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To think it's my bloody house and garden so I'll have a bbq or bonfire if i want too?

328 replies

Werkwerkwerkwerkwerkwerk · 09/04/2020 23:16

Just as the title suggests really.

We're already confined to our homes for the most part, why are people now trying to control what we can and cannot do in our own gardens?

Need to find as much joy as possible or I'll join all the other near alcoholics that have evolved at this point.

OP posts:
WotnoPasta · 10/04/2020 07:01

I’m glad I live in a smokeless area. I had a neighbour for a while who decided they were going to burn all their rubbish (including plastic).
They also had it at the end of their garden so it didn’t go in their house (they actually told us this) but was filling our house with noxious smoke. Including my newborn babies bedroom.

Luckily the council got involved and put a stop to it)

HopeYouStepOnALego · 10/04/2020 07:02

oh FFS who gives a shit about your fucking washing?!

During term time most of you outsource to some poor NMW cow to do it for you, but now you are doing youself you suddenly care?!

Ummm, no. I always do my own laundry thanks and I'm sure the majority of other people do too.

This thread has shown who amongst us has the 'selfish twat' attitude and don't care if others are having trouble breathing through asthma or CV.

SoupDragon · 10/04/2020 07:16

We are doing what we can to get through

Only a selfish dick does things they know will piss off the neighbours though. I find the "I'll do what I like" people are generally inconsiderate idiots. Until their neighbours do something that pisses them off of course.

SoupDragon · 10/04/2020 07:24

We are doing what we can to get through

I assume that if you really think this you'd be happy for your neighbours to play music with really offensive lyrics and a heavy bass line really really loudly all day and night. I mean, they are only doing what they can to get through it...

BrokenBrit · 10/04/2020 07:27

We are not supposed to have bonfires as people may have lungs that are dealing with Covid19.
Let’s try and keep all our respiratory health in the best possible condition at this time!

GREATAUNT1 · 10/04/2020 07:28

Trying to get pollution levels up again OP?

KitKat1985 · 10/04/2020 07:33

I can't get worked up about the odd BBQ (unless accompanied by loud music). In fact I'm planning on doing one this weekend ourselves (just for our household) since we are supposed to be on holiday and now obviously aren't going to be, and might be something nice to do with the kids. It'll be our first BBQ in 2 years of living here! But various neighbours have obviously had them over the past couple of years and they don't bother me.

Bonfires are way too much. The smoke goes everywhere and if people have respiratory issues etc it basically prevents them from using their gardens if you are in a built up area.

To the person asking why there are so many bonfires right now. I know where I am, (and I think in other parts of the UK), garden waste collections have been suspended. So I'm assuming people have lots of garden waste to get rid of (not saying that makes having them okay though, but just wondering if that's why).

ScrapThatThen · 10/04/2020 07:40

Our fire service has requested no bonfires - due to respiratory risk, added call outs etc. And they are antisocial and polluting at the best of times. I think you are fair enough on the BBQ, however people with a family size over 4 can definitely expect their neighbours to call the police in them 😂 this happened in my area last night to several!

Witchend · 10/04/2020 07:40

Our Borough council has sent a letter out with information including saying bonfires will be considered anti social behaviour as we're all stuck in our houses and if people are having breathing problems then it will make them worse.

Izzabellasasperella · 10/04/2020 07:40

@Cabinfever10 where do you live? I've never heard of not being able to use a Woodburner between 7am and 7pm, how do people heat their houses in the winter?
Bonfires are horrible, especially in the day time.

Villageidiots · 10/04/2020 07:42

Bonfires are unnecesssry and basically prevent your neighbours from using their own gardens. Why would you even consider it?

Sirzy · 10/04/2020 07:43

Another one who lives in an area where council and fire brigade have requested no bonfires.

With a child who is shielded because of his respiratory issues I would be mighty pissed off to not even be able to open the windows due to selfish bonfire lighting

SoupDragon · 10/04/2020 07:43

how do people heat their houses in the winter?

Central heating? I think these sorts of bylaws are often in built up areas where pollution/smoke can become a problem/nuisance. Most houses would have central heating rather than relying on a wood burner for anything other than atmosphere.

OhYouBadBadKitten · 10/04/2020 07:46

That's definitely why KitKat. I'm still dealing with the aftermath of three trees coming down in the storms in my small garden earlier this year, despite numerous trips to the tip before the lockdown. No garden waste collection and nowhere to dispose of them.

I've logged what I can, bagged the rest. It's not ideal, but it would be really unfair on my neighbours to burn it. Especially if any of them have covid and are struggling to breath already.

cologne4711 · 10/04/2020 07:47

BBQ is fine, bonfire isn't.

Anyway how on earth does a bonfire bring you joy? It's anti-social at best, could be dangerous at worst. And at the moment you'd be filling the lungs of your neighbours with smoke - the worst possible thing to do when a virus is going round that attacks the lungs! I've seen that some of the councils in Berkshire are finally getting off their bottoms and banning it, about time they all did.

If you want to do your garden pile up your waste and it will start to break down and you can get rid of the rest later.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 10/04/2020 07:52

Bonfires should be banned completely. They are incredibly polluting. BBQs are ok if you use a proper BBQ and know how to use it.

This ^

Bonfires are antisocial and polluting, and often dangerous - I have seen more than one get out of control (or perhaps I have particularly careless neighbours).

Don't have bonfires. Just don't.

Whiskersandtwitch · 10/04/2020 07:55

Why on earth would you have a bonfire?

Wifeofbikerviking · 10/04/2020 08:02

If my neighbours bbq totally fine always, bonfire I'd prefer they give me a quick knock if I have washing out so I can get it in. It certainly doesn't stop me enjoying my garden 🙄 but then I love a fire pit when we are allowed to socialize

madcatladyforever · 10/04/2020 08:07

Not really relevant to this thread but I just cannot undestand BBQ's. how can anyone actually enjoy all that scorched meat?
i have never tasted a BBQ that was worth eating.

Butchyrestingface · 10/04/2020 08:10

Fuck off with your bonfires.

WhyCantIThinkOfAGoodOne · 10/04/2020 08:12

Classic dickhead behaviour. If I want to have a fire or blast loud music put I'll do it because I don't give a shit about anyone else.

Darbs76 · 10/04/2020 08:12

You can do either - but really should do neither when there’s a respiratory pandemic going around. Imagine if you’ve been coughing your guts up for a week, feeling really breathless and just sitting in your bedroom, window open as you’re burning up with a temperature over 39 degrees - then someone sparks up their BBQ, or even worse a blooming bonfire. A bonfire you can smell inside so you’ve be contributing to people deteriorating. But yes your garden, crack on

Ethelfleda · 10/04/2020 08:14

A few of my neighbours have had bonfires this last week. I actually really like it Blush
But then the smell reminds me of when I was travelling and camping around East Africa so that’s probably why Smile
Anyway I voted YANBU

Walkaround · 10/04/2020 08:16

If you can keep all the smoke confined to your own bloody house and garden, then go ahead.

emilybrontescorsett · 10/04/2020 08:17

Do not have a bonfire.