shoes and a book...ffs They received more than enough "fun" gifts from Santa. I am not controlling, but I am the mother here, and MIL isn't. She has had her time, and her spiteful behaviour is mirrored in DH's sulk this morning

I think you are exaggerating. 10 huge eggs each for 3 children = 30 huge chocolate eggs? No way. If it's really true, your mil is bonkers.

My husband frequently binge eats, and thinks it is acceptable to have two Big Macs rather than one in front of the DCs

🤣🤣🤣You monitor you’re husbands food intake? This has to be a wind up.

Why is OP the only parent allowed to make the rules? What if her DH told his mum it was fine? Why should his opinion not count?

Why are you undermining your dh? He doesnt have a problem

Totally ott. Open them up and melt them down into bars.

When did this competitive egg-buying even start? It's ridiculous. A bit of chocolate is nice but what's so special about it in endless supply?

The posters calling the OP a twat and other unlovely names need to remember their responses next time their own mother/MIL undermines their parenting. OP isn't wrong about not wanting plastic tat from China. Who has space to store that and why would anybody want to buy so much of it in the first place? Have some people no imagination at all anymore? What's wrong with books, shoes?

We're so consumerist in this country and the people who just buy this crap in massive quantities make it difficult for those who want to be more moderate because kids compare. Can some of you not see what's wrong with that? Those of us who could afford it don't necessarily want to follow suit - and those of us who couldn't, wouldn't be able to.

Easter egg hunting used to be smaller scale for me and my brothers - one larger egg - or more likely - a larger chocolate bunny - foil-wrapped tiny eggs and some sort of a toy (just one).

Perhaps the difference is that there was no social media (70s) so what other parents did, we didn't know, and nobody cared to boast about.

Do what you want - let the OP do what she wants to. These are her children, not yours.

I've seen so many posts this morning of babies. Under 1 year with 2/3 Easter eggs..
Why.

But the rules are just petty in the first place. I bet all her rules just happen to go against things she knows her MIL gets pleasure from

I don't think they're petty, and nor does the OP. And it's not up to MiL to decide. If she'd given one or two eggs it would have been fine, but MiL decided to create an issue by going so over the top. She wouldn't get any more pleasure from giving ten eggs each rather than just two or three. She's being ridiculous and she's the one creating drama.

Fwiw when I was a child, we used to have 10-14 Easter eggs each and could eat as many as we wanted. Obviously there were other contributory factors but I developed bulimia.

Aww now I want 2 Big Macs 😭. Damn virus !

And the kids don't like loads of plastic tat. The pleasure lasts for one day if that and then they stop playing with it and it just becomes landfill or a storage nightmare.

I don't get this sneering over toys made of plastic.

My DC love "plastic tat". DS got a plastic toy piano and stool one Christmas from his nana and gramps, it's still going strong eight years later and has been enjoyed by his younger siblings since. The playgroup youngest DD goes to received a huge box of outgrown "plastic tat" from us which included a car garage/ramp, a dolls house, a vacuum cleaner, play food, etc.

Sorry, but you ARE controlling. Very. I agree 10 eggs each is way too much, but at least let your kids keep a few. They will not thank you for giving away most of their gift, they will remember you as mean spirited and a kill joy. As for 2 Big Macs,
So what?

It's ridiculous but also you sound controlling. Do you make all the decisions? Is the children's father not allowed to make any? Do the children never get a say? I'd be today if I was your husband and you just decided 1 each with no discussion.

garlicbread82

I really hope this is a wind up. If not, why anyone would put up with your behaviour is beyond me. I feel sorry for your husband and MIL if this is real, but I don’t think it is. I’m out.

1forsorrow, you are going to get a pasting for admitting a visit for a non-essential item!

Although, given the bonkers replies on this thread, perhaps whilst milk and bread are still on the forbidden list of essentials, chocolate may be right at the top of 'must buy'...

This thread is crackers!