Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

AIBU to think if you're healthy you should give up your delivery slots

460 replies

Sarah510 · 06/04/2020 11:09

Just thinking it's not really fair if you're healthy, and have a car, to use delivery slots from the supermarket. If you're healthy I think you should just go to the shop… It was different when we were all working and had no time etc etc, but most of us are wfh now and no reason we cant do a trip to the supermarket. Would help sick people and key workers etc by freeing up delivery spots.

OP posts:
Dylaninthemovies1 · 06/04/2020 11:52

I’ve got a slot. I tried and tried to get click and collect but couldn’t. So grabbed a slot.

If it was guaranteed it would go to a vulnerable person I would give it up. But there is no guarantee

bluebluezoo · 06/04/2020 11:53

The most selfish ones are those who have multiple delivery slots booked in advance

Really?

I have two booked, two weeks apart. I’d book a regular two week delivery if I could. Booking in advance means i know what is likely to be in stock and therefore minimises trips out.

Most online deliveries don’t allow you to book more than once weekly at the minute. I’m doing every two weeks so a slot frees up for someone else...

emmaluggs · 06/04/2020 11:54

I’m healthy and my partner works from home all the time even prior to COVID-19 I also have 2 young children who I will not take to the supermarket with me. Now the supermarkets are limited to the opening hours I can’t get there when they actually have stock. But when I do shop online, I’m shopping for both our parents and delivering to their doorstep so they don’t have to go out at all. 1 set of parents doesn’t even have the internet to order an online order and are classed as vulnerable. I think most people are being sensible in the current environment and ordering for multiple people etc.

Dylaninthemovies1 · 06/04/2020 11:54

And another thing, now that many of us are WFH, it doesn’t mean that our lives have suddenly gotten easier. It’s a fucking pain in the arse working and looking after a kid. Coupled with the things that made working parents life easier being taken away. My family who have retired or been furloughed seem to think we have all the ducking time in the world now that we WFH

Star81 · 06/04/2020 11:54

We are a family of 5 who are all now home full time therefore going through much more food than usual.

I had some delivery’s pre booked as this is the usual way I shop weekly and have done for years. What we did was share these with 2 other families and popped what they ordered on their doorsteps and they paid my bu bank transfer.

Now these have finished I have click and collects booked weekly for next 3 weeks which I will be keeping as I am sick of people online locally talking about how terrible it is people having a trolley of food. Well, if I went weekly to the supermarket I would be one of those people as I shop weekly (top up of bread and milk usually) and for 5 people so funnily enough a small basket just won’t cut it. I don’t want to be berated online for following the guidelines by doing one essential trip a week. You literally can’t win just now.

Ninjamilo · 06/04/2020 11:57

I’m keeping mine.

My mum lives 3 doors down and is shielding, and my brother lives opposite who is shielding. Neither have been able to get their vulnerable customer slot with Sainsburys, so I will order as much as I can online for them and us. I can’t do 3 households shopping in a supermarket trip

tactum · 06/04/2020 11:58

I just released a slot and then looked to see if it was available and it didn't appear. I think the supermarkets are absorbing cancelled slots as they're overworked. So it looks like my slot won't be going to someone else

TradeMission · 06/04/2020 11:58

What is classed as healthy though? I’m in my 60’s and have severe asthma. The medicine I take means I’m immunosuppressed - but not severe enough to be on the govt shielding list.
Should I give up my slot?

Stefoscope · 06/04/2020 11:58

@Standrewsschool I'm with Morrisons. If they say to only book slots if you're on the vulnerable list then of course I'll stick to that.

Original poster
Sarah510 · 06/04/2020 11:59

I just think it's pretty selfish to keep a slot when you're fit and healthy. People have lots of valid reasons to use delivery, but some friends are really pissing me off, determined to get their delivery slots when they are well able to go to the supermarket. I'm a single parent too and have to bring ds with me. Yeah it's just people really - some selfish, some not.

OP posts:
Sunshineafterrain24 · 06/04/2020 12:00

There should be a questionaire that tells them your circumstances, and then they decide if you are high priority or not.
I'd happily give evidence of any letters with my child's disability/ health conditions and proof that I'm a single parent etc.

Likefootball · 06/04/2020 12:00

Is there any sense in cancelling your slot and going out if you don't need to ?
If everyone had their food delivered would this not reduce the chances of infection ?

Judystilldreamsofhorses · 06/04/2020 12:01

We have always had a fortnightly delivery (no car) but can’t get one now. Equally, my mother and her husband are both in their 70s, mum immunocompromised, and they can’t get a slot. I don’t know who is getting the slots!

MonaLisaDoesntSmile · 06/04/2020 12:03

Healthy people not in the increased risk groups are also dying. What if you have underlying health problems you don't know? Would you be happy to support their families OP if something happens to them?

I kind of get your point, but I am also fed up with shaming people who are doing nothing wrong (by not trying to go out and staying at home to minimise the risk).

Wannabangbang · 06/04/2020 12:04

I'm a single parent and my nearest supermarket is 2 miles away, i have 5 children. I can't possibly carry enough food for us to use for more than a day or so as i don't drive so no i won't give up my slot. Im in my 30s and even healthy 30yos are dying of this. I'm not risking my health and that of my childrens to walk 2 miles to tesco, get public transport or a taxi which is very risky and bring coronavirus into my home, end up dead and my kids motherless. Sorry but not every thing is clear cut.

I also need to provide food to my mother whos in an at risk group but hasn't been identified. She is severe asthmastic and has had previous phneumonia. I need to deliver supplies to her from my slotted shop aswell.

WeAllHaveWings · 06/04/2020 12:04

The poor sods who have paid for their slots in advance are the ones keeping supermarket online delivery systems viable and useable.

Tesco sent an email out to say they have put delivery saver subscriptions on hold as there are no slots available. Hopefully other supermarkets will do similar.

MonaLisaDoesntSmile · 06/04/2020 12:06

@tactum the slots are gone within seconds, even if you cancel yours, claimed not by supermarkets but by people who refresh pages every 30 seconds. I tried to get one yesterday on Amazon and literally within 15 seconds all slots were gone before I managed to secure one. The demand where I live is mental, you have to be very lucky to get one.

Chillicheese123 · 06/04/2020 12:07

I actually agree with you, and I am happy to walk to my nearest Sainsburys Local to shop for the week, taking a wheely suitcase. This frees up delivery slots and I also don’t need to drive risking crashing etc.

HOWEVER I would like to add that this comes with the challenge of being ‘spotted’ or ‘called out’ .

I am healthy and WFM as are others in my household.

‘Why are you out shopping, when you could do it online!’
‘People walking about everywhere is disgraceful STAY AT HOME’
‘You don’t need to go out once or twice a week to the shop, do it online and get enough in to last you!’

So you REALLY can’t win.

vanillandhoney · 06/04/2020 12:10

No, I disagree. There are plenty of reasons people might need a delivery slot.

  • still working long hours out of the home, and can't get to a shop now they've slashed their opening hours.
  • can't drive, so have no way of getting things back.
  • being a single parent with small children at home.
  • having a child with additional needs such as autism, which don't necessarily make you more vulnerable, but which could cause problems going into shops.

I'm sure there are more, too.

wibblewobblejiggle · 06/04/2020 12:10

No.
I don’t want CV. I don’t want my children to get CV.
I minimise the risk of this by getting food delivered if possible.

And yes. All furloughed. Have a car. None at risk.

I will continue to use the deliveries if I can get them.

alloutoffucks · 06/04/2020 12:10

Many of us who are in the shielded group still can't get a delivery slot.

GrolliffetheDragon · 06/04/2020 12:11

DH is vulnerable, I don't drive. I've been checking for available deliveries everyday and grabbing one if it comes up. It's a worry as while I could walk to the nearest small shop, I'd have to go more than once a week increasing the chances I'll catch it and pass it on to DH. It's also nigh on impossible for DH to self-isolate within our home as we have a 6 year old and I'm already running myself ragged trying to do everything so we can at least keep contact with DH down to a minimum.

Carbosug · 06/04/2020 12:11

Some of the explanations on here make sense.
Some sound utterly selfish.

Also using the excuse that the less people that go to the super doesn't make sense. There are only so many delivery slots to go around. If you take one when you're ot on part4neex you're making it more likely that an elderly or vulnerable person will have to physically go to the shops.

Crackerofdoom · 06/04/2020 12:12

OP,
If you had asked "If people had a safe, viable alternative and it was guaranteed to be given to someone in real need, would they be willing to give up their delivery slot"

Then most people would agree with you.

The problem with 99% of the threads on MN re. CV at the moment is people trying to prescribe what everybody else should be doing. There are hundreds of reasons why a healthy person needs a delivery slot and it is this obsession with judging and questioning what everyone else is doing which is going to lead to the biggest problems.

Nobody collects data on the people using delivery slots so it may be that 99% of people have a very good reason for using them.

So much energy is being used being angry at each other and it is not going to help at all.

flumposie · 06/04/2020 12:12

Don't drive. Key worker. Single parent. Have had a tesco delivery every Monday evening for the last 11 or more years for the above reasons. Having to stay up until Midnight to attempt to get a slot. Failed last night so trying again until I can get one again.

Swipe left for the next trending thread