If you don't have facebook?

[Rayn]

Can I ask why? I have just deactivated my account for the first time in 12years.
For the first time ever I feel it is negatively affecting my mental health.
I am struggling at the moment like alot of others and fed up of seeing the same thing.
How wonderful people's children are home schooling, pictures of lovely walks. How perfect and how well they are coping.
Then on the other hand it's negative and repetitive. I appreciate alot of it will be Coronavirus but I seriously need a break.
Only just holding things together at home and feel like I am failing.

For those of you who have never used it then why not?
For those of you who did and no longer use it then why did you not go back.

Deactivated and removed the app from my phone. So easy just to click on FB to what's going on but sometimes seeing and knowing too much does not do me any good.

Thoughts?

Actually, the site I'm staying away from the most is this one. The competitive stay-at-home Top Trumps (we're allowed a fucking walk!), the made up rules (I know the rules, I've read the legislation and the villification of people who are just trying to get through this.. When posts appear on a thread of a parent asking advice on how to manage the lockdown with a SEN child saying "just stay the fuck at home", then I just.. lose all fucking hope.

Anyway.

The doom and the posturing on here is like nothing else I've seen on my Facebook. So many people on here don't have the first fucking clue what they're taking about and still see fit to judge, moan and lecture people who are just asking for advice.

Yeah anyway. Back to facebook.

Apologies for that, this site has been pissing me off (yes, I will leave, I'm off rn)

Went off it four years ago - never looked back. I don't have instagram or twitter either. All that self-promotion and duck-faced pictures. Like someone else said, I have real life friends and if I want to know what they're up to (or vice versa, there is F2F, email, phone for a direct communication with that person only). I don't like the performative aspect of it all.

I often want to say to someone use your eyes to look at x not your phone's camera and your internet interface.

Don't miss it.

I just remembered that I didn't even use my real name on it, hence I contacted family to stay in contact but no friends could find me anyway, thank goodness.

After a couple of months it was tedious, so by the 3rd month I'd got rid.

Even living in a foreign country was not enough to make me use faceache. That's what I've always thought if it, another layer to make your face ache.

Honestly? I used to have it. Got sick of people posting about how amazing their lives were which I knew some were untrue. In the end it made my life feel inadequate so I came off 5 years ago. Best thing I ever did

I’ve never done FB...I think Iv managed this long without it...in fact Iv only got WhatsApp and that’s for me to be in contact with family and close friends...never done any other social media....I don’t feel as I’d i have missed anything by remaining in the Dark Ages 😀

Because it's a massive load of shit that regularly made me angry and rarely made me happy.

I've never used twitter or had my own instagram, I do monitor my daughters shared instagram. Don't even have a pinterest account.

My girls have no other social media.
WhatsApp is private for family only. (is WhatsApp social media?)

I only joined facebook a few weeks ago, never fancied or saw the point of it. I deleted my account yesterday and am glad.

My teens think it's a bit naff and more for their grandparents' generation these days 🤷🏻‍♀️.

Never had it and never will. Just can't see the point.
I can't bear most people at the best of times but facebook really seems to bring out the worst in a lot of people.
I don't understand how people have so much spare time to waste on something so trivial.

I also hate that we are expected to be reliant on things like Facebook too. I've lost count of the things I can't subscribe to because I don't have a Facebook account and you MUST log in via Facebook despite it not having anything to bloody do with Facebook. No one seems bothered about who they are handing their data to.

It was OK for the first year or so before it exploded and got too commercial, I deleted my account 13 years ago.

I've never had it or Twitter, Instagram etc., and judging by the amount of trouble it seems to cause people, especially young people, I don't regret it! I keep in contact with the people I want to be in contact with and lack the gene which makes one want to 'share' the tedious minutiae of my life with others.

Don't have it, never have. I don't want to plaster my private life all over social media, I doubt anyone would be interested, and I don't want them to know. I also could not care less what anyone else is doing with their lives. Just not interested. I've never had any social media. I'm 30 and everyone thinks im a bit weird.

This.

www.ted.com/talks/carole_cadwalladr_facebook_s_role_in_brexit_and_the_threat_to_democracy?language=en

I just find it just doesn’t suit me. I am too private for it to be appealing, and it seems to bring out the most annoying tendencies of even the pleasantest of people.

I agree with @SomeHalfHumanCreatureThing though. Some of the reactions on this site to the current lockdown, while predictable, are just horrid; les tricoteuses are out in force.

I have never been on it and never will. My reasons are all the ones that have already been mentioned.
It controls people, it influences people not always for the best and it can destroy relationships.
I have 4 close friends in my life. I could phone any of them up day or night and I know 100% they would be there for me.
I don't need "likes" from them.

People who state they have hundreds of friends on FB are lying to themselves or deluded. Stay off it don't let FB rule your life.

For those of you who did and no longer use it then why did you not go back.

I liked it when it first came out primarily for photo sharing. Was never interested in checking in or updating my status or interested in others tbh. In real life I knew what was going on with my friends

I did love instagram but FB has fucked that up too now. I've started buying magazines again!

It's just such bollocks, drama, virtue signalling, people portraying fake lives.

I never had it on my phone, only on my laptop. Deactivated it about 5 years ago.

I deleted my account about 4 years ago - I saw it getting quite vicious - lots of petty aggressions being played out on it. Also old school mates clearly having breakdowns, publishing the intimate details of their divorces and so on.

I do have instagram and find it quite a positive space but mainly use it for work-related networks.

I joined bc I wanted to see my best friends posts and pics of her kids -we live in diff countries.
Found it to be a weird self congratulatory atmosphere. h

My friends' online personalities were annoying and not at all like they behaved in person.
Also found myself becoming a bit of snooper and didn't actually want to know or care about random people's lives.
In the end I left bc someone wrote a message publicly that was meant to be private. It was so inappropriate and humiliating for that person that I left that night. Was on for about 6 months.
Never wanted to rejoin

Thanks bananafish.

I've found this site a huge huge source of support in the last 10 years, but recently, even with the Corona board hidden, it's absolutely unbearable. It's worst case scenario, ALL the time. I don't see anything like that on FB/insta/Twitter. On those sites in mostly seeing a hell of a lot of positivity with a #stayathome tagged on the end.

I’ve deactivated mine for similar reasons.

Cannot stand seeing things about people dying from Coronavirus. We all know it’s happening, we are all scared, we do not need to be further scared when are mental health is already compromised.

I have really gone off some of the people I know lately. I know they are scared but the fact that they actively want to scare other people, I just find so selfish.

I keep seeing it on here and just think fu*k off!!!

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Got rid of it around 4 years ago and don't regret it. Once I got past the first month it was easy to not be tempted back.

Miss it sometimes but mumsnet is a form of social media too so I get my fix that way. In moderation though because I find it too much sometimes. Scrolling through endless threads for hours!