AIBU? Circumcision?

[Poppygirl96]

Me and my ex have recently split up and we have a 5 month old son. He told me when I was pregnant that he wanted to get our son circumcised due to his religion and that it was really important to him. I was heavily pregnant tired and not really thinking much about it so I blindly agreed. However I have been thinking about it a lot and really don’t want our son to get unnecessarily cut even if it is for religious reasons.

My ex says it’s also to keep him clean but I don’t see the point. We haven’t found anyone to do the surgery as our son was prem so we couldn’t and now there’s COVID-19 so we can’t go now. If I bring it up and go against him, I know my ex will be pissed and it will cause a huge argument especially as it’s so important to him, his mother and his religion.

I don’t want to ruin co-parenting with him and cause issues so I’m not sure what to do/say. AIBU in saying I don’t want to go ahead with it?

I had a lot of pressure from my secular Jewish mother to circumcised my son.
Told her to fuck right off.

Stick yo your gums.

It sounds as though you needed to be taught how to wash yourself properly. Your wife is probably lying, as it’d be devastating to tell you the truth, that you now have a butchered dick.

It's not necessary ergo it should be a matter of choice. People who think this is ok to inflict on babies are wankers.

Frankly, if the father wanted to raise a religiously observant family, he should have married a Jewish girl, Muslim girl, or whatever. This is why interfaith relationships tend to not be so positive for the continuation of a religion.

Frankly the ‘increasing sensitivity’ argument is bollocks. Ask any grown man who has been circumcised as an adult and therefore knows the difference.

Hi OP, please don't do this. I did this to my son for religious reasons and justified by the it's healthier and cleaner approach. Biggest regret of my life. He can do it when he's older if he chooses to as an adult. It's his body. My faith is Islam and that is permitted I appreciate others may have different interpretations this is mine. I would say at 5 months he is too big and will thrash about and managing it is a nightmare. It was the worst week of my life despite it being don't professionally by a highly experienced Rabbi. Yes we are Muslim but went with a Rabbi, separate story, we see it as no issue.

If you do go ahead, go and ask them how they will keep him still. Its a board they get tied to with their legs wide open and they scream and cry so much.y husband fainted and genuinely we are both scarred by it.

Your his mum, please stand up for you baby. IMade a huge mistake and regret it every day. Despite my son having no memory or issues with his privates it the mental scarring for us we can't get over. Let him decide what to do with his body. My family are moving towards this approach the boys get it done medically as teenagers or older.

Yes you can throw around the facist/anti religious name calling, it makes no odds. It should be made illegal and one day it will be, its becoming more and more spoken about and disapproved of, people are able to see it for what it is, which is mutilation, abuse.

Parents dont have 'rights' over their children they have responsibilities.

Men should have the right to choose when they are old enough to make their own balanced decision, and to give consent. No one should have the right to inflict unnecessary surgery on another.

Yeah, nobody believes you've actually convinced a real woman to go anywhere near you mate 😂

Your poor wife. You really are sick.

My underwear before circumcision and after I can tell you 100% is cleaner (much cleaner)

Perhaps you should have washed it properly before. And FWIW my uncircumcised ex was getting almost daily blowjobs.

Parents do not have the right to have healthy bits of son chopped off their dc. Or at least they shouldn't.

Vaccinations are totally different. They stop dc getting serious illnesses.

Cutting bits off a baby’s genitals is foul. It’s not just ‘a bit of skin’, the foreskin contains very, very sensitive zones and yes, it does affect sensitivity when they’re adults. It also affects partners. Watch a few videos and see what it involves. The screams are horrific.

Here’s some info, including busting myths:

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How messed up does someone have to be to boast publicly that they never learned how to keep their own genitals clean until they had bits cut off.

Imagine his poor partner having to put up with debris and smegma because he never worked out how to wash.

Not in this country, its about 8% and decreasing year on year as people start seeing sense and not wanting to physically abuse their children