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To think it's my bloody house and garden so I'll have a bbq or bonfire if i want too?

328 replies

Werkwerkwerkwerkwerkwerk · 09/04/2020 23:16

Just as the title suggests really.

We're already confined to our homes for the most part, why are people now trying to control what we can and cannot do in our own gardens?

Need to find as much joy as possible or I'll join all the other near alcoholics that have evolved at this point.

OP posts:
Thrashscar · 10/04/2020 02:58

@feelinguseless78 they’ve not closed my local one and our lovely neighbours have had bonfires every day for the last week. My house stinks of smoke

Mintjulia · 10/04/2020 03:19

You are right, it is your garden and you should have free use of it.

But you can show some consideration at the same time. Before lighting a bonfire, check no-one has washing on the line, and better to do it on a cold day when people are not sitting outside.
Barbecues - not sure what the problem is.

mathanxiety · 10/04/2020 03:29

Summersun, a bonfire would be a small fire where you would burn your yard waste - hedge clippings, pruned twigs and branches, maybe leftover lumber from a DIY project.

Some folks might do something along the lines of a tyre fire though.

A chiminea or fire pit is a sanitised version, same amount of smoke, but usually using logs bought somewhere, and you would gather around it to shoot the breeze, drink a few beers. You might do all of that with a bonfire of course, come to think of it...

Thrashscar · 10/04/2020 03:33

We're already confined to our homes for the most part, why are people now trying to control what we can and cannot do in our own gardens?
You’re confining other people to their homes by filling the air and surrounding gardens with stinking smoke.
My neighbours have been having bonfire after bonfire for days, I went outside yesterday to bring the washing in and the washing, my hair, my clothes all stank of smoke. It was a beautiful warm day but I couldn’t open my windows, I couldn’t enjoy my garden because my neighbours had no consideration for others. I’ve been working inside for days, I wanted to enjoy the weather and get some fresh air. Apparently I was asking too much.
If nobody had bonfires, we could all share the outdoor space without any issues. I don’t have an issue with bonfires in the countryside where there’s no immediate neighbours but in a residential area where your actions affect lots of others, I do have a problem with it.

Cornishclio · 10/04/2020 04:17

YABVU

It may be your house and garden but the air belongs to all of us. I don't see a problem with a BBQ in your garden with just your household but a bonfire means smoke drifting maybe affecting some neighbours' breathing if they are asthmatic or recovering from the virus and of making others washing stink. At least if you are going to do it then do it early evening. You sound selfish and inconsiderate

squeekums · 10/04/2020 04:31

I can't even believe that bonfires are still allowed in the UK. Where I live ( Australia) they've been banned since I was a kid, under the Clean Air Act. Why on earth would anyone need to light a bonfire in their garden ? Beats me.

Not in south Aus they not, they only banned over summer.
Fire ban is lifted next month for us which is perfect timing as we have a huge bonfire pile ready to go, fallen trees, furniture, cardboard boxes from big appliances. Cheaper than dumping, easier than dumping and we get to have drinks round a fire

Mummyoflittledragon · 10/04/2020 04:38

JustOneMoreStep
No comparison between having a bonfire on agricultural land to bonfires in residential roads. The bonfire on a farm can be set back well away from the house and other properties around. If you still live in the country, maybe you cannot appreciate the difference in terms of resultant air quality, which is already far better rurally. I speak from experience of both. I had to stop dh from lighting a bonfire actually. It didn’t occur to him he’d be potentially killing someone....

As for op. Biscuit

EveryDayIsADuvetDay · 10/04/2020 04:45

I'm totally missing the point here but... Why are so many people lightning bonfires?

I'm not condoning bonfires - anti social at the best of times, and doubly stupid now - why exacerbate peoples breathing problems, and fire risk as pointed out above.
BUT I guess people are having them more because tips are closed, some councils have suspended collection of garden waste, people have more time to work in and clear their gardens.

TiggerOfThigh · 10/04/2020 05:39

@PyongyangKipperbang

So your perceived right to a bonfire, trumps (potentially) my right to life?
That bonfire will set off my asthma, if I’m lucky, it will take a day or so to settle...AFTER I’ve cleared the smell from my bungalow after it’s come in through the air vents.
I’m shielding, but my dog still needs to go outside, which, since I’m not, means that I have the door open, more smoke.

Cremate as many sausages as you want. But please leave the bonfire until there’s not a pandemic!!

joystir59 · 10/04/2020 05:44

Crack on then op, you sir polluting selfish twat

sazza76 · 10/04/2020 05:59

As well as being selfish what about adding pressure to our NHS and fire services. A bonfire might not be an issue for you but it could bring on an asthma attack or make breathing worse in someone with the virus meaning they need hospital treatment.
What about all the children that can’t use their gardens.

MissBax · 10/04/2020 06:13

These threads have made me feel very stupid as I genuinely believed bonfires were banned and had been for years... God knows where I got that from, but anyway YABU.

NewPapaGuinea · 10/04/2020 06:19

Getting joy from lighting fires? You sound like an arsonist 😂

mrstrainflower · 10/04/2020 06:20

Do people class bonfires the same as fire pits ? Or are they different ?

Positivevibesonlyplease · 10/04/2020 06:21

Bonfires are always selfish, polluting and unacceptable. If you have garden waste, leave it out to be collected by the council, similarly any other waste. A barbecue for just the people living in the house (no guests, obviously) is fine.

transformandriseup · 10/04/2020 06:25

My neighbour is having one almost everyday as his garden is huge and requires a lot of maintenance. The problem is the smoke (thick) is in our garden and our baby is crawling around. Luckily we don't have dry washing outside.

transformandriseup · 10/04/2020 06:26

That should say bonfire, not a bbq

burntpinky · 10/04/2020 06:33

BBQ fine bonfires no. My MIL is in the inconsiderate twat category and has been burning her “garden rubbish” except it’s not, it’s pillows, a play tent and all kind of polluting rubbish. She gets right on my wick and I have every sympathy with her neighbours

Whatwedontknow · 10/04/2020 06:34

Fires can quickly spread and may need unnecessary use of our emergency services.

Who has a bonfire (not a fire pit) in their garden anyway?
How crass.

Dozer · 10/04/2020 06:39

Bonfires are v inconsiderate.

Sn0tnose · 10/04/2020 06:45

You know how there is always one dickhead who makes life difficult for everyone else because they’re thick as mince and twice as selfish?

Having a bonfire right now makes you that person.

recrudescence · 10/04/2020 06:48

We are doing what we can to get through and if that means a lunchtime BBQ or and early evening bonfire, fucking get over it.

I get why a BBQ might be a pleasurable distraction from a national emergency ... but a bonfire?! Unless you’re re-enacting “The Wicker Man” of course - that might be fun. Anyway, the bottom line for me is that relatively few of us live in properties where we can, even in the best of times, light a bonfire without pissing off our neighbours. I’d be quite happy to see them banned for all but permit holders.

EmbarrassedUser · 10/04/2020 06:55

You sound quite entitled @Werkwerkwerkwerkwerkwerk Judging by your name sake, I assume you may be a Rihanna fan who enjoys the rest of her shite music and plays it at full volume for her rest of us to hear. Yay. Not yay.

ALovelyBitOfSquirrel · 10/04/2020 06:59

People who light bonfires are shits

They certainly are. Someone in the village seems to have one every bloody day, not a clue what they're burning but it stinks!

kipper Biscuit

MsTSwift · 10/04/2020 07:01

I like the smell of Bbq but having a bonfire on a sunny day when your neighbours are all using their gardens and are not really allowed out is a total dick move surely you can see that?