Would you confess your cake had made the hole? Please be honest!

[CakeHoleinRoof]

Name changed for this as It's extremely outing! because It's bizarre, mainly Pom bears, Mexican House Thief, Penis Beaker etc.

So I currently live with my ex partner. This is recent-I moved back in with him to save money in order to buy a house (obviously I can't do that for now ).

We get on okay, but he was a terrible partner when I was with him.
Heavy drink problem (which he managed to keep secret for far too long!), lies, unable to manage finances, a whole barrage of dishonesty about his circumstances. It was horrible, so many tears and sleepless nights on my part as I'd really thought he was for me before then, but it was years ago and I have grown up a lot now.

This definitely bears some relevance to how I treat him now though. I don't have much respect for him admittedly as it took me a long time to rebuild my life when we broke up some years ago. I'm not horrible to him or anything but I am not overly nice. Had I done this to anyone else I'd have been mortified, ad definitely confessed and paid for damages.

We both own the house together.

Some time ago I was baking a cake. I didn't realise the flour had gone off, so the cake was inedible. I decided to chuck it out for the birds.

Amongst other twatty things my ex had done, he built a HUGE outhouse/outbuilding in the garden. I'd previously had the garden lovely albeit small and he built this thing which takes up about 90% of the garden. It's massive. I decided to chuck the cake on top of it.

But it broke the (corrugated plastic) roof of the structure. It made a hole in it.

This was a month or so ago and he has only just noticed. He came into my room this morning holding a hammer and said 'Whose is this hammer?!' I said I don't know, not mine? And he said he thought someone had thrown it into the garden and this is what has broken the roof. He wants to report it to the police as well.

He is not overly upset about it, and has fixed the hole now.

I kind of want to confess because I don't want him wasting police time.

I kind of don't though.

Would you? Honestly?

YANBU -Don't confess, no point and he's a knobhead anyway
YABU-Confess, It's the correct thing to do.

I'd let sleeping dogs lie

• and he sounds a boozy old dog

So you're on the mortgage..... but do you actually own it? Were you put on the deeds?

Yes four I'm on the deeds for the house.

Well, in case anyone wants to know, he has decided not to report it to the police so that's one good thing! :)

Glad he's not wasting police time! Hope you can part ways with him as soon as possible!

sharona I keep annoying myself by looking at houses I know I can't think about yet!

I have to ask though - what's the end plan? Will he ever buy you out? Will he ever remortgage in his own? Or are you tied to it till one of dies..?

Dame since I moved out some years ago, I've continued to pay my half the mortgage and not thought much of it. It was his house for a long time before I came along, we didn't buy it together, I feel it would seem unfair of me to make him buy me out because I never paid a deposit or anything.

Having said that, had he not put me on the mortgage he would have probably lost the house altogether when he lost his job, plus I got him a much better mortgage deal, so he hasn't done badly out of me being on the mortgage.

You're a very generous person - shame about the baking

I don't think a cake baked with even the most off flour would cause that sort of damage, what on earth did you do to make it so hard.

Am I the only one worried about the effect on the OP local bird population?

Poor things, they'll all be plummeting from the sky if they eat that cake.

Bloody hell I am in awe of your cake making skills OP. Seriously? It made a hole in corrugated plastic?

pigsDo It wasn't hard! It was gooey and sticky and heavy. Plus, I had to lob it onto it from an upstairs window.
along yes. It did. He hasn't mentioned it since.

I must say though, I sometimes feel I'm being mean over this, & then I remember that it was not long ago that he had been to the loo and 'missed'. I went to the loo in the middle of the night, didn't turn the light on and sat on his poo that was on the seat .

OMG op!! I really wish I hadn't read that.

Wtf

Hahahaha i would never tell him 🤪

I'm in absolute tears reading this thread. Wtf was in the cake? Concrete?

Never mention cakegate again

Romance it was a big sticky gooey thing. My cakes are always a bit on the heavy side lol

Cambio I wish it hadn't have happened.

And again, I'm anxious as hell and these are difficult times, if I can make people laugh then I'm very glad I asked this question lol

Escapeyes.it was white flour but had flecks of brown in it

White flour doesn't develop brown flecks just because it's past its use by date. The brown flecks are either mouse droppings or weevils or other infestation.

Don't confess. I'd just casually say to him it's been like that for a month, to discourage him from reporting it.

I have read this story before, on MN. Anyone else remember it?

it was a big sticky gooey thing.

I legit thought you were describing the unfortunate poo incident here...

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