If you don't have facebook?

[Rayn]

Can I ask why? I have just deactivated my account for the first time in 12years.
For the first time ever I feel it is negatively affecting my mental health.
I am struggling at the moment like alot of others and fed up of seeing the same thing.
How wonderful people's children are home schooling, pictures of lovely walks. How perfect and how well they are coping.
Then on the other hand it's negative and repetitive. I appreciate alot of it will be Coronavirus but I seriously need a break.
Only just holding things together at home and feel like I am failing.

For those of you who have never used it then why not?
For those of you who did and no longer use it then why did you not go back.

Deactivated and removed the app from my phone. So easy just to click on FB to what's going on but sometimes seeing and knowing too much does not do me any good.

Thoughts?

I deleted Facebook and Instagram earlier this year as didn't feel it was a positive in my life and I'm happier

Friends publicly over sharing information about their small children including location, likes and mile stone updates and naming their children's friends in photos too.
At worst it's fairly easy to identify where these children are and convince a child that you know them well with most of the information online. Predators don't have to do much work to access these children.
The children will soon be adults and every aspect of their live online has been shared with people they have never met.
People from work friend request. The majority of these people have seen me at work but don't have time to chat so when I'm home, they contact me online to talk to me at work when I'm trying to spend time online talking to family abroad etc.
They often only ever want to talk about work. I've lost count of the times a colleague has messaged me saying "X manager says to ask you if you can do overtime tomorrow." Despite it being a no when the manager asked me directly, they're now taking advantage of colleagues too.

Left Facebook a couple of years ago. Just a mindless time-sucker and the Cambridge Analytica debacle didn’t help matters: Zuckerberg did not cover himself in glory with all that!

However, I think I may have replaced one addiction with another - Facebook for Mumsnet!

I stopped using it once my mum got on it!

Have to agree with most of posts above. For me I had to delete it because I was tapping on my phone several times a day, it felt like an addiction and was adding no positivity to my life at all.

I had started to dislike people I'd previously called friends, because of their over sharing and opinions, I still don't understand why someone would post a picture of their dinner. I was very, very hurt by several photos of a children's party where it looked like every boy in the class had been invited except for my ds and one or two others. That was the end for me, came off that day, have never regretted it.

I’ve never used it, I am not good with technology and see it as a massive pain to have to learn how to use it ‘properly’. I don’t take endless photos and have no interest in seeing ridiculous pet photos or similar.
I have a wide circle of friends, hobbies and interests, I keep in touch with people by making old fashioned land line calls, emails etc.
When I read on here about FB fallouts or misunderstandings it just all looks so immature and childish.
I find out so much just by being involved in my local community, reading a local newspaper and looking at proper noticeboards .

I deleted it at the start of the year. Lots of reasons- too much time on it, lots of negative people, fake news, people with really strong political views that are always right etc But the main one is that I have a friend who's doing really well for herself, lovely family, lovely house and holidays. I'm mega proud so it's not that I'm jealous at all I just looked at the rate she posted absolute shite on FB- like 30 posts a week that got next to no likes, not showy posts always just more attention seeking daft stuff and I could't understand why she had to do it- I can't get why she doesn't go off and enjoy this lovely life that she has without worrying about what other people thought and then I thought well that's a bit hypocritical so I came off it to enjoy my lovely life and I felt a billion times better for it.

Deleted mine years ago. Got fed up with the endless showing off, attention-seeking etc etc. I love not having it

If there is a funny meme or family news on there, my fiancé shows me his face book.

I keep in touch with friends and family by text and feel like I'm in no way missing out.

I don't have Facebook. Years and years ago I started a Facebook account, along with a LinkedIn and a Twitter. Never used them as I couldn't be bothered. But was shocked at the boasting posts, the nonsense about "likes" and how that affected ones' self esteem, and what could be tracked on these sites even if Privacy settings are set, there are still ways to track through to others.

I came off everything and personally asked for them to be correctly deleted. I manage perfectly happily without, I don't have Facebook no Twitter, no WhatsApp, no Instagram, no nothing. No-one can follow my posts, steal my pictures, hack into my accounts or affect my views via advertising or pop-up ads. I don't care who likes me or otherwise, and I don't suffer boasts from all and sundry about how lovely their little lives are.

If I want to talk to friends and family, I either telephone, send a text or e-mail. I don't own a smart phone and take pictures with a proper camera, not a phone. I do have a mobile but its an old one, you can't track me around via it when I go out (and it's often left at home anyway!) I realise we can never be truly anonymous these days, especially since I have a PC but there are many ways to reduce it.

All the local disability groups local to me post their various activities and outings on their Facebook group.so without Facebook mine and many other families wouldn't have access to this info .

Two reasons: firstly because of my job. I don't want people to find me. It might not be safe and I don't trust people not to tag or share or whatever they do. I couldn't be bothered making it so secure only friends could find me - just pick up the bloody phone!
Two: as above posters have said, I don't give a shit what people have had for breakfast or what shoes they have bought...

I am a grumpy though!

Never had it... I just can't be bothered it's quite high maintenance and some days I already feel like I've been all day tapping
my phone just catching up with the WhatsApp groups, I have 4. That's enough. Don't do any other social media. I actually hate the way you have to have a phone these days, I don't think it's always a positive thing, I would gladly bin mine, I really dislike the way it feels like it controls me.

Oh yeah another one: a girl who puts a picture of her kids on every time they are sick or “checks in” at hospital. Attention seeking

I use mine as a diary, so I’m keeping it. I rarely read my newsfeed though. I do like the art and nature pages I’m on, and I seem to have mostly likeminded friends.

*However. I think I may have replaced one addiction with another - Facebook for Mumsnet!
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Oh well, that goes without saying! MN was here way before FB .

I deactivated my account twice and then finally closed it a year ago and am so pleased I did. The banality was off the scale. People who are reasonable face to face were posting such outrageous stuff all the time it was changing the way I thought about them. The there were all the "look at my wonderful life " posts also on instagram. Its not reality, its ta perception. Every day I would think I dont need to hear/see this
Its great now. I hear second hand people moaning about fake news and corona rubbish. Not on my computer, hurrah

I still have an account, so I can check a local area group that's a mine of useful information, but no longer post or comment outside of that.

I do find it a useful closet racist detector though.

I deleted facebook after the Brexit vote - everyone suddenly became an expert and it riled me. Along with oversharing, stealth boasting and attention seeking, it made me realise that facebook stressed me out and that was my problem, not other posters. I could have deleted all but close friends and family but having had facebook since 15, I was 'friends' with nearly very acquaintance I had ever had and I couldn't be bothered. I kept instagram as I like looking at others photos without huge, wordy posts and as I got it later, I follow less people.

Because it's full of shit. Was fed up of fake people on there pretending their lives are perfect. Men on there claiming how much they love their GF when I know they cheated on them behind their backs. Last straw was a guy I had sex with a couple of times (Ive known him for a long time), and I found out he had a GF the whole time after she posted on his wall. It just hurt me seeing that so decided to just get rid of it altogether last year (deleted it indefinitely). I deactivated it in 2017, deleted it in 2019. Best thing I ever did

I have a Facebook account but deliberately keep myself anonymous and ignore its friend suggestions.

I mostly use it so I can play games on both my phone and tablet. Facebook will synch my progress across devices.

I haven't added any of my RL friends , neighbours or colleagues and don't follow anyone so no crap turning up in my feed. I don't post anything and haven't added a photo or personal details so nobody could find me and hassle me (the combination of my first and surnames isn't unusual for someone my age).

I sometimes check out the FB for the school where I work, and also find it useful if I'm on holiday and want to check out restaurants because quite a few seem to just have Facebook pages rather than websites.

I think fb brings out the worst in people, pointless drama, attention seeking and drama. I deactivated mine but go on once a week for work groups and I normally see the first status on my news feed which makes me want to deactivate again. I honestly think fb causes more problems than anything these days.

I'm just on it for some of the groups, I sew, knit, quilt and embroider and whilst instagram is good for inspiration, the FB groups are much better for free tutorials, advice and more interactive for some reason. I've joined some sew\knitalongs over this period and also there's been a series of live videos for some of these groups at set times during the week which seem to be more chatty than live Instagram. With one group, which is a locally based one, we're going to try and arrange a meet up when at some point in the future. I share finished projects on these groups but haven't posted on my own timeline for years and had a cull of friends as well.

I agree with the comments about people's Facebook personas (and IG) I've one friend who posts daily and it doesn't reflect her real life at all and another who posts every single thing about her life, her moods, her finances, every single job she's ever had is in her profile so I'm just waiting for her to be scammed/victim of identity theft.

I'm on various other groups, ones related to my dogs breed, books, what's on locally, craft fairs, true crime but visit these less

I have a fake account to keep up with things I like.

It's under a fake name and I have no RL friends on it but have made lots of FB friends, as that's the way to get invited to private and closed groups, by invitation.

@Emcont that's really kind, thank you

I stopped using mine about 5 years ago.

This pandemic has been tricky as a lot of the ways to help etc are advertised on social media. As there is an assumption everyone is on it.

However I do think it’s better for my mental health not to be on it.