To think that 10 easter eggs per child from MIL is atrocious

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MIL has just dropped off 10 easter eggs each to my 3 DCs (we maintained social distancing, she left them at the end of the path).

Now dont get me wrong, I am greatful, but 10 each? Really? I think this is not only overzealous, it also undermines me. I have told her in previous years that one egg each is more than enough, and maybe a small gift, however she continues to undermine me in front of my DCs.

I have allowed my DCs to choose one egg each from the pile to go with the eggs they have already received, and the rest will be dropped off at the local food bank next week. DH thinks I am being unreasonable, and has gone upstairs in a huff Happy Easter hey?

AIBU?

Yummy. I'd nick em for myself

Total of 30 eggs? Is she batshit?! That’s an insane amount. Is this what she normally does? If you’ve told her one is enough, then, yes, she’s undermining you. Dh can sod off sulking and tell her she’s gone way OTT.

We had a fantastic arrangement with both sets of Grandparents that they would buy books instead of an abundance of chocolate eggs. So the children got one small egg, or just a creme egg and books.

The books have since been donated to the school library so that other children get the benefit too. Far better than too many chocolate eggs.

Yes that is way over the top, donating them sounds good. There's so many in the shops here they have been heavily reduced for the last week or so, seems weird some places have sold out;

Now you just sound spiteful. It sounds like your MIL just wanted to be a part of the kids day and it makes you happy to push her out

You can be part of it with one or two large eggs or a selection of small ones. No child needs ten large eggs. It's ridiculous.

It's like saying it's not a good night out if you don't have twelve pints. And you're mean if you don't let me. Of course you have a good night out with four or five pints and you're not hard done by.

Last Christmas, first thing in the morning, she appeared at the door with three binbags full of plastic tat, even though I had gently informed her in October (to give her plenty of time) that the kids would all have benefitted from new shoes, and perhaps a book each.

Bet the kids loved it, although you’ll say they didn’t. 🙄 Shoes and a book...ffs. You sound very controlling. Poor husband and MIL.

You can be part of it with one or two large eggs or a selection of small ones. No child needs ten large eggs. It's ridiculous.

Yes but MIL chose to buy more. Why cause a problem over it, she was being nice even if it’s not how OP would do it.

YANBU that 10 is too many eggs.

YABU to take them away from your kids now that they have been gifted. Remove them from their boxes and store them for treats for the rest of the year.
They were not given to you and they aren't yours to give away.

@Sux2buthen Trust me she is v v overbearing at the best of times. She FaceTimes the DCs every day and they have more than enough, she knows this, yet continues to undermine me.

I can see it is annoying, I had a similar MIL, but I don't agree with giving away something that belongs to someone else. If you talk to the children and they want to help less fortunate children that is lovely and they could they choose how many and which eggs they give away. That is something good for them to learn, just taking their eggs not so much. I also think it sends a message to MIL if you can say, "Oh the children were so happy to take x number of your eggs to the food bank to help less fortunate children."

Bottom line is they aren't yours to give away.

Making buns is different to eating the eggs at Easter as we’d have been making the buns anyway and would have otherwise bought chocolate for them.

But I understand a birthday party for some on here should be a sackcloth and ashes affair 🙄

Yes 10 eggs each is excessive but you do seem a bit unreasonable. Calling the eggs "grotesque"? And being annoyed that some include mugs? What's wrong with mugs?

We got loads of Easter chocolate last year - we just spread it out and actually finished it in January, it was no big deal. It seems a bit mean to let your children see this massive Easter bounty and then make them only choose one each.

The same with what you said about Christmas - it's a bit unfair to ask her to get them shoes and one book. Grandparents tend to love spoiling children, and shoes and books aren't the most exciting things to open on Christmas morning!

Yes ten eggs is excessive but surely you could have gritted your teeth, said thank you and then spread them out over the next few months?

People telling the OP to put them away, who’s got enough spare cupboard space to store 30 bloody Easter Eggs? It’s a ridiculous amount and unnecessarily extravagant. I’d absolutely be giving most of these away, maybe keep two each. I’m sure your MIL won’t be the only one giving them an egg.

Did she buy DH that many when he was a child?

I think id undermine your petty rules too

Joy thief

Also, OP could have just let her kids eat some of the eggs, left it a few days and then donated them. Instead she’s made a big thing of it on Easter morning, upsetting her husband. Drama for the sake of it.

That's insane. The other day I was sorting out my DS's wardrobe and to my horror found some eggs from last year that he'd hidden. My kids love chocolate but really struggle to get through more than one large egg and the accompanying sweets. This year they just have one big egg from us and a few little ones for the easter egg hunt. My mum gave me money to buy them eggs but my children said they'd prefer to spend it on a toy or something else non-edible. This is perfect. I really hate waste and don't like throwing away lots of chocolate.

10 is too many?
LMAO
I can only imagine what would be said at dd having 45 in her egg hunt alone. Thats not including what we bought her from Easter bunny
Lighten up a little, chocolate isn't crack. I think it's rather mean you taking their gift away, i feel sorry for them

Could it be that she is overcompensating for not being able to spend time with them?

That’s insane! I would think my MIL had lost the plot if she did that!

People telling the OP to put them away, who’s got enough spare cupboard space to store 30 bloody Easter Eggs?

Nobody - break them up in to a bag and store/freeze, and recycle the boxes

Yes but MIL chose to buy more. Why cause a problem over it, she was being nice even if it’s not how OP would do it

It's not being nice to overrule a parent. It sounds like the MiL is the controlling one, not OP.

And the kids don't like loads of plastic tat. The pleasure lasts for one day if that and then they stop playing with it and it just becomes landfill or a storage nightmare. My kids always remember the days out people took them on or the well chosen presents, not mounds of plastic rubbish.

Fucking hell. Such a waste of paper and plastic.

Ah, so she has form for this...

Bet the kids loved it, although you’ll say they didn’t. 🙄 Shoes and a book...ffs. You sound very controlling. Poor husband and MIL.

Or OP knows how much space they have and doesn’t want to put up with all the extra stuff, clean-up, and finding a place for it.