To think that 10 easter eggs per child from MIL is atrocious

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MIL has just dropped off 10 easter eggs each to my 3 DCs (we maintained social distancing, she left them at the end of the path).

Now dont get me wrong, I am greatful, but 10 each? Really? I think this is not only overzealous, it also undermines me. I have told her in previous years that one egg each is more than enough, and maybe a small gift, however she continues to undermine me in front of my DCs.

I have allowed my DCs to choose one egg each from the pile to go with the eggs they have already received, and the rest will be dropped off at the local food bank next week. DH thinks I am being unreasonable, and has gone upstairs in a huff Happy Easter hey?

AIBU?

Personally I just think some will
Say it's way too much some will thinks it's acceptable personally I just think they are gifts so what the hell does it matter!' Be grateful your kids have. A grand parent who wants to do this for them! Taking off them what THEY have had bought not you to me is awful! I understand you wish to give to the needy and this is lovely however go buy some pound eggs and give them them
Of you wish to give so much don't take girl your kids and punish them for having a loving grandparent! If they decided to give to other children then fair enough ! Think people go way over top on here!
Some kids get 10£ for Xmas some £1000 what's it matter it's all personal choice and circumstances

Is stockpiling Easter eggs a problem though? Round here the shops have still been heaving with them and they were excluded from purchasing limits. I thought they were desperate to get rid of them.

We used to use the extra eggs after dinner instead of pudding for the next few weeks until they were used up

Op you're right. That's total madness!

10 each...
30 FFS!
At least with lockdown you get the afternoon away from her to simmer quietly
Has DHuffy stopped his sulk yet? You could tempt him down with an egg?

One year both ds had so many eggs from family I threw away SIX the following APRIL!!!! That’s when I said enough. It was one egg and a gift/money or nothing from then on.

They are now 19 & 15, ds19 had nothing this Easter and ds15 had 1 £1 egg and family pooled their money for a present. At least the present will be useful until university or beyond.

I can’t believe the shit on here that people choose to get upset about. My mil hasn’t seen her grandchildren in 6 years despite living a 15 minute drive away because she doesn’t give a fuck. I’d love for her to turn up with armfuls of eggs for her grandchildren. And giving them 1 each and giving away all the rest is stingy af. It’s not like they have to eat them all in one go. Put them away and instead of buying chocolate whenever you fancy it, just break out an occasional Easter egg throughout the year. And I’m not surprised your oh is pissed off, throwing his mothers kindness and generosity back in her face. They’re his children too. Of all the things to get offended about 🙄

Why is making krispie cakes with them better than just eating them?

I would be annoyed by this. You would have to make them last and 30 boxed eggs would take up so much space. Presumably they also have eggs from other family members.

Donating a few is a nice idea, some kids without any eggs get to enjoy one and your kids learn about sharing.

I wouldn't make a big deal out of it though. It sounds like it all got unnecessarily heated. It's a few eggs.

Agree with @VideographybyLouBloom in that I read the first post as a massive, “congratulate me on being a massive virtue signalling martyr”

YABVU.

When’s your halo arriving? 🙄

She’s not getting to see them so she went a bit OTT. You don’t get any shiny medals by virtue signalling, OP.

One egg each? You’re just being a total dry shite.

Overindulging a bit at Easter won’t kill your children ffs! Plus, if my mother brought gifts and DH decided, without any discussion, that they couldn’t have them I’d be pissed off, too.

There’s no law that says they have to have them all at once.

She probably thinks buying lots of eggs will show how much she's missing the DC during this horrible time. I'd let it go.
If this is what she does every year I'd have to say it's not on. 10 eggs from a range of family/friends is fine. 10 from one person is just daft.

Seems like she wanted to spoil the kids a bit at a shitty time.

That's insane!!!

I think your MIL lives in my town. I really couldn't find any Easter eggs this year on my once a week trip to the supermarket. Tried different supermarket this week and Waitrose had some small ones for £11 each so I got those but felt ripped off.

10? 1 main egg plus maybe a chocolate bunny is more than enough

Another example of a mum unilaterally decided what she thinks is right without considering either her husbands or her children's views

If she's anything like my mum or my partners mum she's probably missing them like mad

Id be so sad if DH did this to my daughter. They are not your eggs to give away. It’s Easter Sunday for gods sake. The kids have been pulled away from nearly every part of joy that they have come to know. School, friends playing out, swimming. And the tiniest bit of joy they can have you readily take it away from them because you’re furious with your MIL. Sounds to me like this is more about the fact she has gone against your wishes and your “furious” So you’re allowing your kids to suffer through spite. As others have said there is no reason not to save the eggs. You’re doing it out of pettiness and spite. Fun sponge of the hugest order.

Have places been running out of Eater eggs? There were stacks of them everywhere here.

That is a mad amount but I would put them away and tell your kids that their chocolate for the next xxx months. Me and my sister used to make it a competition to see who could make their stretch out the longest. My granny had the odd mad year with Easter eggs but we knew it was a lot and made it stretch.

I guess food banks would still take and value them but other items would be more useful post-Easter. If you usually buy your kids chocolate, spend the equivalent for the next few months on food bank donations. You can do cash donations online if you’re not able to get to a supermarket.

Why is making krispie cakes with them better than just eating them?

Because it's a fun activity for dc to enjoy. Could freeze the chocolate and use it for making party treats later in the year. There's loads of uses for chocolate apart from just eating it all yourself

I dont buy my grandchildren easter eggs, I value their teeth

Jaysis! Hope their other grandmother is a fun one!

I am not a kill joy thank you very much, we have had a lovely egg hunt this morning and we will be having a special family meal later this evening. (Just us - thank goodness! No MIL grin)

Now you just sound spiteful. It sounds like your MIL just wanted to be a part of the kids day and it makes you happy to push her out.

I'm with you OP. She's out of order buying so many when you asked her specifically not to. And the fact that she bought ten each proves that she's trying to undermine you. No child needs ten large eggs. No wonder we have an obesity problem in this country. They'll enjoy the Easter egg hunt more than the stockpile of eggs. Why should you have to store them?

And your DH is being a baby sulking.

@GreyGardens88 Last Christmas, first thing in the morning, she appeared at the door with three binbags full of plastic tat, even though I had gently informed her in October (to give her plenty of time) that the kids would all have benefitted from new shoes, and perhaps a book each. To save any Christmas upset, I silently seethed as DCs fawned over her, and let her have her moment but this is a step too far.

Felt bed as when my kids came down this morning this is all there was. Might pop to the corner shop and see if they have any more.