Am I or DP in the wrong?

[Guyonhere1]

So, Yesterday, my wife cancelled the sky sports subscription without consulting me. She also cancelled the BT sport subscription, which will be active by the end of April. I only found out today, when I couldn’t watch any of these channels.

I then confronted my wife as to why she had done this. She told me that there’s no sport to watch, so it’s a waste of money, but I told her she should have consulted me first. I still wanted to watch a few repeats on these channels.

AIBU, or is my wife in the wrong?

I do this with sky every year!

Say you'll rejoin. ONLY if they do you a deal

They will. It can be cheaper. Works every time.

It was very wrong of her to cancel without talking to you about it, I’d expect an apology and fir her to ask next time. Thoughtless at least, controlling at worst. It’s a basic rule in our house that you don’t do things that impact on others without asking.
That pile of junk you threw out? My class resources for my next project. That food you scoffed? I was planning on using that for tomorrow’s dinner for 4. That subscription you cancelled? I was looking forward to using it.

I'd congratulate her frugality if I were you
At no point were her actions anything other than foresight with a new situation (Covid) and as you admitted, not malicious so it doesn't matter that she didn't consult you.

You sound like a 2 year old I've got nothing to watch.

Why don't you start a new thread called
So my wife sensibly cancelled the sports channels, can anyone recommend a good series we could snuggle up to watch on Netflix?

@usercheeselover it’s the fact she never asked me. It’s like everything is her decision and never mine

How old are you?

Definitely ring them, we were able to pause ours and still have access to channels. I would also have been annoyed if the channels were cancelled without consultation with me!

She should of spoken to you about it, how rude.

@showmethegin I think he's about 22.

I'm betting she makes lots of family and house decisions such as what to buy, cook and eat every day, planning laundry and keeping everyone in clean clothes and also when all the bills are due, who to and how much.... when birthdays are and gifts arranged, medical appointments are booked....

What decisions are you responsible for?

@usercheeselover how can you make that assumption?

That’s one huge assumption to make there .. sexist much ?

because she demonstrated frugality and foresight... so yes I am assuming she is responsible for planning and organising

And you are responsible for the sulking. Otherwise you would have already called them to reinstate without a fuss and your wife would have said I'm really sorry I didn't think it would be a problem. Now, what shall we watch on Netflix together?

usercheeselover how can you make that assumption?

...because 'men' are incapable according to the majority of MN women, have no understanding of the 'mental load', etc. You didn't list all the things that you do actively do so you can't be doing anything!

The fact that it was something that was for 'you' means you only think of yourself, otherwise why else would you ask?

If he is about 22, he’s got time to look for a more respectful partner. Especially if this is how she usually behaves.

Why would you not cancel them now when the companis are offering it?
I think you missed the point. I would go mad if my partner cancelled any of my subscriptions without asking me. To me it would seem like only their opinion matters and stuff what I like! If it was discussed first and we had a conversation about it that would be different of course.

YANBU. That was very selfish of her; she should have consulted you first and floated the idea for you to see what you thought.

It would've taken her 2 minutes to mention it to you. Whether it was the right thing to do or not is irrelevant. She should have spoken to you.

You do know your account numbers for Sky and BT don't you?
She obviously does as she cancelled them........... which means her name needs to be on the account else they wouldn't have accepted it from her.....

Did she set up your sport account in the first place?

I asked my wife about this, and she said she didn’t know this was available. Now you have said this, I’m fuming with her

Why hadn’t you paused it yourself to save the money? It’s your thing after all! Why are you throwing money away on sky sports when there is the option to pause it. It was well publicised.

Why hadn’t you done that already? It’s easy to do?

Grow up pet. You sound like a child!

If this happened in my household, my Dp would have said 'did you cancel it, I was still watching the repeats on it', and I'd have said 'Oh sorry babe, I don't know'. He'd then get it back and nothing else would be said about it.

How much house admin do you do, really? Give her a break, it was a mistake. She was prob going about her day and suddenly though, oops I better cancel that as there's no sport at the moment, save us a few quid'. And that's it. Stop being so petty.

Medical appointments. Why do people always bring these up. Does everyone have poorly kids. Laundry, it's not like people are still using manglers.
As for the Op just ask her why, then discuss how you feel then sort it out between you.

we split the bill half each

But proportionallly having sports channels is the biggest cost of the subscription

Eg my SKY is £75 a month but the sports channels make up £35 of that - you should pay this and then half of the remainder assuming you watch other channels

I can understand why she's cancelled it

• "Sorry I DIDN'T know"

Yes @showmethegin same in my household. Complete non issue.

OP, the women on MN don't generally like men, so your responses may be a bit odd (and I can guarantee that some would be different if the tables were turned)

I think your wife was unreasonable. It's clearly something you enjoy, and decisions like that should be consulted first.

It really only takes 2 seconds to discuss it.

However I imagine she did it with the best intentions.

Just call sky back up