AIBU to think if you're healthy you should give up your delivery slots

[Sarah510]

Just thinking it's not really fair if you're healthy, and have a car, to use delivery slots from the supermarket. If you're healthy I think you should just go to the shop… It was different when we were all working and had no time etc etc, but most of us are wfh now and no reason we cant do a trip to the supermarket. Would help sick people and key workers etc by freeing up delivery spots.

@Sexnotgender

Surely if your daughter is in the shielding list then you're exactly the sort of family that need the slots! You don't want to be visiting the shop and risking taking it back home

There are many people who are not on the government list but need a delivery. For example mental health disorders.

You might be a carer for people on the government list and because they are under 18, not be able to get a slot.

There are lots of single parents who need a slot if they are ill and need to self isolate. As slots are generally 3 weeks time and you can't know if you're going to be ill, I do not begrudge people having this "insurance" policy.

Is there any proof that deliveries are dominated by the fit and healthy? Or is it the case that supermarkets have loads of new customers and can't match demand because of a lack of vans and drivers? Presumably a massive percentage of the people on the government list had deliveries already?

@1981.How does you taking a scarce and much in demand slot mean one less person in the shop?

@TiredSloth , Is there a charity linked to the condition your DD has? I think some are helping with delivery of food. My DS was on chemo a few years ago and I still follow Clic Sargent on Facebook and I'm sure I read somewhere that they can advise on getting delivery slots.

How many times is this going to be done on here - it's getting boring now.

I think every supermarket is now prioritising/reserving slots for the vulnerable, so whatever slots are left are for ANYONE who can get one.

I have multiple slots booked until the end of April and no, I am not giving them up. I booked ahead of time when all this started and have stayed up late to book slots. I pay for the service and I am not going to be made to feel guilty that I am using it. I have two young children and DH is a key worker, whilst we could go to the shops, if I can avoid it - I will.

YANBU unless people live in the sticks with no car/childcare, then they shouldn't be taking up the slots.

I'd love to be able to have an online delivery/click and collect purely for convenience, but feel strongly the slots should be purely for the most vulnerable. I'm a keyworker, but I'm healthy, have a car and able to go to the supermarket. I don't see it as an issue to have to go in person except the risk of catching corona...as ever a lot of people are just very entitled.

I’d hope so @namechangenumber2 but there’s talk of only those on some mythical government list that’s being sent to supermarkets getting slots. I can’t get a Sainsbury’s slot for love nor money. I’ve managed ok at Asda and Morrison’s.

This virtue signaling and venom directed at people having slots that someone else doesn’t think they should have boils my piss though.

@namechangenumber2 thank you. She has a single ventricle heart condition so is on a palliative care pathway. I do follow some charities on FB but have seen nothing about shopping delivery slots. At the moment my mum (who is vulnerable herself) has been leaving some essentials in my front garden but we really do need a slot soon!

I’m sorry @TiredSloth that sounds really difficult. I hope you get something sorted soon.

I don't have a car. I am a single mother of two primary school children currently on long(ish) term sick from my full time job for breast cancer (chemo surgery radiotherapy) - I am have been fully self isolating as advised and I cannot get a delivery slot for love nor money
I can see deliveries to many of the other residence on my cul de sac (most of whom are retired and the majority of whom have 2 cars in their driveway.

I have an asda delivery tomorrow but I am type 2 diabetic and am social isolating. I don't have a car either and don't have a supermarket within east walking distance.

I haven't seen any venomous posts @Sexnotgender. Just people pointing out that there are lots of vulnerable or in need people who can't get slots because those who have no particular circumstances are booking them.

I totally agree.
I have 2 people in this household in the very vulnerable group and yet cannot get a delivery slot so relying on others going to the supermarket and shopping for us.
Sadly there are some that are healthy or perhaps have already had the virus that could go out and so shopping..... but choose not to.

Then there are the stock pilers that caused mayhem …. although at the time hardly any admitted it now it appears to be a gloating fest about how much people have and how long they have been able to go without needed a supermarket … sad

As I post on every one of these; I am holding mine as there is no guarantee a person of greater need would get them. Also, I am a shopping volunteer so I get three people's shopping and mine is delivered. Cuts down my trips to the shops.

I think what you mean OP is that if you have no significant barriers to getting to the supermarket alone you should leave the delivery slots for others. In which case I totally agree- I have been going to the supermarket weekly to get a big shop for my family and a shop for my elderly neighbour. Would much rather leave the deliveries for others who need them more than me. If you are one of the lucky ones too then maybe think about asking around the neighbourhood to see if there is anyone else in need.

Every morning I trhoose a date and time
Apr 06 - 12
Apr 13 - 19
Apr 20 - 26
No slots available! Try another day and get the same messages...

So just how do people get the slots?
On here the other day a lady with a slot was saying she didn't want to give it up but really didn't need it.... so selfish - why?

OP you are YANBU but wasting your time. The amount of entitled people on here and in society is shocking. The supermarkets are not dealing with this properly and are looking to those that are able to think about others. Obviously not going to happen. The same reason that parks will be closed. Selfish. End of.

I simply can't be bothered to get a delivery slot when I'm in walking distance of two large supermarkets and several other small ones.

My next one will be coming on Wednesday, but after that I won't bother.

I do online shopping normally because it saves me a lot of bother, but what shows up is so variable these days that it's more of a PITA to find out what's coming than to just go to the shop and see.

People on the vulnerable list are already prioritised so the remaining slots are for everyone else.

But how are the supermarkets identifying the vulnerable @Tellmetruth4 ?

I have been trying to get a delivery slot for the past week either Tesco or Asda, and there is no way of telling them that I'm purchasing for my DM who is in a vulnerable group. She isn't on the internet, so can't book deliveries herself. It seems like an unsolvable Rubiks Cube

Some of the supermarkets are even refusing new accounts, so I was lucky to be able to register with Tesco and .Asda but it's useless if I can get the stuff delivered!

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I hope that with the "most vulnerable" list prepared by the gov and issued to supermarkets, that anyone not on that list won't be able to get slots. The list has only just been circulated, so too early for supermarkets to process it yet, but I hope it comes in during the next few weeks.

If only the "most vulnerable" were able to get slots that would render an awful lot of disabled people who are vulnerable but don't make the list, unable to get any shopping. Do you not understand there are people who are physically unable to go shopping? Visually impaired people are also struggling at the moment. Yet they get no priority whatsoever. Also Sainsbury's and Iceland are already focusing on the elderly and the most vulnerable. It's impossible to get a Sainsburys slot if you aren't on the list.
Parents of children with autism and learning disabilities won't be on the list either, they might still need a delivery slot though.
It must be nice to live in MNs middle class bubble where everyone has a car and is financially able to stock up with a couple of weeks worth of food at a time. Meanwhile where I live most people live week to week, and living at the top of a giant hill means no-one would be doing that anyway without a car. We have one Asda delivery slot which was booked just before lockdown started, no way I'm giving it up.

Yes definitely, every single week in my clinic or out on home visits I'm getting desperate calls from patients who literally have no food and nobody to get them any food.
People who cannot go out due to having cancer, being totally housebound etc.
I try and arrange NHS volunteers as much as possible but there are not enough volunteers for people.
I find for most of my patients shopping slots aren't much good anyway because the neediest people don't have computers or relatives to do online shopping for them. They need more volunteers.
However there are hundreds more who do need the slots, people with cancer, on immunosuppressant drugs and other extremely vulnerable people who do have computers but zero slots even after they have registered on the government vulnerable people website so yes those of us who are fit and well should give them up unless they live three miles away from the nearest shop and don't drive.
I've visited people who have literally no food at home and haven't eaten for three days.
I'm a clinician and it isn't my job (as in I have an extremely high caseload and no time to do it all in) to spend half the day shopping for people and organising shopping but that's what I've had to do in some cases.
I think we should all be a bit less selfish where possible.

@Amotherof6

I feel your pain! Exactly the same experience for me.

I am a single mother of two primary school children currently on long(ish) term sick from my full time job for breast cancer (chemo surgery radiotherapy) - I am have been fully self isolating as advised and I cannot get a delivery slot for love nor money

Have to registered on the government website as highly vulnerable. It seems to me that a lot of cancer centres have been slow to identify patients and not all GPS seem to have done it and so people haven't received the letter.

If you have not been identified then Call the centre treating you and get them to put you onto the vulnerable list and at the same time register yourself on the government website.

You can then contact the supermarkets for delivery- ocado have a form, not sure what the others are doing- Morrisons dont seem to have anything but sainsbury's are now supporting my father after I did this last week.

The criteria include:
People with specific cancers:
people with cancer who are undergoing active chemotherapy

I naively thought the system would identify people but have realised from family this hasn't happened and I have had to get them all added manually- actively in chemo but not been identified.

I have been trying to get a delivery slot for the past week either Tesco or Asda, and there is no way of telling them that I'm purchasing for my DM who is in a vulnerable group. She isn't on the internet, so can't book deliveries herself. It seems like an unsolvable Rubiks Cube

Ocado have a form online and sainsburys are prioritising teh vulnerable- they seem to be cross checking to identify themselves pro-actively