A member of my family has learning difficulties, no formal diagnosis but struggles with basic reading/writing and social skills. They have capacity but function mentally much younger than they are. They are elderly.
They cannot and do not budget their money. This makes things difficult because they do have capacity so are expected to be responsible, but responsible they are not.
They called me this morning (2nd week in a row) and said they are running low on food and can I help. They don't bank, they use the post office so I couldn't simply transfer the money over.
Faced with the possibility of them going without until they get paid on Tuesday, I very reluctantly agreed to give them another £20.
I had to visit three different cash points as two were out of service, I then met them in a desolate car park (maintaining the 2m distance) and put the money on the floor. I was wearing gloves, not to say I think that makes things any better.
The same happened last week, they needed £10 which was supposed to be for bread, milk, cereal etc. I suspect they spent it on cigarettes.
I can't and won't do this again, but what do I say when they call me and say they're without food/electric?
I'm anxious and angry because I've put myself and others at risk, but felt obligated as they are telling me they would be without food. I have children at home and a DH who is currently taking unpaid leave, so all of our efforts to stay safe seem pointless if I continue to disregard the rules.
Feel free to give me a hard time, I encourage it. I'm furious with myself and would expect nothing less.
WIBU to say that's it, no more, either budget or go without.