If you don't have facebook?

[Rayn]

Can I ask why? I have just deactivated my account for the first time in 12years.
For the first time ever I feel it is negatively affecting my mental health.
I am struggling at the moment like alot of others and fed up of seeing the same thing.
How wonderful people's children are home schooling, pictures of lovely walks. How perfect and how well they are coping.
Then on the other hand it's negative and repetitive. I appreciate alot of it will be Coronavirus but I seriously need a break.
Only just holding things together at home and feel like I am failing.

For those of you who have never used it then why not?
For those of you who did and no longer use it then why did you not go back.

Deactivated and removed the app from my phone. So easy just to click on FB to what's going on but sometimes seeing and knowing too much does not do me any good.

Thoughts?

I deleted fb, insta and Twitter about a year and a half ago. I was spending way too much time on my phone and getting too invested in what I was reading. It took a few weeks for the feeling of being unconnected to the world to leave, but I would never have it back now.

I’ve only had mn since. At the start of Covid getting rife in the UK I had to log out of here. The scaremongering and passing on of false information was ridiculous. I’ve never been an anxious sort of person, but info I was reading here absolutely freaked me out. Taking everything with a pinch of salt now.

I downloaded tik tok the other night. Didn’t make an account or anything, just watching videos. Some of them are hilarious!

A combination of reasons:

1. Briefly worked in a field twenty years ago that involved some data profiling. Realise just how much can be worked out about a person from just a few pieces of information, and how this can be used to influence them.
2. DM was a DV victim, so as a teenager and in my 20s I was used to ‘D’F trying to contact me/ find out information about me in surreptitious ways. I was briefly on Friends Reunited when it was a thing and he contacted me through that so I came off it and haven’t really engaged with social media since.

Considered it after he died a few years ago, but 1 was still a deterrent and the whole Cambridge Analytica thing had since happened, so my suspicions had been confirmed.

I've never been on it. I'm a very private person and the thought just makes me feel a bit cringe. I find it odd to be honest 🤷‍♂️.

I have it but I use it for the business mostly: i.e. promoting the products of our company (we have a special page of out company), asking the clients' questions and so on.

I deactivated last April and it’s the best thing I ever did! You won’t regret it

I deactivated mine about three years ago and I haven’t missed it.

It’s just a group of nosy, judgey or attention seeking people. Or worse, my older relations posting things from the BNP or anti-science.

I find it more rewarding to have friends in real life and to talk to them regularly.

I like tio ebcauae I can keep in touch with people without talking to them. [anti social]

and I love funny pictures of cats.

I de activated on Monday for similar reasons. I really found it was stressing me out. So much negativity constantly and realising more than half the people on there aren't any sort of real friend. I already feel lighter and find I'm being more productive

My ex called it “in your Facebook” - I’m on it but don’t use it and haven’t put my correct details on.
It’s really quite boring.

I left Facebook just over a year ago. I was finding I was getting annoyed with people and their hashtags, the bragging and falseness. I also had people using my private pictures, or tagging me in photos I didn't wan to share.
I now like the fact that when I meet up with friends and family I don't know what they have been doing. It's lovely looking at photos together rather than online.
I no longer think about how I would express a moment as a post on Facebook.
Very happy not to be on there.

I got rid of mine 4 years ago. Don't regret it. I got rid for many reasons.

The fake perfect lives these people show, winds me up. The only people they can fool are those they don't have regular contact with, so the validation and praise they seek must be incredibly hollow.

The endless cryptic dramatic posts of "OMG worst day ever!" And comments of "what's up? Hope you're ok hun!xxx" Followed with "Yh I've sent u a
msg, check ur inbox xxxx"

And

"Missing a certain someone"
Any posts with "you know who you are" in them.

The hypocrisy "My kids are my life!" Or "It's just me and the kids from now on" except you're out all weekend getting drunk, you leave your kids with whoever will have them and the little time you do spend with them is very abusive. In person you do nothing but moan about them.

I also realised how insincere people are when something goes really wrong in your life. No one is actually there for you. Your pain is a 5 minute entertainment to them.

It damages mental health in a subtle but real way.

I'm also fed up that so many groups etc are ran exclusively through FB. And to echo PP that irrelevant apps/sites want you to log in with FB.

Glad I went, but it's amazing that my friends keep trying to convince me to go back on.

I love my FB. Although I do have friends on it, most of them are 'rested' or 'unfollowed' because I want it to be a corona-free zone. I very rarely have trite memes and have never had MLM stuff. The posts I let thrrough are from gardening groups and the craft that I follow. Also stuff from a couple of national parks in the UK and US. I find it very relaxing.

I originally joined it as a way to store and share photos with family.

I have recently unfriended all work colleagues and acquaintances.

I find it useful currently to keep up to date with work related information as advice is constantly changing in the NHS.

I also use it a lot for SEN support groups as ds1 is autistic.

I don't "check in" or write status' like l used to - am a bit "past" doing that.

I’m on fb but I’m in a couple of groups for my activity - so I need access. Also for home schooling for DD on a group there, one of her exercise classes does live fb lessons. But I do also get bored of the inspirational posts, the pics of how wonderful my life is - I am still ‘friends’ with my ex but only to see what he posts about DD - I hate it and won’t put up pics of DD, I’ve asked him not to but he still puts up pics of her, and what a wonderful dad he is (I feel like commenting that a good dad would pay some maintenance! He pays zero, refuses to. But I don’t want to air my dirty linen in public)

I couldn't risk my mother seeing it.

I deleted Facebook and Instagram about 3 years ago. Never gone back.
My initial reason was that I thought it encourage false/lazy friendships, people knew about stuff in my life not because they engaged with me but because I plastered it on social media.

Only after did I realise how negative it was, how I would look for photo ops to post, try and come up with funny status’, compare my life to others. And I went through infertility and mothered day and first day of school posts were the absolute worst.

I do not miss them at all.

I don’t understand why anyone would want it. I hate anyone knowing my business.

I've never had it.

• I don't want to hand over my personal data to the Facebook corporation
• I don't want to put my personal data out there to be harvested by others
• I'm not interested in the minutiae of people's lives, other than those I know well enough to communicate with directly
• The amount of utter nonsense, drama, affectation and self-indulgence that Facebook seems to generate is something I find repellent.

Because it's full of cunts.

Hate the bastard thing.

I set up a Facebook account to monitor my children’s activity when they were young. When the youngest reached 13, I deactivated it. He barely used it and I’d stopped with the others to give them privacy. I never used it. I just was never interested.

I use it for work, which is annoying because I have a love hate relationship with it.
Since CV I’ve gone through and unfollowed everything/one that irritates me. As a result it takes me about 30 second to skim through my news feed.

It is so crap I came off but pop back on occasionally for the amusement. So many are airbrushing their photos so it looks nothing like them and have people telling them "you look gorgeous hun" they then say "thanks babes"

One woman was always posting about her lovely hubby, perfect family, she was having an affair.

Another friend is always posing how much money she's spent. "Where can I get a personalised no plate please"
"Guess how much all this shopping cost me"
"Just bought three outfits in different colours"
She has three children with a boyfriend in a minimum wage job. I dread to think where she gets her money, if indeed she isn't maxed to the hilt on credit cards.

I have an account but deleted the app about 2 years ago. It's full of shite. Memes, adverts and bloody couples tagging each other in posts despite being sat next to each other and perfectly capable of speaking in person instead of blasting it all over social media. I use instagram still but find it far less annoying than Facebook!

I've never had it, like most of the PP's I'm just not that interested in what other people's kids are doing or what they are having for dinner.

I always found it strange to be looking through someone’s photos randomly. I prefer to chat to my friends and meet people through real life. There is enough going on. I never felt like posting pictures of my kids to a big group of people- just why?